Posts by AudeSapere

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Ever know anyone killed by a drunk driver?

by free2beme in

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friends

often people i work with will mention how they, or someone they knew, drove when they had been drinking.

although they make light of it, because they lived and no one got hurt, they seem to develop a braver and more confident ability in their driving while intoxicated and seem to think the law is not for them.

i personally, hate to hear about this and this is why.. a good friend of our family, a non witness that we grew up with.

AudeSapere

February 15, 1975

Two friends of ours (father and son) were killed on the way to an assembly by a drunk driver.

I as understand it, the drunk driver was not fined or jailed because he would have to live with the knowledge of what he had for the rest of his life. Hardly fair or just. I'm glad times have changed.

20 years later, those that were close to the family still referred to it as 'The Accident'. No other identifiers needed. It was traumatic for all involved. The mother never really got over it. She died 4 years ago (I suspect suicide since noone would tell me what happened to her.)

-Aude.

19

Witnesses coming to "visit" need help please (kinda long)

by snarf in

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friends

i married into a witness family 5 years ago.

i am now divorced and out of that family.

when i got married my now ex husband was disfellowshipped at the time.

AudeSapere

Snarf -

How about a comment or two about Jesus' words: "My yoke is kindly and my load is light"?

That struck a cord in me years before I left the org.

I like your approach. I think you can be direct without being mean. Just be honest and clear so they don't have un-realistic expectations about you returning to your study with them. Also, you could make it clear that you valued their support and friendship back then and would like to resume the friendship aspect but definitely not interested in studying. Clear, open, honest and direct. Maybe ask if that is something they would be interested in.

-Aude.

20

This happened locally, if your a parent ... learn from it

by free2beme in

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friends

this is a small town area.

i actually used to live about three houses down from these people.

when i read of something like this, it makes me all the more careful as a parent and never assume anything when it comes to your young children.

AudeSapere

Free2beme -

Thanks for the reminder. I live next door to a 3-year-old and two small, active dogs. The dogs love me and always run towards me and/or my car. It makes me so nervous when I cannot see them.

A JW friend of mine ran over a child in her apartment complex back in the 80's. (I've since lost contact of the friend so don't know the outcome of the case.) It messed her up even though the child survived.

Frightening, indeed. Thank you for the sobering reminder to account for children (and pets).

My heart goes out to the family.

-Aude.

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This happened locally, if your a parent ... learn from it

by free2beme in

jw
friends

this is a small town area.

i actually used to live about three houses down from these people.

when i read of something like this, it makes me all the more careful as a parent and never assume anything when it comes to your young children.

AudeSapere

Mister Amos -

The man in this story does not seem to be under suspicion of drunk driving. It seems to be more of just a terrible, terrible accident and, as the person who started the thread stated, a lesson for us to learn from - to be extra cautious around our own and neighbor children.

The story with the drunk driver, in my opinion, crossed a line when the driver's employer/co-workers were called in order to stir up even more trouble for the man and his family.

Sounds like you are often determined to stir up trouble in people's lives...

Is your own life that lacking that you feel compelled to mess with others?

-Aude.

14

Hambeaks OK

by hambeak in

jw
friends

hi there this is jake and gary asked if i could post and tell you thanks.

his surgery went well and dr. thinks he got all of the ca.

it is called adno carcinoma something like that.

AudeSapere

GREAT News!!

Thank you for letting us know. I'm glad he didn't wait any longer to seek treatment.

-Denise.

36

Diagnosis - Skin Cancer......

by AK - Jeff in

i had a lesion removed from my right cheek, just below the eye and to the right of my nose a week ago yesterday.

doc did it in the office and indicated he did not think it was malignant - but sop requires a path test to confirm.

it was malignant i was told today.

AudeSapere

Hi Jeff -

Jeff [of the slightly worried class at the moment]

I understand completely. I'm a cancer survivor (Hodgekins Lymphoma; 8 yrs, 3mos, 3wks, 1days since diagnosis).

Be pleased with yourself for seeing a doctor. Be very pleased with - and very grateful to - your doctor for being diligent. Set and Keep the appointment to more agressively excise the area.

Write down questions that you have for your doctor. Bring the list with you so you remember what you want to ask.

Don't borrow trouble. Most skin cancer is highly treatable when caught and treated early. This was the hardest for thing for me to get under control when I was in the diagnosis and staging period of my treatment. I kept thinking too far ahead about all the things that could happen and how it might affect me and my life. It wore me out - a whole month before I even began therapy. The only thing you can really do now is make the appointment and compile a list of questions. Other than that, get plenty of rest and don't waste time worrying too much about something that may already be resolved / fixed anyway.

Easier said than done. I know!!

Hugs to you and your family. It ain't easy. But it is bearable.

Make sure you find time for fun every day. It will help alot while you're waiting.

-Aude.

37

Disco Banned?

by Wordly Andre in

i am a bit too young to remember this but, was disco really banned by the jw's??

?

AudeSapere

Disco music was pretty much 'frowned-upon' and going to disco's was definitely out. Too sexual.

There was a MS in our cong (pretty dorky) who would have parties for the teenagers and we would dance. About the only disco that was allowed was 'The Hustle', 'Disco Duck', and 'I Will Survive'.

We did actually have fun then.

-Aude.

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Any Mod Squad Fans out there?

by jgnat in

not the '99 movie, but the tv series.

my hubby is looking for taped episodes on vhs/dvd.

his favorite fan site:.

AudeSapere

I remember Link and Julie - but that's about it.

I think I remember more of 'Room 222' with Michael Constantine

-Aude.

6

I need advice

by poodlehead in

jw
friends

i have a 14 year old son who lives with his father a jw and his step mother jw who grew up as a witness.

my ex-husband is fairly well off but his father and family have done very well for them selves.

the way they pass money down is into the next of kin and when that person dies the next down the line gets it.

AudeSapere

Oh, he can absolutely be disinherited. It's been done before and it will be done again.

Could you talk to the grandfather on your son's behalf? Re-assure him that you are not asking for yourself but merely to protect your son's interests?

-Aude.

8

BF's cat has cancer and is dying

by looking_glass in

jw
friends

i know that several of you have recently lost a pet (lovelylil, alana & aude).

i have spent the last several days w/ my bf whose cat has cancer.

actually a malignant tumor on his lungs.

AudeSapere

LG-

Oh how I feel your sadness. I cried and cried when I lost my little friends. (First Scout in October. Then Sylvester in May.) I still miss them and my eyes tear up even now as I'm writing to you.

Sam is lucky to have people who care so well for him (even if he doesn't always agree!).

When they stop eating and stop purring, and nothing can encourage them to do so, they are not enjoying their lives.

It's nice that you have a good group of friends who understand and support each other.

{{{{Looking-Glass}}}}

-Aude.