No offense, but why would your wife allow people to come in your house and treat her husband like that? Doesn't the rudeness bother her at all? I mean, this is her husband !
So they bring food over...where is your pride? For a casserole, which you could no doubt make or buy yourself, you allow these bad-mannered people to traipse around your living room and diss you?
Sorry, I know you want to please your wife and family. But this may just be the beginning of years of misery, even if you fake it back in to Jehoopla's the spirit directed elders' good graces. Have you made Ministerial Servant or elder yet? They'll want that next, and so much more.