sadly, i did the same to my then husband.
he didn't want to be in the truth Ô , so i told him that he should speak with the "well-meaning" elders that would surely help him see the "errors" of his ways. but by then he had already decided to da himself.
this began what would lead to the end of our marriage.
happily, i have now seen the "errors" of my ways and have successfully been fading for nearly a year. my ex and i are best friends and are both very happy with how things turned out.
not to say you may have the same experience. it is somewhat unique. but perhaps give her time? that what i needed.
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