I am now watching as my wife comes to the realization that these people are shallow and unloving UNLESS you behave according to their agenda.
I am in a similar boat at this moment. She sees it I believe. But I am sure she is afraid to dig into TTATT. Those roots are deep and painful when you have to sort through it. I have reassured her that if and when she needs someone to discuss it with I am hear and I know how hard it can be to feel alone in waking up. But I think she has seen the organization is not all her former pioneer self thought it was cracked up to be, and that it does in fact create miserable judgmental people.
I know people that are witnesses that seem to resist that urge to be that way, but like you said, they are just good people in general.