I didn't mean for you parents to freak out. I'm just saying out of experience, I'm a 21 year old who is working 2 jobs and going to school with 16 credits each semester paying for my own stuff and its hard. I wish I had my parents to help me out. I'm not saying you should hand everything over to him on a gold platter like you are, I'm just saying, reason with him and yourselve a little bit. I wish my parents would help, maybe then I could focus on getting better grades or focus on being my age because in a year and half, I will be out there working full time starting a life of my own.
You are making your kids sound like they are doing something wrong when they are trying to better themselves. Some people dont even have parents to help them out, maybe you should say during the summer he's required to get part time job or else you're not paying for anything. And then during the school year find something small, like 10 hours a week, but that you would rather have him focus on school.