Hello xcaliber, and welcome to the discussion board.
I used to feel the same way as you do about the organization. What you have to do is commit yourself to learning both sides of a issue or teaching before you commit yourself to a belief. You will find that truth isn't always as black and white as it seems. Make a commitment to learn both sides of a issue first without prejudging. Check out Freeminds.org
Another thing you have to do is stop being a victum in your own mind. You made the decision to go to bethel. You made the decision not to go to school. You are making the decision to get married right away. You are in control of your life, not the watchtower. If you feel they are overly influencing you, then you may have to make the decision on how much influence they have on you. Start taking responsibility on how your life works out. It will be tough but everyone goes through it. You are still young and have plenty of good years ahead of you. Don't sabotage yourself by cultivating a victums mentality.
Keep checking out this board and it will help you understand many things that the watchtower does that they don't want the friends to know.
thecarpenter
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my bethel servise left me seriously depressed!!!!
by xcaliber ini auxilary pioneered for a year, then i regular pioneered for 2 years while serving as a ministerial servant.
then i served at bethel for 3 years.
while at bethel i worked harder then i have my hole life.
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Nat's gift to Mouthy
by Lady Lee in.
gus_gus, mouthy's daughter and my aunt, asked me to post this for mouthy and nathan.
grace i don't know how you are doing this but every picture i see of you makes you look younger and younger.
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thecarpenter
just order 3 large mugs, one for me and 2 for my poztate buddies. I anticipate that somehow my coffee will taste better in the morning.
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Power of Prayer Demonstrated
by Carmel inlast night i took one of my daughter's highschool friends to the rodeo with me since noone else was interested.
we had a good time with the freebee vip tickets, barby and then the rodeo.
before the first event there was a half hour of pagentry which was okay, but it was interrrupted by an "invocation" by one of the local baptist ministers.
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thecarpenter
Well, I'm praying for my favorite baseball team to win the championship this year so don't jinx me.
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Use the Elder's own rules against them......
by AK - Jeff inthe elder's handbook gives specific areas in which tactics might be developed by some to avoid unwanted disfellowshippings - .
the following appears in that manual - .
baptized persons who have not associated for some time .. if you learn of serious wrongdoing on the part of such a. person, the matter should be investigated if it poses a. threat to the congregation's cleanness and welfare or causes.
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thecarpenter
I'm curious, does anyone know of a poster on JWD who successfully sued the congregation for being disfellowshipped because the elders didn't follow the societies rules? Has anyone successfully sued the society for being disfellowshipped?
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How did you............
by lola28 infind jwd?
i found this website while i was looking for the company that you can get service stuff from, i believed it was the "truth" and was a pioneer at the time, not a pioneer anymore.
so how did you get here and what has changed in your life since you found this place?.
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thecarpenter
Well, I found the freeminds site first and read through it; felt bad at first but realized what randy said was probably true.
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RichieRich.........where are you?
by HappyDad inok guys..................... .
we all have posted over the last year how much we love rr........but he has gone missing for almost a month.
his last topic was june 23 and his last post was june 30. .
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thecarpenter
hey buddy, good to see you are alive and kicking. I like your tatto, for a second I felt like getting the same one... only a moment though, then it passed.
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JWS in the Indianapolis Star
by mrsjones5 intry not to puke .
http://www.indystar.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?aid=/20060722/living09/607220373/1111.
josie
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thecarpenter
the reporter was Robert King. Isn't he a JW apologist?
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Jdub's in my life...
by Helmus inhi my name is mike aka helmus and i am new to this forum.
i want to start out by saying hello to already current members: hi.
anyway, i logged on to this forum because i have a deep concern regarding the jehovah's witnessess.
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thecarpenter
That's my take on it, I think you are obsessing too much. Sometimes we fill our minds with all sorts of anxieties for no good reason other that a underlying feeling of self loathing for some inadequacy or past sin. Also you seem to ruminate a lot about jdub teaching, I agree with damselfly that you may want to get checked out for compulsion and anxiety disorders.
If you feel like reading, check out the 'Feeling Good Handbook' by dr. David Burns. Very helpful book.
Also, if there are specific Jdub teachings that are bothering you, feel free to post a topic and many will help you with the reasoning.
Welcome to the board Helmus.
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Opposers of Watchtower Society Challenged
by Kenneson intopics she/ he(?
) wants to discuss are the watchtower un-ngo and 587-607 b.c.
} also badmouthed silent lambs, etc.
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thecarpenter
Luukkkeeee, join the dark side... You don't know the power of the dark side.....
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Update! The pressure is rising, Elders on my trail!
by drew sagan inhere is yet another update on what is going on in my world.
the elder i talked to a while back just couldn't let it be and now want's to have another discussion.
he now wants to meet with with another elder from the hall.
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thecarpenter
Hey Drew
I just went through something similar. I spoke to the elder as truthfully as I can without getting into too much detail. One thing I did do was to ask him how he reconciled the generation of 1914. I told them that I gave up so much because of the strong definitiveness of the society about that time period and yet I felt serious reservations about that date. Interestingly, when he started talking about his experience, he sounded like a apostate, criticizing Fred Franz and some of the societies views.From now on, when a elder speaks with me, I am going to respectfully and i mean respectfully throw the ball back in their court and have them explain things to me. (note: this may not work if the elder is dishonest dimwit)