Most on this board like to play the role of victim.(I also think most people outside of the jws like to be the victim too.) I'm from a 5 generation jw family and it doesn't bother me one bit if they all shun me. Some already are since it is well known that I view the dubs as a stupid cult.
The jws do not own the patent on shunning. So many other people, cults, religions, etc will shun a person at the first sign of disagreement. For those of you that enjoy playing the role of victim, this is good news, as you will find many other situations and roles in life where you can continue your victim mentality.
Why even care about someone or something that doesn't care about you? Are we that fragile that we need the acceptance of a group of people whom we have nothing in common with? A group of people that will drop us at the first sign of disagreement?
Yes, I understand that many here, including myself have lost dozens, if not hundreds of friends. But let's be real, did you(or I) really go out and work hard for those friends? Did we put any effort into those relationships. The reality is that most of us had those relationships and friendships simply because we belonged to a group. A group that we believed to be special, elite and above all others. It was not because of putting serious effort into creating and cultivating those friendships. I view it as a very lazy and pathetic way of having friends. Why not search out and develop real friendships with people you truly want to be around and people that will truly care about you? Yes, you will have less friends than before, but when you think about it, did you really have any friends as a jw?
Now it seems that many xjws continue their legacy of belonging to a special group, however it is in a very negative way. Is it really healthy to band together as a group of 'tortured victims' just so you can continue that feel good sensation of belonging to a group that in reality knows very little about each member?
I do think this board and other groups serve a purpose of helping jws make the transition into the xjw world. It is easy and quite acceptable to feel like a victim as you transition towards a normal life. I just hope that everyone can eventually move on from the victim phase to one of contentment and a positive outlook on life.
