Posts by merfi

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missed out

by aoxo in

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because i grew up in the truth i missed out on a whole lot of kids at school that i could have been great friends with.

also a couple of girls that i could have had a first relationship with.

i missed out on family moments each year exchanging gifts with relatives that i could have enjoyed (or not enjoyed) seeing during holidays.

I became a dub at age 20-ish, married a dub, lived the dub life until a few months ago when I DA'd. So, what I missed out on was having a LIFE in my 20's, starting with marrying the wrong person. There are more "worldly" guys out there with greater integrity, loyalty etc than the idiot I married thinking that the marriage would "just work" because it was Jah-blessed. WItness marriages never go wrong if ya put J first, ya know.

I missed out on FUN summer vacations, wasting money and time instead on conventions.

I missed out on doing fun stuff with friends (wanna go get a drink after work Rach?) as it was "bad association".

I missed out on giving my kids b-day parties and presents. Same for Christmas and any other "kid" holiday.

I missed out on good TV... Friends, ER were on Thursday nights...

I missed out on a LOT of family gatherings, which is the thing that hurts the most. (My family isn't JW) They get together for July 4th, Xmas and any birthdays that they can. I opted out for so many years... and missed so much.

I have a lot of regrets, but trying to not dwell on it but move forward... Jumping into the "World" with both feet and it's not only enjoyable out here, but just ... nice. So, although I've missed out on a LOT of things (even as an adult), there is still much time to live life.

~merfi

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Are you pleased with or do you hate your job?

by greendawn in

are you pleased with your job or do you hate it, and if you don't like it then what would you prefer to do instead?

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i work as a science teacher and i enjoy teaching so i am happy with it.

merfi

Going to school next year to be a lab tech, can't wait! So excited.

Welcome to a great profession! That's what I am and love it!

~merfi

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The name Jehovah and demons.

by Zico in

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the society teaches that if unexplainable things are happening in your home, then shouting out the name jehovah will cause them to stop.

as you probably know, this is meant to be because these strange things are caused by demons, which may have posessed an object from your home, which was previously used in demonic activity.

but, supposedly, since they fear jehovah, shouting out this name can cause these things to stop, even if only temporarily.

merfi

I don't know where my 10 year old heard this, but she does it when she has to go downstairs at night to get water... all alone and dark, and she freaks a bit so says "jehovah". It told her it was disrespectful and superstitious. I suppose it works for her to chase away the willies, but I've told her that she's brave and strong and... yeah. I hope it ends soon. I try to accompany her into the lairs of my dark kitchen so that she doesn't have to be alone. Hopefully she'll one day outgrow it.

~merfi

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Does your personal vehicle reflect your personality?

by Gregor in

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there is a clever volkswagen tv ad currently running in the u s that depicts various types of people driving cars that reflect their personality, like older males driving sleek sports cars to compensate for their "shortcomings" or a younger man driving an expensive european sedan as he pronounces with a bullhorn "because my father never hugged me!

or another who says "because i make more money than you!

have any of you ever gotten your self image tangled up with a vehicle?

merfi

Most definitely!! I drive a jeep... if it's above 50 degrees, the top and doors are off. It's my therapy vehicle -- crummy head and heart days will find me out driving around, thru mud, snow and other crud to clear away the cobwebs. I love it because it is SO "me" -- it's open, sunny, happy and free.

Methinks it probably reflects me TOO well as the elders 'counseled' me on owning it, calling it impractical. About the time that WT came out with a pic of a family driving a topless jeep by a group of JW out in FS. They suggested a "4-door sedan" as something more practical. Whatever. See how "practical" their 90's model Buicks are when they're stuck in the snow in the rurals during FS. haha

~merfi, of the Jeep Chick class

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HELP.... kingdom hall to be erected in my community....town meeting!

by meljon in

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just spoke with the mayor of our town about a notice in this mornings paper, re the jws are applying to build a hall in our community,,,,,,,,, would anyone care to comment on what they would say at this meeting?

i mentioned to him that it is a cult and i do not want it in our town.

he admitted he didnt know much about the jws and their beliefs and i told him about the abuse and actions being handled by the elders and not the police and also the non government views.

merfi

You could always mention how much traffic there will be because of all the meeting throughout the week. JW say "five" meetings (although we know it's really kinda THREE) which sounds like a LOT of coming and going, so use that... If its building is being proposed in a residential or clost to residential area, I'd doubt the people who live there would like that much traffic....

~merfi

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What is your favorite Chinese Food?

by averyniceguy in

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i like orange beef.

what about you?

merfi

Cat legs

LMAO... When we go out for Chinese at our local place, they have that pink pork stuff on a stick. We call it "cat on a stick" The kids believed it for awhile and wouldn't touch it.

~merfi

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What is your favorite Chinese Food?

by averyniceguy in

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i like orange beef.

what about you?

merfi

I like the whole buffet... But lean towards the Hunan Chicken...

If it has green peppers in it - forget it.

My favorite is my own fried rice.

~merfi

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If I could hug you all!

by 5thGeneration in

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man i would love a hug from all of you right now!

a real, warm, christian hug!

i am in total dismay, confusion and am totally pissed at the "truth".

merfi

Here's a big warm ((((hug)))) from me.

Plus a shoulder to lean on (adding to the collective one you have here ), eyes to read whatever you need to say and a heart reaching out to yours.

It will get better in time. You'll make it through.

~merfi

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Watchtower assaults its youth fear/guilt/baptism and career July 1, 2006

by truthseeker in

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if we imagined for one moment that the majority of youths get baptized, then the july 1, 2006 wt paints a very different picture.

there must be a serious problem in the organization for the society to write so strong an article.

july 1, 2006 wt youths, make it your choice to serve jehovah.

merfi

What is the date for doing that study at meeting...?

My kids are 8-12, so at prime pickin's for this stupid article. I've already tried to lay some groundwork -- telling the oldest that Jesus wasn't baptized until he was 30... that the Society(tm) says to wait until mature to marry as younger ones are too young to make such a huge life-affecting decision...so baptism should be later in life as well...

They go with the ex for the summer and I'm hoping that this article is studied on my weekend with the kids (meaning we skip) or enough into August that they're home w/me after their summer vacay.

So yeah, the short version of this is my first question.

~merfi

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Any question that most witnesses are whacked? (video)

by Jourles in

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yet another example of ludicrousness.

obviously this was a homemade video production.

it came from a jw chain email.

merfi

That was pretty gaggy. The music was the best part, but it makes me pretty mad to have them use a little kids' Sunday School song to mean Satan, when when *I* learned it, it meant Jesus.

Friggin cult.

~merfi