Thank you all for your messages. This week I'm just going to keep my mind off of him and I'm going to try and focus on myself and work. It will be hard as hell because just as I am waking up now, I would either call him or he would call me just to talk, but today I think I'm just going to leave my cell phone off (I know its for the best). And I do have a lot of questions that I need to ask myself right now, so thank you all for taking the time to help me see some sort of light. I appreciate it more than you know!
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Not allowed to sleep over - is that weird?
by collegegirl21 inokay, so my guy and i have been together for 10 months and we usually are ok together.
but there is something that has been getting to me and i think its unusual, but please correct me if i'm wrong - he won't let me sleep over at his house.
and he hardly ever stays at my house, he's maybe stayed here 3 times in our whole relationship.
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Bethel Tour-long sorry
by samiam2b ini'm new as a member but have watched the site for a while.
one of my kids, who lives in another part of the country, came for a summer visit from another state and asked to go on a bethel tour.
she lives with her jw mother and is surrounded by jws and they even baptized her recently.
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collegegirl21
They hide their new publications or magazines? Oh mylanta!
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Welcome!
We are glad that you are here!!!!
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Not allowed to sleep over - is that weird?
by collegegirl21 inokay, so my guy and i have been together for 10 months and we usually are ok together.
but there is something that has been getting to me and i think its unusual, but please correct me if i'm wrong - he won't let me sleep over at his house.
and he hardly ever stays at my house, he's maybe stayed here 3 times in our whole relationship.
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collegegirl21
I think I'm going to take Scully's advice and take a break from him. Maybe it will help him realize what he's losing because his family seems to think that I am good for him and that he needs someone like me in his life apparently.
Cog - you have no idea how much those words you said meant to me. I wrote down those questions and I'm truly going to think about them because I don't think I've ever lived my life to make me happy and I know a part of me does have issues that I need to work on, but I am working on them, slowly but surely.
Mysterious - I have tried talking to Dennis, he is a lost cause. We had some issues in the past with me being insecure and he says that he'll go back to wanting to hold me and love me when I'm not insecure. He says that he doesn't give me a reason to insecure and that I shouldn't be that way. He also hates the fact that I come here for advice or opinions because the people on these sites are "complete strangers who know nothing about our lives and they have no lives." And at that point then he says that I'm desperate to make friends (note I moved to a new city to be closer to him, so I don't really have very many friends out here) and that I'm not going to find friendship on these sites.
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Not allowed to sleep over - is that weird?
by collegegirl21 inokay, so my guy and i have been together for 10 months and we usually are ok together.
but there is something that has been getting to me and i think its unusual, but please correct me if i'm wrong - he won't let me sleep over at his house.
and he hardly ever stays at my house, he's maybe stayed here 3 times in our whole relationship.
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collegegirl21
I am starting to think so myself. Why am I so afraid to walk away? Is it serious enough for me to walk away? I just don't know what to do. Do I not know what to do because I don't know how to think for myself? I feel like I'm going through a breakdown and I'm not really sure what's wrong with me. Can someone who's only 22 be going through a midlife crisis?
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Bethel Tour-long sorry
by samiam2b ini'm new as a member but have watched the site for a while.
one of my kids, who lives in another part of the country, came for a summer visit from another state and asked to go on a bethel tour.
she lives with her jw mother and is surrounded by jws and they even baptized her recently.
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collegegirl21
Welcome!!!!!
I'm sorry you had to go on the tour. I didn't realize you had to dress like you were going to the meetings, weird!
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Not allowed to sleep over - is that weird?
by collegegirl21 inokay, so my guy and i have been together for 10 months and we usually are ok together.
but there is something that has been getting to me and i think its unusual, but please correct me if i'm wrong - he won't let me sleep over at his house.
and he hardly ever stays at my house, he's maybe stayed here 3 times in our whole relationship.
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So, he comes over toinght and we go swimming my my apartment complex pool, we are laughing and having a good time. Things are going great, we go back to my apt and we come into my room and watch the "Comedy Roast" on Comedy Central. I thought it would be fine and that we would just lay on my bed and watch tv. Well he didn't want to lay in bed with me, he wanted to sit in a chair by hisself and watch the show. That's when I make a sound showing my frustration at him and he said, "What's wrong?"
"Well, I am just sick of everything that's going on with you and me and I just want you hold me and fall asleep next to me. I was posting on my website and I'm just trying to figure out whats going on." He knows about the websites I post on (here, lovingyou.com, and a few others)
"So you're looking to people that you don't even know to fix OUR relationship? I'm not listening to anything you have to say." So at that point, I just turn back to the computer and ignore him the rest of the night. Before he was getting ready to leave I asked him to lay with me, and he said that he didn't feel like it. I told him, "You didn't mind laying with me after we f**ked today while I rubbed your head, did you?"
So then he asks if I was going to walk him out, so I did and I didn't even look at him. I slammed the door and I sent him this text message, "you are right. I dont know if I can do this. You are keeping your guard up and while you are doing that you are not loving me or even wanting to touch me."
So he responded, "We spent almost the whole day together so don't try that sh*t."
"You don't get it dennis! I didn't want you to spend the night (although I did) I just wanted you to lay with me and hold me. But it does seem like you are pretty quick to cut your losses with me."
"Who said they DIDN'T KNOW? Was it me or you?!?!?!?"
"You might know but your f**ken guard is up." And that was the end of our converstion through texting or for tonight I'm assuming. I just don't know what to do. I'm not sure I didn't approach it the right way, but I'm sick of feeling like he doesn't want me and I know I have a lot to work on myself, but I hate him leaving with me crying like this.
A part of me thinks I should just walk away, but another part of me is afraid of being back where I started. I love him and his son very much and I just feel like even though I'm in a relationship I feel alone. God, I'm a wreck!
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To what extent has pms/pmdd affected you and relationships?
by FreedomFrog ini'm doing a research on pms/pmdd and what it does to relationships such as friends/spouses/children.. pms affects about 85% of women....mild to severe.
pmdd affects about 3-8% of women...severe to intolerable.. .
edit to add..... http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/ency/article/007193.htm#signs%20and%20tests.
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collegegirl21
LMFAO journey, I love that post. I hope you sent that too!!! Lol - but now that you mention it, I think I do suffer from PMDD, I know it affects a lot of my attitude with my roommate and how I treat the students I work with. I might have to get that checked out.
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First apple pie of the season!
by Cellist inthis is something we look forward to every year, when the apples are ready.
we have quite a few apple and crabapple trees.
this is off our newest crabapple tree.
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collegegirl21
It does look delicious. I look forward to apple pie too. I love it homemade :)
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Not allowed to sleep over - is that weird?
by collegegirl21 inokay, so my guy and i have been together for 10 months and we usually are ok together.
but there is something that has been getting to me and i think its unusual, but please correct me if i'm wrong - he won't let me sleep over at his house.
and he hardly ever stays at my house, he's maybe stayed here 3 times in our whole relationship.
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Cog - that's my issue. Most of my life (and most of my relationships) I don't really look at things that benefit me. I look at trying to please the other person and make them happy, which was why I got reinstated into the religion (to make my parents happy) and its why I don't try to start fights with my boyfriend (try to keep him happy). And I'm not sure what else to do or how to go from here. He did tell me that if I were to stop acting insecure for two weeks that he would let me spend the night - now that doesn't sound right to me. What do you all think?