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  Advice on children

  by Apostating in

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  my ex-wife got married in december last year.

  so our visting arrangement with my children has changed.

  there was a misunderstanding in our visiting arrangment, we agreed on that they would spend the weekends (once in two weeks) with me they would stay until sunday.

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  First, get your attorney. Second, is the agreement in writing? If so, then you should have the children unless something terrible happens and you can't take care of them. Third, have activities planned with your children so it's impossible for her to pick them up.

  And finally, show your ex-wife your concerns about how the the imperfect men inside the WTS who hide pedophiles who are also imperfect men, the incidents that have occurred. In particular, I am thinking about the many pedophiles that attached themselves to single, JW women because of the children. I am also thinking of the many JWs who molested kids during "rides" when their parents were not there. Show her newspaper and court reports. Silentlambs and watchtowerdocuments. will make it quicker research for you. Don't bash her religion, but just set it very clear that you have legitimate concerns about the children being with any other JW, but her.
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  Does Anyone Feel the Ministerial School Helped Them?

  by Band on the Run in

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  as a born-in, i was eager to join the ministry school.

  my cousins were also born-in but lived in different states.

  there was keen competition to see who could do mature things, such as baptism (my mom said when i was 35) and ministry school.

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  "The whole sister not instructing garbage annoyed me. The hokey conversation with a fake householder was so fake, even by WT fake standards."

  Ditto.
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  I Am Home Today With A Lousy Back Ache

  by minimus in

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  2. friends

  my lower back went out again.

  typically, once every 9 months, i get a terrible spasm that can last for days.

  right now, i am icing it but i am so sore!

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  I hurt my back a while ago. i had to do everything for it, as i needed it fixed fast. I could not bend over to pick up a pencil without shooting pain going over my hip. I read that it could be a slipped disk or a pulled butt.

  I used Salonpas patches. You can't take any aspirin, blood thinners, etc. It has that in the patch. Only use the recommended patch number, or you'll get too much pain relief.

  I slept in my recliner for two nights. My PT neighbor told me to do this. It helped wonders.

  I did alot of stretching. Yoga. Cat, cobra, twists. Stretching of the spine. As much as I could, and careful not to overdo it. Google yoga for back pain.

  Espom salt baths. Heating pad. I know, ice is what they say. But, I really wanted heat. Heat felt good.

  In two days, I was 90% better.
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  Born-in memories, etc this is my first post, guys ;-)

  by ThunderStruck52 in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  so i have decided to jump in and for the first time and share some of my random memories that seem to have been floating around my mind more and more lately.

  mostly if all the weird anxiety i experience from time to time is related to it.

  i guess that would be a different topic to post!.

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  Welcome. Love your name. One of my favorite songs!

  Skeeter
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  I am new here and had so many laughs for the first time in years. It took me a long time to find the courage to sign up. Thank you for existing

  by umbertoecho in

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  Welcome. I'm sure you think my name is funny too.

  Skeeter
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  15-year old JW girl runaway

  by satinka in

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  here is what is happening in british columbia canada:.

  http://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/british-columbia/chilliwack-family-blames-rcmp-for-failing-to-return-their-daughter-1.2501557.

  chilliwack family blames rcmp for failing to return their daughter15-year-old jehovah's witness follower ran away from home after dispute with mother over religioncbc news posted: jan 17, 2014 5:20 pm pt last updated: jan 17, 2014 8:37 pm pt.

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  My bet, is that there is something more going on than just the JWs. Watchtower literature does not encourage underaged to leave their parents, even if they are not JWs.

  My first reaction is I wonder if there is a JW man who is "smitten" with her. Somehow, he is enouraging her to run away from her parents (with him). There are JW pedophiles, duh...

  My second reaction is that this teenager is a little offbalanced. SHe is revolting against her parents, and the JW "talk" against goats (those opposed to the JWs) has gotten to her head? I knew many JWs who took what the Society said to the extreme, and not in moderation or with thought on how to apply it to their circumstances. She seems to be idealistic, and this is what is probably driving her to the JWs and against her parents.

