When my now ex husband gave me an STD. I went to all 5 meetings a week at the time, only spent my free time talking on the phone with witnesses or doing puzzles at home with my daughter, and they all knew, but still that didn't prove him of adultery, because maybe I had a double life...yeah right! He is still in good standing with the Org. I walked away soon after that. But, as you can see I am still very scarred by the whole experience so I come to this site for awareness that I wasn't the only one mistreated.
Posts by snarf
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8To hell and back? Or how to defeat disappointment.
by serendipity inof all the dirt you've learned about jws, and mistreatment and epiphanies experienced, what was the biggest or most painful disappointment?
what did you do to cope with it?
and how long did it take to come to an acceptance of the situation?
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Piddly problems
by carla inever feel like saying, 'yeah, join the club'?
someone calls you with some piddly problem and you just got off the phone with someone with a 'real' problem like a child being diagnosed with a serious illness or something?
yes, i know, everything is relative.
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snarf
I remember about 10 years ago I worked as a customer service rep for a magazine company. I went through a heartwrenching miscarriage and I took a couple ddays off work to get through it, but had to return to make money to pay the bills. I remember sitting there, almost in tears, and people were calling griping because they didn't recieve a magazine issue for that month. One lady called and was YELLING at me because her magazine arrived with the cover damaged from the post office and DEMANDED I send her a new one right away, she was just really nasty. I finally had it with the pissy griping about mundane things and went off on her. Thankfully my boss was a caring individual and gave me the rest of the day off paid to cool off.
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Witnessing at school
by I-follow-the-narrow-path ini was in class and by these two women (one who was a christian and the other student i am unsure of).
i asked them, randomly, "do you know much about jehovah's witnesses?
" -- they both said "yes" and the non-christian said "i had a jw friend and he really hated it... he disaproved of what they taught" -- i started to talk about shunning and disfellowship.
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snarf
Does your school have a Religion In America class? Mine did and I took it, I didn't get any credits for it, but I sure learned a heck of alot on the history of the most prevalent religions in the United States. I live in Iowa also, so maybe it is something to look in to.
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Witnessing at school
by I-follow-the-narrow-path ini was in class and by these two women (one who was a christian and the other student i am unsure of).
i asked them, randomly, "do you know much about jehovah's witnesses?
" -- they both said "yes" and the non-christian said "i had a jw friend and he really hated it... he disaproved of what they taught" -- i started to talk about shunning and disfellowship.
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snarf
Hmmmmm, I am confused, first you think people are being rude, then you think people are nice....which one is it?
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Witnessing at school
by I-follow-the-narrow-path ini was in class and by these two women (one who was a christian and the other student i am unsure of).
i asked them, randomly, "do you know much about jehovah's witnesses?
" -- they both said "yes" and the non-christian said "i had a jw friend and he really hated it... he disaproved of what they taught" -- i started to talk about shunning and disfellowship.
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snarf
I know you are probably on that "new study high", but maybe you should learn more about the beliefs and reasons why before you start cramming your ideas down other people's throats.
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Need evidence of others with "god's holy spirit"!
by bythesea ini sent my husband off for the week with a 7 page letter outlining some of the isssues i have with the wts.
its been a long time coming!
the letter went into a lot of different areas, touching on all the big points and admitted how fearful i have become of sharing this information with him or anyone else because of not wanting to lose my friends and family over it all.
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snarf
As far as their "world-wide preaching work" almost every religious organization has missionaries that travel the world to spread God's word and help in the communities that they settle in, so that is nothing new.
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Is it time to come out ?
by troubled mind ini have been considering my options lately.
i feel like i need to talk to my chilren about my true feelings about being , or in this case not being a jw any longer.
my kids are all going to be home together, the first time in over two years, this next month .
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snarf
I think it would be the perfect opportunity to express your feelings to your childrren. Who knows maybe they are feeling the same way but are only in because they are scared of losing family relatinships. I agree with you that you should keep it on a personal level and not on scandals or doctrine issues unless it is brought up by them. Good luck !!!
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How do you deal with JW's knowing they will shun you?
by JH ini went to the grocery store yesterday, and i saw a jw who was looking at me with a sort of sad face.
i said hello, and he didn't reply.
so why does he stare at me for if he knows he won't reply to me when i say hello?
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snarf
Ouch, some people can be so hurtful ! Like a simple "hello" would have hurt for them to say. How are you supposed to be encouraged if they can't even say a single nice word? Frustrating !!! I think you did great, you were nice, the bigger person. I run into witnesses all the time, I live in a really small town. I always look them straight in the eye and say hello with a big smile, sometimes they reply back and sometimes they keep going. At least I know who the bigger person is when I walk away. Please don't avert your stare though, it will make them feel like you are hiding something. Look em in the eye, you have nothing to be ashamed of.
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Watchtower Society Sued For Covering Up For Molestor Derek Packowski
by qua insacramento vicinity (loomis, rocklin, sunset congregations): court documents were just issued charging derek packowski and the watchtower society corporations.
the papers were filed by the legal firm of nolen saul brelsford of sacramento, california.
the child molestor and said corporations headed by the governing body over jehovah?s witnesses, were charged with not reporting to law enforcement and systematically conspiring and suppressing information about sexual molestation committed by packowski when he was in a congregation in des plaines, illinois, also after about 1984 and later in california at the loomis congregation from which formed the rocklin and sunset congregations.
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WOW !!!! It is great to see someone finally going after their throats using the legal system concerning molestation. I hope these people win their case and other victims come out in full force, kindda like what happened with the Catholic Church. Snowball effect.
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When Did You Start To S L O W Down In The "Truth"???
by minimus inwhen you look back at it, what got you to slow down?
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I was a struggling single mom, and since I had limited income, I was propsitioned to share a hotel room with another single mom sister in the congregation. She didn't have a credit card so she asked if I would reserve the room with mine and then she would just pay me in cash for her share of the room. After the room was charged on my card a week before the convention, she backed out saying she already promsed another couple earlier that year that she would share with them. They were a couple that had extra money, and I was upset to be in that situation, and she felt no responsibility to pay anything towards the room. Then my daughter and I were not asked out for dinner once the whole convention. I was really hurt. After the convention was over I was asked to a bar-b-que at a couples house later that night where almost everyone was going. Well, apparently on the way home everyone changed plans and met up at a restaurant, and no one showed at the couples house. I had a cell phone so it wasn't like they couldn't have contacted me. I was always getting invited out when it wasn't convention time, so it wasn't like I didn't have any "friends". I finally saw their true colors and disrespectful ways.