it is one of my guilty pleasures.
i love music and i think this year's contestants are quite good.. some have said the show is fixed.
but i love the singing competition.. what about choo?.
Its the only show I watch religiuously, I actually am apart of the AI cult!!!
I can't believe Alexis is gone! I thought she was better than the oil rig dude, even though I think he's a "nice" guy...but Alexis had some pipes!
I love Adam Lambert, I think he is just adoreable, my husband hates him!
Megan Joy ("Quirky girl") is absolutely beautiful and I think she is different.
I almost always agree with Simon except this week about his Adam comments, I am with Randy, he is the bomb!
Nikki
how about fleetwood mac and the eagles.
love the eagles and they are still good today..
What about Dr Hook, was that early 80s or late 70s? "sharin the night together"...la la la
Nikki
*disclaimer: these are just jokes!
mary is having a really crappy time playing the cards life has dealt her right now and that is no joke.
but since we know how fond she is of jokes, maybe we can cheer her up.*.
This is an oldie but a goodie...
What do you call someone who is dislexic, has insomnia, and is an agnostic?
"Someone who stays up all night wondering is there is a dog"
tee hee
another one...
what did one lesbian frog say to the other lesbian frog?
"your right, you do taste like chicken"
tee hee
another one
these 2 old men had not gotten laid in a long time...
so they decide to go to a whore house
Madam answers the door...the 2 men explain their needs to her...she yells to one of the other whores, "go get the blow up dolls"
That night, their needs are fulfilled and of course they are itchin to talk to one another about it the next day...
The one old guys says, "how was it for you", "fine" the other guy says, then he says "how was it for you?"
He says "well, it was weird, I bit her on the shoulder and she farted and flew right out the window"...
tee hee
Nikki
Simon-you are funny too.
LOL
My girlfriend bought the "2 of them special", I just had to buy her some lunches! Its nice, my daughter uses it all the time, so I have not put it on yet!
I got the greenish-blue one...is soft and snuggie. I got a book lamp too for free, I use that and so does my 2 year old who broke it yesterday.
Minimus...you are too funny.
Nikki
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so much of all posted is so very much a waste of time.
I too walked away when I was 18, cold heartedly. For me, it was the only way to go. Yet, everyone will handle it in different ways. That is great that you are "so together" about it. Some are not though and need support.
So, if you come to the board, help others that need encouragement, and try not to make others that are having a difficult time feel like "idiots" so to speak, you sound arrogant in your post. You aren't them and have not lived their life. This is an open forum, and you are entitled to your opinion, which I respect...its not a "waste" for people to talk here though, so back off.
Nikki
i'll start: positive, a very quick sense of humor and quick wit.
negative: i can be very cutting with my words if i want to be.
(i work on this)..
Positive : I am free spirited and funny
Negative : I can't think of anything, LOL. I am very hyper and need to calm down. I feel I can't sit still. I come to this board too much, LOL.
hi.. i have been a witness since birth (will be 30 years in june 2009).
got baptised when i was 15 (pressured into it by my parents, plus, i was promised my first home pc if i did get baptised before turning 16).. both my parents serve in the uk bethel.
i have an older brother and younger sister, both of which are witnesses.. i am married to a witness and live in cyprus (i am english).
It would be very difficult to be in your shoes for sure. But, you are not the only one. You have to live your life and you cannot live it in keeping quiet and not doing anything about it. Easier said than done, I know. This struggle that you have will continue until you decide to do something about it period.
This forum will help you, as it did me. There is much support here. It will be a very difficult to go through, but the rewards will be great, its about attitude. To be free of the cult mind set is something to look forward to.
Good luck, former JW for 18 years, out for 16 years. Please note that when I left, I just left cold, its was the only way to deal with my parents, I never stood up to them until I left.
Nikki
firstly....i have a problem here and have for years.
i am prob part of a big jw club based on how all my old friends drink.
but nightly i self medicate (nice term for gettin seriously buzzed to drunk).
OOMPA-
I read alot of your posts and laugh. You may not be familiar with me, so I decided to open up and talk about my drinking. 1st my mom is currently an alcoholic, she is a DF'd JW. Thats that. I did not realize for a long time that I was on that same road. Yet, I would always justify it by telling myself, well I don't drink everyday or I do not hide bottles of booz, or I do not drink everyday. But, I was a binge drinker.
I got a DUI on 8/28/04, and I got another one 9/10/08. I still have my license, but part of my sentencing is I have to abstain from drinking for 1 year, I have to submit to random tests. I was very lucky to not have killed someone else or myself.
In counseling, I learned you have to have all the symtoms in order to be a true alchoholic, its chronic and progressive. I had some of the systoms, like black outs, change in personality, and going overboard. I love to have to a good time, I still do. BUT, if alchohol has caused me problems (which it has and thank goodness I can just admit it and change period) its time to seriously think about living the rest of my life without liquor. I have come to the realization that I am just not a person that can drink and be able to have self control. After all the things I have gone through, alchohol is just a depressant for me and not does help. Don't get me wrong, I have had great times in my life having a buzz with friends, but I have also done things that I do not remember and that is the worst feeling in the world.
