Good story, Shelby!
Yeah, those preconceived notions can bite in the ass. Problem is, some people need to keep those negative stereotypes alive like the rest of us need air to breathe. Otherwise, their whole world view collapses.
Now, may I make a confession? I have worked with "disadvantaged" populations - running an employment agency, investigating child sexual abuse, writing grant proposals for social service agencies that serve the poor. What confounds me is - What is the best way to interrupt the generational cycle of discouragement and low expectations? How does a society of (ever more) limited resources begin to instill hope, self-respect and ambition in people who are surrounded only by examples of passive acceptance and the futility of effort?
What do we do about a young mother of 15 children who says " Somebody needs to pay ... for all my children ... all our suffering, all our pain ... Somebody needs to pay"? How do we break through that barrier of self-destructiveness? I mean, I believe her. Somebody has to pay - children have to eat and beyond that there is unquestionably pain and suffering. And I have learned that those children will perpetuate the cycle when their turn comes: the boys will impregnate and leave and the girls will raise the children and wail against an (increasingly) stingy and judgmental society, because make no mistake - in hard economic times, society resents the needy poor far more than they resent the fat cats who hoover up the real cash.
We are entering a period of long-term recession/depression - the resentment of the poor is going to get worse and even more deeply entrenched. What are the answers?