  Her parents need a lot of help. If they are reading this, start with a call to Steve Hassan.

  Skeeter
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  hello!

  by gamergirl in

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  glad to be a new member and find others with similarities of background.

  some background info on me: my dad became jw when i was young, so i spent maybe a third of my life in the religion.

  although i respect everyone's beliefs, i personally knew many genuinely selfless people in my congregation, but the way i was raised, now that i am an adult i am realizing was very sheltered and unrealistic.

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  Welcome. I also have a stunted relationship with my JW dad. Part JW to blame.
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  Ok... so Mom did the robotic JW thing and people in my home country know about me...

  by ILoveTTATT in

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  so.... i went out all day today... just wanted to get away from the sh!tstorm that was created yesterday.

  anyways... i come home like an hour ago, and my dad told me that mom called my aunties in central america and told them stuff about me, and also she told the elders of her hall... the elders want to meet with me, but i think that it will be at my house.

  i am curious about your ideas about:.

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  I thought my "reasonable" youngerish (50's) JW relatives would listen to me. Nope. They got hostile and defended the WTS. People have to come to their own understanding on this matter. Like you, I had dreams of opening their eyes to this cult. In my instance, it backfired becuase they are all secretly very jealous of me and used my "coming out" as a reason to put Skeeter down. I completed university and have a career, married, kids. They didn't. JW parents preached heavily against marraige, and they bought the whole "let this system go by the wayside, and the next life will be perfect." I am living the "sinning" lifestyle and am happy, while they are miserable JWs. I'm not trying to be above them in this post. I feel very sad for them, but there is no helping them without them wanting to help themselve.s

  I'd just say to the others, "I write you becuase I admire your level headedness and practicality in all things, including the Truth. Through my personal study hour each week, I have developed differences in the fundamental teachings of the governing body, both past & present. I'm not going to approach you with my concerns. However, I know that many remain in the Truth and tout alignment with the Governing Body for fear of being disfellowshipped and losing their family ties. If you have differences, I will never shun you if you want to talk with me about them. I remain open minded, and will not divulge anything you tell me to others. Not even under the guise of theocratic lying."
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  Super Tasty Kool Aid Flavored WT Study this Weekend!

  by LostGeneration in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  would love to hear comments on what is being said on the paragraph which states that if the wt demands you drink the kool aid, you should do it - even if you don't understand why!.

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  look forward to any replies..

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  Ok... so Mom did the robotic JW thing and people in my home country know about me...

  by ILoveTTATT in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  so.... i went out all day today... just wanted to get away from the sh!tstorm that was created yesterday.

  anyways... i come home like an hour ago, and my dad told me that mom called my aunties in central america and told them stuff about me, and also she told the elders of her hall... the elders want to meet with me, but i think that it will be at my house.

  i am curious about your ideas about:.

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  Breathe? Right now, concentrate on staying calm through all of this. Your family is going hysterical. That's to be expected. They believe in all of this, and all of a sudden (to them) you don't. So, this is like her heart has been torn out. Many women talk to relieve stress. They are communcators, and this is big news to her and she needs help processing the information, verifying her correct JW position, etc. So, she's going to reach out to other JWs, who are going to say encouraging things to her. Let her go through this emotional time. She may calm down in a few days or weeks. Until she's calm, you can't even begin to reason with her. Some JWs, you can never reason on JW things.

  Right now, you need to process things with her. Block the elders out of your life at this time. Tell the elders that you are having mental health anguish right now. The elders will likely relay this to your mom, which will give her something more tangible to worry about. And, an excuse to get back on the phone with all those relatives for a plausible, save-face excuse for your behavior. After all, she probably knows more than a few JWs with mental health anguish.

  Don't do mass e-mails. Emails are terrible at relaying most of your communcation methods. Tone is lost in an e-mail. Your voice is lost in an e-mail. And, the ability to see/respond with what others think.

  Skeeter