Well, Abandoned...please don't take this wrong, because I'm a married woman, but if your avatar is your real picture, I don't think you're ugly at all!
I totally understand not having confidence in yourself, tho. I get nervous alot in social situations and keep convincing myself I'm as good as anyone else. It's a holdover from that awful religion, that made us feel inferior and taught us we needed the elders to make our decisions for us. now, we're out of practice and have toget our legs again, so to speak.
You'll be fine!