Welcome to JWD, the mike. Glad you and your wife were able to sort things out and have now been married for 19 years. You must have been lucky enough to get advice which was appropriate for yourselves. I'm saying this assuming the elders helped you to see that "fighting" is not the way christians resolve their differences. So hopefully after assistance from the elders, the remaining years of your marriage were peaceful.
Trying to strangle your wife is extreme. Witness 007, I hope your mum has the strength and courage to stay away from this violent man.