Frankly, admitting it is less shameful. It feels good to just get it off my shoulders. I did not want to ruin myself, I am better than this. So are you. Oompa, you are very honest and this will help in your recovery. Just realize that you may not be a person (because of what you have gone through) that can drink, it seems drinking is only making the problems worse.
I had to attend a Victom Impact Unit last week where I had to sit and listen to parents talk about how a drunk driver killed one of their kids! I sobbed my eyes out. I have three of my own, the thought of losing any of them makes my stomach turn.
You need to be strong, drinking will not solve your problems, you know this. It is only going to get worse if you keep it up. Oopma, its only up to you to change it. You have your life to live...so live it and I hope you realize that life without alchohol is OK.
At the end of my abstaining from drinking which ends 12/22/09, will I have a drink? I don't think so, I have come to realize that my chemical makeup and my life experience do not go hand and hand with alchohol. Not the end of the world. The end would be if I got in my car again drunk and killed someone else or myself. Do I think about the time when I retire and I can lay on the beach with my hubby when we are 60 years old and have a Corona? Yes! Who knows, you need to take it one day at a time.
Nikki
it seems to be an issue that some have after leaving the witness cult because none of us were ever made to feel we were " good " enough or "valued " enough for what we were trying to accomplish in the cult.
growing up i had pounded into my head by my jw elder father what jesus said, " after doing all things remember you are good for nothing slaves , what we have done is what we ought to have done.
" then i thought to myself - " where's the joy in that ?
Definitely improved self esteem here...its been 16 years + since I have been out. I was 18 when I left to be a part of the big world out there as a non-JW. Looking back, I never realized that I had self-esteem issues, but I did. Part of it was me being a girl and trying to measure up to "society" but a big part was because of what I endured at home while a JW.
In fact, from the age of 15-22 years, I had an eating disorder. When I was 15, my parents went on that Fit For Life diet that was popular in 1989 or 1990...I was always a chunky kid up until about late 8th grade-early freshman year of HS. I started to lose weight because of this diet my parents were on (you don't mix certain foods together like starches & veggies & meats together etc). It was awesome, I had never been thin! I had gone from being 5ft 135 lbs, down to 105 lbs and I ate. I also went to school, I pioneered with my mom, and I worked part time. I was very active.
Well, when I got down to 105 lbs, there were times where I was so busy, my weight would drop to 102-103, and my parents noticed. It became a rule in my house that Nikki had to be 105 lbs and no less. So, at certain random times, my dad would say "get on the scale". If I was 103.5 lbs, they would make me eat a bunch of cookies and milk after we would get back from the Tuesday night meeting for example. I remember the 1st time it happened, my mom had made these great lemon cookies. I ate them alright. The next day, I wake up, and my dad is waiting for me to get on the scale, well I was still 103.5 lbs. I pleaded with him to understand that I was eating, and that I did not understand why I did not gain a pound from eating all those cookies the night before. He told me then to go eat some more, so I did.
This went on for awhile and eventually I was so stressed out everyday wondering if my dad was going to ask me to get on the scale, that I wore certain clothes so he would not bother me, in fact, I avoided wearing black pants for sure!!!
Eventually, my best friend had confided in me that she had bulemia and it worked (in my mind, not thinking about the harmful consequences of it). So, I started throwing up. It was a control thing, it started when I was still at home, and it ended when I got pregnant with my daughter at 22. Up until that point, I wanted to do it, I wanted to get back at them for making me a freak, so to be speak.
In fact, alot of what I did when I 1st left at 18 was to get back at them, I would think about them while I threw up. I was so self-destructive in everything I did. I found that I was so unbalanced, and unsure about so many things about myself, what the hell was wrong with me?
I got better, the mind of someone with an eating disorder does not go away, you just have heal and not act on your thoughts. It was tough but I got through it. I excercise daily and try to take care of myself. I am 35 years old now and much more comfortable in my own skin than I ever was and I feel for those here that are not at that point. Yet, a big part of it is because of life experience, and just moving on. Find out what makes you happy, and its OK to not know what makes you happy either, but find out.
Sorry for the book but this thread brought back memories of how I was trying to find myself by myself, my parents stopped speaking to me once I was DF'd, I was so hurt by them. They stopped talking to me, when I really should have cut ties with them the day I turned 18. I think they felt I runined their lives when I left, well they runined my childhood with the backing of the org. All they did was make me feel worthless, and I am not even close to being worthless!
So, those of you that feel worthless or not good enough, I assure you, you are not. Its that strong JW cult mindset, do not let it take over you, you are worth it.
Nikki
