my advice would be to go, see what you see, hear what you hear, think what you think about the whole thing. then let us know what you think. and be assured that not one person on this thread who has advised you to partake has ever partaken and it would be considered rude to do so. and it wouldn't cause nearly the buzz that people seem to think, because you are not a witness and no one would take you seriously even if you floated in on a cloud with a chorus of angels singing your praises. this attitude isn't directed at outsiders only. in maybe 25 or 30 memorials i've never seen anyone partake, but if they did, and they were jw they would be considered some kind of crazy person unless they were from new york and were at least 85 years old. so go, enjoy if possible, and please let us know your thoughts.
j2s