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  If you could turn back time, how far would you crank the hands of time?

  by avidbiblereader in

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  how far in your life would you turn back time and why?

  what would you hope to change?.

  abr.

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  merfi

  I've thought about this now and then.... I have a lot of different dates that I'd 'go back' to, for different reasons. The main date that I'd go back to would be somewhere in August of 1990. This is when my then-boyfriend, now ex-husband chose me out of two of us that he was 'dating'. Oh I was soooo lucky, the chosen one. It wasn't a good way to start a marriage and obviously his cheating ways didn't end with the 'courtship' phase... I remember during that summer having a conversation with my dad about all this two-timing crap that was happening. He said "a leopard doesn't change its spots" A 21yo know-it-all, I just blew it off. But he was right.

  HOWEVER -- if I was to undo all the time in between 1990 and now, yes, I'd undo the JW years, the messed up years of marriage and a lot of turmoil that goes with both of those things, but I'd also not have my three little people, be at the job I love, have the friends I have and be falling all-soul and all-heart in [I haven't said this out loud yet] love with someone who completes my whole life....

  So while there are a lot of regrets in the past 15 or so years, there's also a lot of things learned, overcome and enjoyed, and I probably at this point would leave the hands of time right where they're at.

  ~merfi
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  Look what I got last night :)

  by misanthropic in

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  2. friends

  he's 7 weeks old, he's a chocolate lab and i named him tony.

  his eye isn't messed up it just looks that way because i was trying to get his face to look forward while i pushed the button all at once.

  he kept me up all night last night crying, but hopefully just like with my beagle he will outgrow that.

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  merfi

  Give her a lab rat.....

  Hey, we lab rats are ok...

  What a sweet puppy, Misanthropic! My man has a 9yo chocolate lab. Sweet dog.

  ~merf
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  Did you enjoy personal study?

  by Fleshybirdfodder in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  let me preface this by saying how much i enjoy learning.

  i read constantly.

  but as for "personal study", i did my best... i forced myself, but could never get into it.

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  merfi

  I always tried to enjoy it, but never really did. I did the quick highlight before meetings and that's about it. The times I *did* attempt to do a "deeper things" study, I'd get bored and sleepy.
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  Say What's On Your Mind

  by minimus in

  1. jw
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  go ahead.....speak your mind!

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  merfi

  On my mind.. hmm...

  It's come up 20 degrees from the -13 this morning and I'll be venturing outside in about an hour for work. Work has been pissing me off lately as everyone seems to be getting in touch with their lazy sides and leaving me with all the crap. Micromanaging sucks and I'm tired of it; I have my own stuff to do, not the boss's pet's projects that she gets credit for anyway when she passes them on to us pee-ons. Otherwise, I absolutely love it there and figure they'll throw me a retirement party there around 2033. Good lord....

  I just ebay'd my clothes for our employee banquet next month. The theme is 70's so I found a psychedelic mini dress and some white go-go boots. This is gonna be so fun....

  My kids are awesome. One was sick last week but fine now. I did her bloodwork which showed it to be a viral thing that she just had to lay on the couch, take Tylenol and wait out. Hopefully the other two won't get it. My oldest just had her little 13yo heart broken yesterday when her boyfriend of a month broke up with her at lunch through his friends. She drowned herself in chocolate and msn last night, so hopefully today is a better day. Little guy is beyond excited about his new jeans from Bomgaars.

  My love life rocks.

  I need a haircut. My living room needs new curtains. My coffee pot is nearly empty.

  A life in the day of the merf....
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  Are you vindictive?

  by free2beme in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  once you left the witnesses, did you want some sort of revenge?

  when you left relationships in your past, did you do something to harm the other person with words or actions?

  when you left jobs, did you bad mouth your employer with a hope of harming him/her financially?

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  Um, I can be... But usually it's in thought only; I'm not a very good at the follow-through, which is probably a good thing. I've had ideas of putting Kool-aid packets on the windshields at the KH, writing a special Christmas letter to all the JWs in my old cong and other somewhat prank-y things. But I then remind myself to take the higher road and not let them get to me. Suck up, move on and smile....

  I'm pretty good with the poison pen/keyboard to the ex when he pisses me off about stuff, but I wouldn't really call that vindictive. He usually just strikes a nerve and I have to open the can of written whoopass on him.

  One thing vindictive that I did and not proud of, is take pix of an almost-ex's jeep hidden in the shadows of new girlfriend's garage and give them to the elders.

  I'm learning to let it go...
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  Scrub a Dub... today's text messages to the ex

  by merfi in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  so i texted the jw ex today to ask the name of a co so that i might add to the thread... here's how it went:.

  me: what was the name of the co that was a creep & bald & had a sunburnt head from golfing?.

  him: what does it matter @ this point?.

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  merfi

  Merfi--- Any chance it was Tarbert? Did he seem gay and give talks in really superficial tone?

  Nope, I remembered who it was... Brudda Hall. His wife was Kay. He was a mean bastard and his poor wife was one of those repressed-looking cold fish types. Sad.
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  Scrub a Dub... today's text messages to the ex

  by merfi in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  so i texted the jw ex today to ask the name of a co so that i might add to the thread... here's how it went:.

  me: what was the name of the co that was a creep & bald & had a sunburnt head from golfing?.

  him: what does it matter @ this point?.

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  merfi

  So I texted the JW ex today to ask the name of a CO so that I might add to the thread... here's how it went:

  me: what was the name of the CO that was a creep & bald & had a sunburnt head from golfing?
  him: what does it matter @ this point?
  me: my xjw friends are comparing COs. thx anyway :)
  him: toxic wasteland
  me: independent free thinking haven 4 smart ppl who escaped :)
  him: blinded by fury 4 something that u will never b able to see until it is too late
  me: LOL u & ur blind faith & silliness don't scare me. no fury (LOL) just amusement.
  him: nice try
  me: :)

  What an idiot, but fun to mess with.
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  More JW folklore

  by looking_glass in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  folklore, wives tales, or jw bs, whatever you want to call it, i am sure it will pass around the globe in record time and become an honest to goodness truth.. .

  prayers of children (experience).

  this experience was given at a circuit assembly in california.

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  merfi

  Ya know, there was a time that a story like that would have brought tears to my eyes... Now it just brings that icky feeling to my throat.
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  Gross things little boys did this morning..........calgon take me away!

  by kitten whiskers in

  1. social
  2. humour

  prepare to be grossed out.

  if you've never been around little boys, you're gonna flip.

  my kids had the neighbors over for a sleep over last night.

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  merfi

  I did torture the family cat, occasionally putting a sock on her head or putting her in a box and watch her try to squeeze out...

  OMG, I do this and I'm a 38yo female.
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  How are you ringing in 2007?

  by frozen one in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i'll rephrase that so not to appear so us-centric.

  how are you or how did you ring in 2007?.

  the last few years have been very low key.

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  merfi

  bet my 'how we met' story tops all of yours, though...

  Spill when you have time!

  Mine is just classic 'look across a crowded room'. "Room" happened to be a bar.... That's it, my story. :)