Posts by joelbear69

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What Movie Could You Watch Over and Over Again?

by Abandoned in

for me, there are a number of movies that i never tire of.

here's a partial list:.

elfthe holidaytommy boyplanes trains and automobilesdumb and dumber28 dayswhat are yours?.

joelbear69

anything by Hitchcock

Beaches - i am a homo after all

Monty Python and the Holy Grail - ni

Amelie

The Wizard of Oz - there goes that gay gene again

The Razor's Edge

Casablanca

Rudy - Sean Astin is so adorable, locker room scenes, fabulous

29

Open Relationships, and Society's Cultural Unwritten Boundaries

by frankiespeakin in

jw
friends

i'm a anarchist basically with a ever widening opening mind.

and i believe in them i don't beleive that either sex should dominate over the other .

on the grounds that every one is master over thier own body, and so to demand loyalty in the use of anothers body seems wrong.

joelbear69

lots of sociological factors at work.

1. sex is no longer linked directly to procreation. in the developed world

especially, these two factors continue to drift further and further apart.

2. equality of women. ok, we are definitely still not there, but wow looks

at the change in the status of women in the last 100 years. the vote,

the pill, careers of their own leading to financial independence rather

than having to trade sex and keep up the home for sustanance from

the male bread winner.

3. the lessening of sex as the bond that keeps people together. other

psychological factors continue to become more important than sex to

maintaining lasting relationships. if sex isn't the bond, then open

relationships are more likely to be successful.

I've enjoyed my 19 year open relationship, its going strong because

we are tied together at the heart, not the genitals.

hugs

Joel

6

Beating Fear

by joelbear69 in

pat robertsons doom and gloom forecast for 08 (his 07 forecast that the us would be hit by a major terrorist attack was incorrect).

reminded me so much of the watchtower's constant doom messages: definitely rule by fear.

if you do this you will be destroyed, so will your kids.. if you do this you will be disfellowshipped and lose all your friends and family.. if you don't go out in service you will be marked as bad association.. and of course every natural or man made disaster meant the end was coming soon soon soon.. it takes a lot of effort to overcome the fear paralysis instilled in us by the watchtower.. and it doesn't just go away and stay away, conquering fear is not a one time event, it is instead.

joelbear69

Pat Robertsons doom and gloom forecast for 08 (his 07 forecast that the US would be hit by a major terrorist attack was incorrect)

reminded me so much of the Watchtower's constant doom messages: definitely rule by fear

if you do this you will be destroyed, so will your kids.

if you do this you will be disfellowshipped and lose all your friends and family.

if you don't go out in service you will be marked as bad association.

and of course every natural or man made disaster meant the end was coming soon soon soon.

It takes a lot of effort to overcome the fear paralysis instilled in us by the Watchtower.

and it doesn't just go away and stay away, conquering fear is not a one time event, it is instead

a daily exercise similar to watching your diet, getting fit, reading to learn, etc.

its a mental exercise. every time you conquer fear, you get stronger, but if you let up, your

fear resisting muscle gets weaker.

Don't let the doom sayers get to you. Breathe in the air, live the day, kiss your spouse or

kids. LIVE.

hugs

Joel

44

Suicide attempt and I am heartbroken

by Iforget in

jw
friends

my younger brother tried to kill himself today.

i am sick inside....sicker then i ever thought possible.

my mother told me the news in the cruelest of ways and i am now in a fog.. i blame the jw's and all the bullshit they put on children who are df.

joelbear69

i feel awful for you. my heart goes out to you and your brother. he truly must be in pain. you can help him without enabling him. he may need some true tough supportive love hugs Joel

14

Hey good looking!

by joelbear69 in

there are a lot more good looking guys here .

now than when i was actively posting here .

a few years ago.

joelbear69

Junction Guy, you are adorable. woof Joel

11

The New Annointed

by joelbear69 in

my parents have been witnesses for almost 65 years and have .

been totally faithful all that time.

they have many friends their .

joelbear69

My parents have been witnesses for almost 65 years and have
been totally faithful all that time. They have many friends their
age that are still alive or have just recently passed away.

I would bet that there are thousands of witneses like them
around the world.

My question is:

If there were annointed who were dropping out, wouldnt it
make sense that these other older faithful witnesses would
be the ones that would take their place rather than this
new group of annointed that are my age, in their 40's and
50s and even younger?

Simply doesn't make sense.

44

So, you're in love with someone that you're not compatible with ....

by Frequent_Fader_Miles in

perhaps it was "love at first sight", but then you get to know him/her more intimately and realize your goals and amitions couldn't be further apart.

not that he/she isn't a good person ... just not right for you.

the physical attraction is real, but issues that are important to you pale into insignificance in his/her mind.

joelbear69

you can't change another person

physical attraction is not love

all couples have some incompatibilities

if its love these take 2nd place to being
together and supporting each other and
making sacrifices for each other.

14

Hey good looking!

by joelbear69 in

there are a lot more good looking guys here .

now than when i was actively posting here .

a few years ago.

joelbear69

There are a lot more good looking guys here
now than when I was actively posting here
a few years ago.

Very nice.

52

I'm Happy to Live in a Christian Nation

by BurnTheShips in

.

so whats your opinion on the article?.

burn.

joelbear69

I am happy to live in a secular nation.

If this was a Christian nation as in
following the example of Christ, I wouldn't
have a problem with that either, actually
that would be great, but it ain't gonna
happen.

If this was a Christian nation as defined
by people who claim to be Christians today.
Whoa, what a demented place this would be.

7

Nightmares of an exJW

by joelbear69 in

had one of my nightmares last night.

no, not about demons chasing me, those ended a long time ago.

i have a lot of dreams about people who are .

joelbear69

Had one of my nightmares last night.
No, not about demons chasing me, those ended a long time ago.

I have a lot of dreams about people who are
no longer in my life because I am no longer a witness.

Last night the people in my dream were two of my nieces
and they were in my dream as I remember them 20 years ago,
one a teenager and the other a toddler.

It was a very weird dream. I won't go into details. It
ended with them running towards me from a distance and
me waking up sobbing.

I dream often of family and friends, even though its
been 20 years since I started a new life.

Love just doesn't stop with disfellowshipping. Truly
the most hideous torture device for controlling people
ever evented.

hugs to all

Joel