can anyone here, lay person or professional describe or give insights into the effects the following has on a child?.
when my friend, the middle child of 3 siblings, was five years old, his mother took him by the hand and led him to the house where his father was having an affair with another woman.
she opened the door to confront her husband who was actually in the act of having sex with the other woman, and deliberately exposed her young son to this drama.. .
This sort of behavior is conducted by adults/parents who view children as objects or possessions rather than 'sacred charges'. If the mother viewed the child as an individual person who was entrusted to her (and the father) to be thoughtfully nurtured and strengthened to grow into a strong, balanced, compassionate adult, she would have left him at home.
But she didn't. The child was a pawn in the crazy games the parents were playing.
-Aude.
as some of you may know, i'm a pretty troubled lad who was on the verge of getting baptised but stopped when i learned the shocking truth about the organization.
following that my own mother let me have it in anger to my decision.
since then, my life has been true hell.. .
Caupon wrote: Didn't mean to waste everyones time.
Not a waste of time at all - as far as I'm concerned.
You raised a good question. And it seems you got answers that helped to quiet your heart. How can that possibly be a waste of anyone's time?
And... Someone else will likely read this thread and something in it will help them, too. It's all good.
I was baptized just before I turned 14. 14 to 17 is such a crazy time. And every couple of years you have a completely different outlook and insight into the world. I would not want to relive those years at all. From age 22 onward, ... THOSE years I'd like a complete 'do-over'. But not 14 to 17. Very stressful any way you look at it. "This too shall pass."
-Aude.
as some of you may know, i'm a pretty troubled lad who was on the verge of getting baptised but stopped when i learned the shocking truth about the organization.
following that my own mother let me have it in anger to my decision.
since then, my life has been true hell.. .
Hi Caupon -
I don't recall your story so sorry that I'm not up-to-speed on your details. But did want to give a quick comment...
You wrote: Or am I just overthinking this?
I wasn't there, but my opinion is that you are overthinking it. It sounds like you are fairly well-balanced and working to keep yourself well-informed. As long as you stay respectful, don't get into too much trouble and keep your humor about you, the KH should not be horrific for you at this stage. Boring as hell, maybe, but not necessarily horrific.
There are sucky things about growing up a JW. But there are some good times, too.
JW elders are not paid. Neither are they very well trained. Most work very difficult and strenuous secular jobs. Meeting times can become more stressful. I would not dwell much on the harsh response. I doubt it was personal. You just caught them off guard and they wanted their privacy back - for whatever reason.
That said, my best suggestion for teenage JWs is to lay low in the congregation. Focus on school/formal education and get a job. Save money and learn to budget yourself. Learn to cook and care for yourself. Help around the house and help neighbors. Don't get baptized. Follow Jesus example - he did not get baptized until he was 30. Avoid discussions about doctrine, websites, WT history. Casual mention is probably OK but there is nothing to gain from full-blown hysteria over things the WTS did 70 years ago. They did it. You know they did it. I know they did it. They know they did it. But they say they've changed. And all they (elders and your parents) will do is blame you and try to correct your thinking.
Just lay low. Take care of the business of setting yourself up for a good life that is supported by a good career. You can pick a religion after you have explored life a little. There is absolutely no rush and no sense in fretting about it.
I hope this makes sense and helps just a little. Looking forward to hearing more from you.
btw - Welcome to JWN~!! It's nice to have you join us.
-Aude Sapere (meaning: Dare to Know; Dare to Have Wisdom/Understanding; Dare to Think for Yourself)
i have a page on facebook and it made some controversial posts (my page is similar to the quotes website, except it translates the quotes to spanish).
i post that we believed in the cross before: meh... "thank you brother for showing us how the light has increased".
i post that we banned organ transplants and were against vaccinations: "you're an apostate!!
Braincleaned wrote: Today's new light is tomorrow's apostasy.
Actually... I often believe it's the other way around:
Today's apostacy is tomorrow's new light.
I've seen it happen numerous times.
-Aude.
the jehovah's witnesses came to our door, claiming to hold the secrets of family happiness.
they told me they had the "one true religion," and had come to save my life.
i was a bible student for quite awhile, along with my husband.
Dansk, one of my favorite posters from when I first joined this site, started a similar thread several years ago.
Here is the link to that thread:
http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/members/private/88460/1/THE-ESTRANGED-FAMILIES-LIST#.UmDQ_0qXrQI
RIP, Ian (Dansk)
-Aude.
not because i agree with him.
because i do not want the divorce.
but because i love him and i want to respect him.
Laverite has good advice. Again.
'Just Breathe' was suggested to me when I was overwhelmed several years ago. A friend gave me this CD:
from jw.org (while waiting for new bible to download, i clicked on the link for "christian," which asks the following question...).
"are we christians?
we are christians, for the following reasons.
Semantics. It's a game the JWs play very, very well.
The 'titles' are all either brother or sister. Positions and levels of oversite/responsibility vary widely and are near always mentioned when introducing someone. Their 'position' is their their title. And their title is actually an organizational 'rank'.
It's just marketing semantics. Oh!, those silly JWs.
-Aude.
rode over to the farmer's market with a couple of neighbors, nice women, seem sensible.
the driver stopped in the middle of a block and stared at the coca-cola truck that was parked there.
she said, "do you see the round tower?
The more people I meet, the more I like my cat.
-Aude.
just fyi.
i knew for about a month now.
no one knows except one other (ha the congregations knows he told an elder) not your mother.. just wish you had credible information to spread.. please let's give him some.
What 'scandals' do you want to expose?
Be specific and we can see what we can help research secular details.
Intellectual dishonesty? (The numerous mis-quotes of others just to suit their position?)
Plaguerism of copyrighted photos?
607 BCE - The fraudulent date?
Mexico/Malawi - The atrocious disparity of how each was handled?
Pedophilia - Known cover-ups within the JW org and the millions that have been paid out already to victims?
Pedophilia - The list kept at JW HQ?
The WTS decade-long affiliation with the UnitedNations?
What specifically do you want us to help you with?
-Aude Sapere (meaning: Dare to Know; Dare to Have Wisdom/Understanding; Dare to Think for Yourself)
my jw daughter called me this afternoon!!!!!
!i am just over the moon.
her hubby not a jw has cancer & was operated on today!!!!.
So happy you got to talk to her. So very nice to see you so happy~!
That's a big step for that daughter. Hope the husband recovers well.
-Aude.
