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  Should I DA myself or not?

  by Mrs Smith in

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  this is my first post, some of you have read my hubby's story - agent smith - anyway i was just wondering if i should write a letter to disassociate myself or just leave things as they are.

  i have not been to meetings for about 8yrs but have only just come to realize what a load of rubbish the jw's teach.

  now that i have read "crisis of conscience" i have no doubt that jw's are corrupt.

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  Nowman

  Good Girl/Bad Girl,

  I would like to respond to your post . My mom and dad shunned me from 92-2000, when my mom finally came to her senses and left the cult. I still have not seen my dad since 92, its been 14 years! I guess I feel there is some hope for others now because my mom was a die hard JW, an elders wife, a regular pioneer...etc. She did it. But, for 8 years, I missed her dearly despite my anger I felt towards her. When I was little, it was just me and her, she had been divorced, so she was a single mom, we were really poor, we strugled, but we were close. Then she married my step father, and right about 1983, our lives were consumed with JWism. So, when I left, I could not believe even my own mother would disown me! I was her only child! Then she and I reunited in 2000, it was not so easy at first, we barely knew each other anymore, but she came around, and thats why I feel hope for you, I never thought it would happen. Hopefully, in time, and things don't happen the way the JWs say its going to, maybe she will open her eyes. I just want you to know, that I understand completely, thats all.

  Nikki
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  Did u want to leave the org bcause u were doing something immoral?

  by Will2Power in

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  ..and then sought to justify your leaving the organisation/religion by researching websites like this (to salve your conscience, justify continuing in your pleasurable but unscriptural lifestyle), or did you sincerely leave purely because you discovered certain false teachings, scandals, etc, while still living a moral, christian lifestyle?

  be honest now, i mean really honest.

  (this is not meant to offend anyone but viewed like a survey).

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  Nowman

  Initially, I left the org because of my parents. I could not take them anymore, there was something wrong with my household. I never had the want or need to go back, but I found I still had this mental JW thing going on in my head for years. I left when I was 18 so I do not think I really knew at that time what I had been apart of all those prior years, I was not interested enough to ask questions, or find my own answers, I just wanted to leave because of mom and dad. Eventually, three months later, I did commit fornication and was disfellowshipped for it, because they had no grounds to DF me in the beginning, I did not do anything immoral at 1st.

  Nikki
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  Latest films you saw?

  by greendawn in

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  what's the latest film that you watched on dvd or cinema and would you recommend it or was it bad boring film?

  i haven't watched any films for months now but i will when i restart my satellite tv subscription next month.

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  I just rented "Lucky Number Slevin", with Josh Hartnett(?), Bruce Willis, Lucy Lu, I loved it!! I kinda felt shocked, like what??? How did I miss that, and Morgan Freeman is in it too.

  Nikki
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  When's the last time you went to the Kingdom Hall?

  by JH in

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  it's been a little over a year for me.. about 15 months..

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  Nowman

  15 years ago this month!

  Nikki
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  how many atheist and agnostics on this site

  by dannygwalsh in

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  hi everyone just a question to satisfy my curiosity , and if you are a non believer are you happier for being so

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  Nowman

  I am an agnostic, and I fine with it. I am a person that really doesn't know for sure, and I really don't put alot of effort into finding out. This is because I feel I would wind up back where I started anyway. I think "it is what it is".

  Nikki
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  Jw from Illinois

  by Jeepthing in

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  anyone here from granite city, ill. or area around here?

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  Nowman

  I m from Illinois but never heard of Granite City, could you give me some nearby towns?

  Nikki
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  Was Being A Witness, All THAT Bad???

  by minimus in

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  i mean, you could've been made to be an islamic fundamentalist or something, right?

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  Nowman

  Being a witness was YUCKY

  Having my life now is YUMMY

  Nikki
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  After you left JWs how did you work out what you believe now

  by awol in

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  i left jws 10 yrs ago and have just considered myself drifted.

  never df'd.

  could never go back as i personally found it too hard to live up to.

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  Nowman

  Yes, the world can be a scary place, it always has been really, people just did not hear everything going on because as you know now a days, we can see and hear about everything through TV, radio, internet, etc. But, I can't live my life (now this is me personally) always wondering if I am doing the right thing, but I am not saying that I don't wonder at all, I think being a good human being causes you to wonder if you are doing the right thing or not on occasion.

  I have a family, a really good life which I am proud of. I think to myself, "I must be doing something right" to be blessed with a wonderful husband, a nine year old daughter Haley, and a seven year old son Dylan, and also one on the way, which by the way is a GIRL!!! I ve just learned thoughtout my life that I do not have to have answers to all my former questions. Ok, I do not have faith in some kind of higher power, or what ever, but somehow this is OK with me. I'll find out when I find out, when that happens I do not know.

  Yet, as I said above, this is how I personally feel about it, it works for me. I ve been out of the org for 15 years now, when I 1st left, I constantly struggled with guilt. But that was because I was raised in cult, I was raised to be brainwashed. This went away after some time, I just can't believe, if there is a God, he would destroy all the people that weren't Jehovahs Witnesses, or those that are ignorant. Is God going to destroy my two little children if Armagedon comes because their mom is an apostate? I do not think so. I would not want them to believe in that God anyway.

  So, I ve gone on a tangent. Basically, there were numerous ways to work out what I believe in. It probably will not work for everyone, but it did for me. I want to continue to learn, grow, raise my children, enjoy life...and continue on my free spirited path!

  Nikki
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  question for Atheists with children?

  by unbeliever in

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  what do you tell your children about god or his lack of existance?

  i know i have a long time before i have to deal with this but my jw mom did ask me what i will teach my son about god.

  i have no plans to tell him god is real.

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  Nowman

  I m an agnostic but I am going to reply anyway. I am divorced and remarried. My ex-husbands wife talks about God to my kids alot. Thats ok as long as shes not pushy about it. But, myself, when my kids asks me about God, I tell them how I feel about it, then I tell them its up to them, what they want to be believe in. On the other hand, I also tell them what I know about the bible for education purposes. Obviously, what I have taught them is based on when I was a JW but I try to keep what I have said in line with what other religions teach, (ie: Noah and the ark, etc). I want them to make their own decisions, and without regularity in going to church, or whatever in their childhood, they are growing up just fine.

  Nikki
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  Finally told the family

  by unique1 in

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  while at the great corporate monster we call walley world, i ran into my uncle and aunt.

  all of my family with the exception of my parents are not and have never been in the truth.

  because of this i never really saw them much growing up.

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  Nowman

  Thats what happened to me too 15 years ago. I never really saw my family growing up because my parents and one great aunt were witnesses. So, when I left home at 18, my dad's father and stepmother took me in until I found a place, they were so happy I was not a JW anymore. Same thing with my mom's family. I could attend all the holiday get togethers, it was awesome. It was like getting to know my immediate family all over again. I loved it...

  I am happy for you, maybe they may feel bad for you for all that wasted time, but I know they are so happy to be be able to associate with you as family, to make up for lost time.

  Nikki