Posts by Nowman

if someone is agnostic or leaning strongly that way, how can the fact that people claim to be haunted by ghosts, spirits, say they can talk to the dead, are possessed by evil spirits, etc be reconciled to make sense?

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Nowman

I am an agnostic, I simply do not know what to believe in.

If I have proof, I will believe. I do not think there is anything wrong with this thinking. Others might, but so what. It's the way it is. I have not accepted Jesus or God into my heart/mind, and I do not plan on it until I have proof. That means I am faithless when it comes to this, then I am faithless. But this does not stop me from living life, I do not feel I am fault because I need proof. I enjoy life very much, I do not have to have all the answers. When I get the answers, then thats when I get them.

Nikki

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Can I Be a Good Mother?

by compound complex in

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having a baby doesn't make you a loving and selfless mother automatically.

mom had her hang-ups before we were born, sis.

i think she took out all her frustrations and anger on us because she was so mad at life and the hand she was dealt.

Nowman

I am a mother of 3 children. My 1st and 2nd were surprises, I was 22 when I got pregnant with my daughter, I wondered too if I would be a good mother due to my childhood? I used to call my mother "mommy dearest". Mom hated that, the one time I said it to her as a joke, well it was ugly and I will leave it at that. Joan Crawford reminds me of my mother. I remember my mom asking me to vaccum the living room, just a touch up she said. I decided to do an extra good job, and vaccum under the plants, and all of a sudden she slaps me across the face because I did not do what she told me to do???

I have asked myself "why couldn't I have had a different life"? since I was old enough to think about it. Why, Why, WHY?

I stopped asking a long time ago because I am me now, I know who am. I can't change what happened but I certainly can make my children's life good. They are 11 & 9 now (I have a 1 year old too) and wonderful children. They do not have to feel stressed, or walk on their toes in our house. I never spanked by kids either, I just could not do it. Frankly, it worked, they did not need spankings (although I am NOT judging those that do, I just can't do it).

Can you be a good mother? Yes, the past is the past, we can't change it but we ourselves can make our lives better, not only for you, but the children that we have or will have. There is sense gratification knowing that my children did not have to go through what I went through, and I can contribute in making their lives full, it just takes alot of love.

I feel for you, reading your post broke my heart because I still remember what I went through too, I just can't let it consume me.

Nikki

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Conversations with a True Believer

by Farkel in

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nothing makes one happier to be out of religious crap that a conversation with a true believer.. it all started innocently enough.

we talked about music.

he said i probably knew nothing about music and that he was a former disk jockey.

Nowman

Sounds to me that the true believer you spoke with has an insecurity problem, has to make himself feel better by putting you down whether by name calling or acting like hes smarter than you. I was glad to read he got on the bus.

Nikki

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What's Your All Time FAVORITE Song?

by minimus in

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mine is al green's "let's stay together".

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what song's your fav?

Nowman

Dr Hook, "Sharing the Night Together" (I think it came out in 82-83, I was 7 or 8 I think). My mom and I lived in this apartment in a near suburb of Chicago (Addison, IL), she was a waitress and was not home alot, I stayed home alone alot at that time, I would sit in the kitchen in this big bulky rocking chair and listen to this song over and over.

I even had it played at my wedding so me & hubby could dance together to it, I sang the whole song in his ear .

Nikki

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Ladies, What kind of flowers do you like to receive from your guy?

by asilentone in

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I love yellow roses. For Mother's day, someone in my family usually gets me some annual or perennial, and really that's my favorite gift for Mother's day. So far at least, it would be nice if I got something from Tiffany's...once at least .

Nikki

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What kind of sandwiches do you like to make?

by asilentone in

Nowman

Honestly, I could be on the "Jarret" diet, eating Subway everyday, I love this sandwich as follows:

6" wheat

turkey

little mayo

lettuce

onions

extra pickles

green peppers

oil & vinigar

salt & pepper

I try to have other sub shops make above, but nothing compares to Subway. And its cheap! Under $6

Nikki

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Why men die first

by The Lone Ranger in

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why do men die first?

this is a question that has gone unanswered for centuries, but, now we know.

it requires a bit of explanation!!.

Nowman

You poor men, I did not realize you had it so difficult. My heart goes out to you all!

Signed, woman

PS: LOL, remember its tough to be a woman, speaking from experience. Have a little empathy for us, could ya?

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Honestly, Are You a Jealous Type of Person?

by minimus in

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do you tend to look at other people and wish you could have what they have?.

when something financially good happens to someone, do you secretly get jealous and wish you were the one getting something?.

my mother recently commended me for never exhibiting jealousy.

Nowman

no, I think people who have that jealous quality tend to portray in their attitude to others, i.e. putting others down, or trying to have one up...I know tons of people like that, have worked and still work with people like that.

Nothing wrong with being envious as long as its used to motivate ones self to do better...

Jealous people have hurt me alot over the years, I am not perfect, but I do know that I had every right to feel the way I did, you just move on, time heals everything.

Nikki