Virgochik

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  This is the only place I don't feel ugly

  by Abandoned in

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  i want to thank everyone here for all the help and kind words offered to me as i adjust to having worth.

  i guess i have a long way to go and i guess i'm going to have to go and see a counselor like someone else suggested.. no matter how hard i work or what i accomplish, i still feel so ugly and i'm still afraid of the stupidest things.

  i don't know if my fears are on par with paranoia, but they are definitely distracting and i need to get some outside assistance.. the good news is that around here, with people who've gone through the same, i feel better.

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  Virgochik

  Well, Abandoned...please don't take this wrong, because I'm a married woman, but if your avatar is your real picture, I don't think you're ugly at all!

  I totally understand not having confidence in yourself, tho. I get nervous alot in social situations and keep convincing myself I'm as good as anyone else. It's a holdover from that awful religion, that made us feel inferior and taught us we needed the elders to make our decisions for us. now, we're out of practice and have toget our legs again, so to speak.

  You'll be fine!
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  Nurses, unite!

  by exwitless in

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  just wondering how many of us are nurses?

  i'm a licenced practical nurse (working on my rn degree), and i work as a cosmetic dermatology specialist.

  i see about 10 to 16 patients per day, doing things like laser hair removal treatments, microdermabrasion, chemical peels, skin care consultations, etc.

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  Virgochik

  That's wonderful, liking your job, making good money, and helping people all at the same time! Wish I could say the same. I make good money, but am miserable and don't have the satisfaction of doing something good in my shift. Interesting career idea, thanks.
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  Nurses, unite!

  by exwitless in

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  just wondering how many of us are nurses?

  i'm a licenced practical nurse (working on my rn degree), and i work as a cosmetic dermatology specialist.

  i see about 10 to 16 patients per day, doing things like laser hair removal treatments, microdermabrasion, chemical peels, skin care consultations, etc.

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  Virgochik

  A lab tech... Merfi, is that a job you enjoy? If so, how long did the schooling take, and is the pay decent?
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  What would you do if you lost your job?

  by Virgochik in

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  if you got fired from your job, what would you do first?

  live off your savings?

  sell your house?

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  Virgochik

  Thank you, everybody! I've been ofline for a day or so, taking some of your advice. I went to the dentist to have some work done, while I'm still insured. And I set up a lawyer's appointment to help me fill out my EEO paperwork. We'll be OK for 3-5 months if we have to use savings, but the advice is good, to try to find work and not use it all up. The Union's outraged, because the issue they keep after me about, is illegal per top management directives and the contract. I'm fairly sure, if they persist and try to fire me, after that 6 month period or so, I'll be back. I do have Merit System Protection Board appeal rights, too.

  Pretty scary, meanwhile. Every day, the boss harasses me and follows me around, making rude comments, making faces, and rolling her eyes. I think they're trying to push me to lose it, since they really don't have anything on me. Then they would legitimately have something. Any prayers for strength to endure this would be appreciated, as are everyone's responses.

  All this, for refusing to play along with the cheating!
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  What would you do if you lost your job?

  by Virgochik in

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  if you got fired from your job, what would you do first?

  live off your savings?

  sell your house?

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  Virgochik

  If you got fired from your job, what would you do first? Live off your savings? Sell your house? Panic? Borrow from family? Try to find another job, or go to school?

  I ask for thoughts, because I have trouble looming. I was told to cheat by a high-up in our company, and I refused. He got in trouble by his boss, and is now going after me. Of course, the Union's doing all they can to help me, but it's gone a lot farther than I ever thought it could. The boss's boss doesn't seem to want to intervene. I'm facing a 14 day suspension soon. If the Union doesn't get it dropped, the next step's removal. I'm starting to seriously consider contingencies.You know, those "what if's?" What if it really happens?

  We couldn't last too long on just hubby's income. I'd most likely get my job back, but it might take 6 months to a year. Anybody been through anything like this, and how did you survive, mentally and moneywise?
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  Do you know why I returned your money?................

  by lovelylil in

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  because i am one of jehovah's witnesses!

  remember these parts in the assembly?

  some "worldly" person looses a large stash of money and then the jw returns it and brings glory to jehovah's name?

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  Virgochik

  When my Aunt died, my Dad stayed in her house for a month or so to wrap up loose ends of her estate. He said the "brothers and sisters" were knocking every day, wanting to just come in and pick out something to remember her by. Yeah, and not the cheap stuff, I'll bet. He said he had no idea how much went out the door.

  There was a family who lived beyond their means at the Hall, Cadillac, leather coats with fur, nice ring on the brother, etc. The brother used to slide up to my Dad in the parking lot, to borrow money till payday. He didn't want his family to know. Seemed like he started making excuses to not pay back, and Dad got rather bitter about the whole thing, because we cut corners to help this man, and he used the money to buy flashy things. I used to admire the long, beautiful leather coats these girls had, when I was told we couldn't afford one for me. Then I found out where the family got their money, and was I pissed!!

  Dad learned his lesson too, about not loaning money to the Brothers. He meant well though, and it's a shame he got burnt.
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  Thankyou everybody, it's so good to be back!!

  by fullofdoubtnow in

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  as most of you know, i've been in bed with flu for a few days, and though i'm a bit better today, i'm still feeling very weak, but i'm just about up to an hours' posting.

  i've missed you all so much, and want to thank you for all the good wishes you sent me for a speedy recovery.

  i honestly think i've been shown more love from people on this board who i've never met than many jws that i knew for over 20 years.

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  Virgochik

  Glad you're getting better, Linda! Maybe a nice hot mug of tea would go down good? If you have to be sick, it's a comfort to have someone who loves you there, to attend to your needs, even when we look ratty! Or imagine we do! Take care!
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  Takes a long time to cure homosexuality

  by Norm in

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  apparently the process of degaying pastor ted haggard will be a long one.. takes up to 5 years according to the ungaying pro.. http://thinkprogress.org/2006/11/23/dobson-haggard-cure-gay/.

  poor haggard, wonder what he will do about his sexuality during those 5 years?.

  norm.

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  Virgochik

  Well, the guy was, ahem, able to father five children with his wife, so I don't think he's gay. I think he's bisexual. People often forget that many, many people are attracted to both sexes. I don't think there's a "cure" for that either. That's just how some people are wired! They don't need to be fixed, just allowed to live life in peace.
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  Gays Leave JWD!

  by hambeak in

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  i got a phone call from a person that i gave my phone # to.

  and this person said that gays are not welcome here and this is not what this board was really about.

  i told them that this is only one part of the crap that the wts did to people and that we are people too.

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  Virgochik

  That person was obviously speaking for themself, and not for the majority of the board. I can't believe someone would be so obnoxious as to call you, Hambeak, and be rude and mean. They certainly do not speak for me! You seem like a real nice guy. I'm sorry this happened to you.
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  As a DUB, what did you do and hid so as not to stumble anyone?

  by megsmomma in

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  i was thinking of all the "concious matters" that you could do if you wanted, but would not tell anyone so you wouldn't get in "trouble".

  one thing that came to my mind is when after having my baby, i wanted to join weight watchers...there were two meeting places to choose from...one close to me and in a church....and one quite far not in a church.

  well, i went to the one in the church, always worried someone would see me(but i didn't really think it was a big deal) so, what did you all hide?

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  Virgochik

  Oh, well then! Mom and I bought Harlequin paperbacks and hid them to read when Dad fell asleep, but I never did anything with an elder's wife! Haha.