Posts by Highlander

I think to be a CO's wife is a tough routine to endure. The husband at least has responsibilities and asignments to take care of which may give him fulfillment and satisfaction

as he completes his tasks. The wife on the other hand, may have given up a good job, a nice house to care for or other hobbies an interests that she found satisfaction in.

Now she's just tagging along with her husband, attempting to play the part of a content and happy wife, while being miserable on the inside for giving up so much, and gaining so little.

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Does anybody feel like if not for the Internet we could have still been in

by ladione5000 in

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the dark?

walking around knocking on peoples doors and telling them they are going to die if they do not follow our beliefs?.

i for one feel like this is the new world, and there is just no stopping this super highway we call the internet... it is like a whole new world, we can now talk and meet people around the world.

Highlander

I was well on my way as a fader before I researched Jdubs on the net.(I started fading in 1999 though I had some sporadic field service time over the last few years)

I must say the internet has solidified my gut feelings about 'jehovah's organization'. When researching on the net about a particular j-dub belief(prior or present) I will often times

purchase the coresponding j-dub book or material on ebay to verify what is said here or at other sites. There is no doubt the net is very helpful to me now and I can only imagine

the increased awareness that the net provides to active j-dubs that are beginning to question or have doubts about their version of the 'truth'.

On the flip side I know of many j-dubs that are well trained by the watchtower and will immediately dismiss anything critical of the wt corp belief system.

Ultimately I think the net is great for those with doubts, but for those that are fully indoctrinated, it may not have much if any of an effect.

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JW restrictions on sex, lead to over hype that made sex disappointing.

by free2beme in

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i remember being a teenager and my hormones were on overdrive.

the young witnesses i knew, male and female, were all feeling the same thing.

we would bring up sex, in one form or another, all the time.

Highlander

This statement is very typical of a guy out for a good time. What you missed in my original post was the word trust. Trust is an important element to women. If I trust the person that I am with then I can be totally uninhibited and experimental and fully enjoy the experience. For me love and romance and trust are intertwined. Trust doesn't just happen with someone you have just met, and I wouldn't do anything and everything with someone that I just met. Lasting, quality, sex for me requires love and trust. Attitudes like yours are the exact reason I wouldn't trust or have sex with anyone I just met. Thankfully, I only needed to make that mistake once!

Where does he come off having an attitude? You sound awfully bitter with a bit of attitude yourself. He acknowledged both sides of the 'story' along

with the logical idea that biology or chemistry are mostly important for good sex. You don't have to agree, but at least cut away YOUR attitude.

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JW restrictions on sex, lead to over hype that made sex disappointing.

by free2beme in

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i remember being a teenager and my hormones were on overdrive.

the young witnesses i knew, male and female, were all feeling the same thing.

we would bring up sex, in one form or another, all the time.

Highlander

But to Highlander and others: What exactly constitutes "bad sex"?

With my casual sexual encounters with non-jdubs there was a common theme. We were both there to have sex and enjoy and fulfill eachother's needs. Even if it was a one night

stand, we were still both after the sexual fulfillment. There's no guilt, no shame, and rarely any inhibitions.

With my wife it's completely different. On her part there is a lot of selfishness. I do everything and anything she wants me to do(and visibly enjoy it in the process), but getting her to

reciprocate is like pulling teeth sometimes(And when she does, it's obvious she's not enjoying herself.) Things like that do not go unnoticed by myself and it takes away almost all

enjoyment of sex. I knew from the day we married that the sex would be horrible. On our wedding day, I was undressing her so that we could go in the jacuzzi together. She just stood

there like a tree. No enthusiasm. I had to coach her into taking my clothes off. She was like a dead fish in the sack,,,

I suspect that her marriage to me is based on financial support and companionships(as many, if not a majority of marriages are based on)

My no strings, sexual encounters of the past were based on sexual fulfillment and having a good time.

My marriage may merely be a financial fulfillment for her. And that my friend, makes for a lot of bad sex.

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JW restrictions on sex, lead to over hype that made sex disappointing.

by free2beme in

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i remember being a teenager and my hormones were on overdrive.

the young witnesses i knew, male and female, were all feeling the same thing.

we would bring up sex, in one form or another, all the time.

Highlander

A young man I knew well at the time, mentioned after his honeymoon, that he could take it or leave it. Later he explained, that his bride was so hung up in guilt over the act, that it was often an awkward and less then exciting experience.

I've had many sexual encounters with non-jdubs. For me it was always a great time, never had any bad sex. Later in life I married a j-dub. The sex is horrible. I can also take it

or leave it.

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Dang! I missed it. Convention in town today.

by frozen one in

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i was looking through the paper this afternoon and saw that 1,500 people from 20 congregations of jehovah's witnesses in mn and wi were gathering at the convention center today.

the paper mentioned the program would feature talks, dramatizations, and discussions on how to improve family life, cope with stress and face challenges to one's faith.

the main speaker was john kikot, a longtime minister who helps supervise 1 million witnesses in the usa.

Highlander

It was the 'special assembly day'. My family was at that one on Saturday.

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Who is DF/DA or Fader???

by mama1119 in

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i was just wondering, how many dfed to we have on here compared to da or faders??

?

Highlander

Fading since about 1999, though I've turned in some fake time on a few different occasions in the last few years. Though it's been about 2 years since my last fake field service occurred.

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JW husband very sad

by Rebirth in

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i have been out of jws for about three years, husband still goes and brings out two young girls.

he has been really withdrawn lately, eating less, not interested in sex.

i thought he was moping because i recently had a birthday party for our young daughter and because of halloween activities.

Hang in there Rebirth. You're a great mom and your doing everything you can to create a normal, healthy, well adjusted life for your children. If not already, they will appreciate all that you have done for them.

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Dr. Phil today...

by brianhenke in

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one of his guests is a woman who doesn't want to celebrate holidays.. .

Highlander

Clearly, Dr. Phil is a pagan himself, or demon-possessed...
..or both!

If I may, I'd like to add a little 'watchtowerspeak' to this. Clearly then, it is reasonable to conclude, Dr Phil is a pagan himself and evidently demon possessed. Surely, we as true christians want to avoid watching his show so that we can avoid harming our relationship with Jehovah.