Nosferatu,
"After all, if she rejects you, what's the worst that could happen? She's not going to tell the entire world that you're a loser because you asked her out. She's only a human being who happens to be attractive. That's all she is.
Act on your impulse to ask a woman out. If you don't, you'll waste your time and energy thinking about how you should've done this, or said that, and spin yourself into a miserable mood.
Go ask this woman out and get your rejection done and over with. You'll feel better knowing you had the balls to do it. The more you do it, the easier it becomes."
Thanks for putting it into perpective for me and you made me laugh!!
I've asked her out once, I got a grudging yes, which I took as a polite rejection. So i think I've done as much as I can for now. If she has a change of heart great otherwise there is this nice little number in the supermarket that I might try and hit it off with!!!
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Girls help!!! What signs when a woman is interested in a guy?
by Spectrum ingenerally i find that if a girl is interested in me she makes it quite obvious by her actions and words.
i'm fine with this.
however there are times when a i really can't tell and this is the problem i'm grappling with at the moment.
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Girls help!!! What signs when a woman is interested in a guy?
by Spectrum ingenerally i find that if a girl is interested in me she makes it quite obvious by her actions and words.
i'm fine with this.
however there are times when a i really can't tell and this is the problem i'm grappling with at the moment.
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Garbriela,
I think that there is something in what you are saying. Very soon after we met (a matter of days) we were talking about travel and I mentioned a lovely place I had been to with my
ex-girlfriend, I noticed she flinched, to me though that was a ten year old story but unfortunately she wasn't to know that, and it didn't occur to me until later that to her this could have been a two week old story, still I was really surprised by her reaction at the time.
Another time she asked me where I got some particular music I was listening to and I said from a previous girl that lived in the houseshare, again she flinched, and again it took me by surprise.
Do you think that this is enough to mess it all up for me considering I'd shown her a lot of interest? Are girls this sensitive? I mean we all have a history.
I have pulled back already and if she is interested she'll have to do some work to show me.
I have complemented girls I've like in the past that weren't interested but knew i was intereted in them and all I got was eye roll. I really hate it when they do that!! -
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If you had to choose a God who would it be?
by Spectrum inwhich of the myriads of gods would you take your chances with if you had to and why?
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i choose christ because he preaches peace, love and understanding but only as long as he doesn't come as a package with jehovah.
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Which of the myriads of gods would you take your chances with if you had to and why?
I choose Christ because he preaches peace, love and understanding but only as long as he doesn't come as a package with Jehovah. -
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Animals didn't sin so why do they kill each other?
by Spectrum inhow does a benevolent and loving god explain away his ecological system whose very persistence relies on the killing and suffering of animals that have fear and pain receptors and know when they are about to get it?
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can the personilaty attributes religions have given this god be reconciled with his creation?
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Grouper,
"WTF did the animals do to inherit disease and isn't amazing that many of the diseases they suffer from have a human counterpart."
That is an excellent point. The animals didn't sin so how on earth did Adam's disease causing sin transfer itself onto these innocent ignorant animals, after all the angels didn't become diseased (sinful) by default why should animals. It makes the bible sound inconsistant and foolish. -
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What First Pops Up Into Your Mind When You Hear "Jehovah's Witnesses"???
by minimus innow, i think "stupid".
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All the fun and success I could have had but didn't. Waste of time
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Animals didn't sin so why do they kill each other?
by Spectrum inhow does a benevolent and loving god explain away his ecological system whose very persistence relies on the killing and suffering of animals that have fear and pain receptors and know when they are about to get it?
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can the personilaty attributes religions have given this god be reconciled with his creation?
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It seems we have no biblical answers that can satisfy the questions I posed.
As I don't believe in evolution without at least the intervention of a creator and I don't believe in the creator of any religious book then I have to believe that the creator intended this type of suffering. Maybe it is not evil or bad as these are human constructs. Maybe that's the whole explanation. -
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Animals didn't sin so why do they kill each other?
by Spectrum inhow does a benevolent and loving god explain away his ecological system whose very persistence relies on the killing and suffering of animals that have fear and pain receptors and know when they are about to get it?
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can the personilaty attributes religions have given this god be reconciled with his creation?
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How does a benevolent and loving God explain away his ecological system whose very persistence relies on the killing and suffering of animals that have fear and pain receptors and know when they are about to get it?
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What do you think about this?
by serendipity ini talked to my 'ex' the other day and he "enlightened" me.
he said he was going out with a 'plain jane' and they were deciding which restaurant to go to.
he mentioned he wanted a good steak, so she recommended del frisco's, which is a pricey steakhouse.
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I'll spend money on a girl according to how much she appreciates the gesture and how much respect she has for me.
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Dansk (Ian) --- Not doing as well as could be hoped
by Alleymom inhi, friends ---.
just a note to let you know ian has had a setback.
there is a problem with his kidneys and he had to have a catheter inserted.
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Girls help!!! What signs when a woman is interested in a guy?
by Spectrum ingenerally i find that if a girl is interested in me she makes it quite obvious by her actions and words.
i'm fine with this.
however there are times when a i really can't tell and this is the problem i'm grappling with at the moment.
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DantheMan,
"Take it from a guy who has learned the hard way - if it ain't obvious, it ain't there."
I think I'll have to go with this. If she is interested and she's making it this hard then I can't be blamed for pulling back, which is what I'm going to do. I think I've enough good feedback here to make this decision. When I compare her actions to other girls I've lived with it seems obvious she not interested, so I'll assume that she isn't and move on.
Ballistic
" For example you get involved emotionally and then split up and she brings some fella home... could be awkward."
That would be really hard to take. That's why I've decided to pull back and call it a day with her.
If she is interested or regains interest she's got to do all the work.