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  How did your JC meeting affect your life?

  by hopelesslystained in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  here's my story: .

  i had only one experience of being counseled by the elders, and it was in a tribunal thingy many years ago when i was 18 living at home with my 'presiding overseer' father.

  my dad was overly upset imagining i was smoking pot!???

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  I was 32 years old when I consented to a JC. I took a tranquillizer and went. I was baffled and taken aback. The effect was that I walked away with the full understanding that I had been duped, that God was not in any of this nonsense, and the elders were a bunch of Society-men hypocrites.

  Yeah, this pretty much sums up my experience. Only I was 37, had nothing on board (I wish I'd have thought of it though) and have not gone back at all... My JC was a foregone conclusion, but they mentally and emotionally tortured me for four hours. I was sent out twice, during which I was able to eavesdrop enough to realize that there was no way this was going to go well. But in actuality, it DID go well as it was the smack upside the head that I needed to realize this religion is a farce, run by power-tripping men and basically stoopid. And I was outta there, never going back.... Wrote my DA letter that night and was announced a week later. Sweet freedom.

  So yes, my JC was totally life-changing. It got me out.

  ~merfi
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  Emoticons

  by exwitless in

  1. social
  2. humour

  is it possible to carry on a thread using only emoticons?

  let's try.

  i'll start:.

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  merfi
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  Emoticons

  by exwitless in

  1. social
  2. humour

  is it possible to carry on a thread using only emoticons?

  let's try.

  i'll start:.

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  merfi
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  The things I see (This last weeks photos)

  by Sparkplug in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  and wanted to share.

  all day long on weekends, lunch, breaks and such there are moments that calm me.

  silly stuff.

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  merfi

  I absolutely love those pictures -- especially the Gran and baby. You've got a wonderful talent!

  What kind of camera set up do you use?

  ~merfi
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  imagine written by john lennon

  by alexrae in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  does anyone know the lyrics to the song imagine written by a sister that supposedly lives in ireland?.......she supposedly changed the lyrics and im curious about it.

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  merfi

  my dad always says about that song "he's singing about Paradise™ you know."

  My ex-MIL told that to my kids in front of me once (my 12yo was going thru a huge Beatles phase). I got a disgusted look on my face and the kids figured it was just more of Nanny's bullshit... ~merfi
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  How Did Being Referred To As A “Brother” Or “Sister” Make You Feel?

  by The wanderer in

  1. jw
  2. friends

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  during my tenure as a jehovahs witness, i brought it to the elders attention to refer to .

  me by using my first or last name when addressing me.

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  merfi

  did the Society use the term “brothers”and “sisters” to unite or further
  indoctrinate?

  bingo.

  At the time, I felt part of the 'club'. Now it kinda creeps me out.

  ~merfi
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  Father's Day is Coming...

  by esw1966 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i have been out for 2 years now.

  i have spoken once to my father who is a jw in that time.

  he said i would get a letter from him telling me where to 'straighten up', but it has never come.

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  I guess I'd do one of two things -- either just send a Father's Day card with maybe a personal note if you really want to sorta use the holiday, or call him and tell him you're thinking of him without mentioning the holiday.

  That's just my opinion, tho :)

  ~merfi
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  Long Beach Convention weekend is over!

  by Highlander in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  this weekend was my wife's convention.

  i attended with her on friday morning.

  she attended alone during the afternoon as i had some clients to meet with for my business.

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  Ohhhhh that picture made my stomach crimp up a bit and my hair go cold. Bad bad memories....

  Thanks for sharing, tho.

  ~merfi
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  Why are congregations dissolved?

  by mtsgrad in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  only once in my life have i heard of a congregation being dissolved (closed down) for reasons of sin.. .

  has anyone here heard of congs being closed down?

  how often does it happen?

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  I have heard of it happening twice, I was not at either. The first was in the 1970's, in South Carolina. Mom said that it happened because of something called wife swapping. The elders were all disfellowshipped. And the other was in Iowa, don't know of the details, but one JW sister who was there said that the elders were teaching something other than what the Watchtower in New York was instructing. The elders were all disfellowshipped also. Woop I'm bad, the congeration at Iowa was not dissolved, but all the elders, but one was removed. And he was the one sent in as a spy to see if the acuations were true or not.

  You don't remember the town, do you? Gilmore City maybe....? ~merfi
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  letter to parents of molesting ex-husband---FEEDBACK PLEASE!!!

  by J-ex-W in

  1. watchtower
  2. child-abuse

  trying to get topic page started (keep getting 'error page' instead)...hopefully letter will show in next post....

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  hmm.. if you're trying to paste from Word, it won't work. Do a copy/paste from Wordpad is the advice I was given. Being unable to find it, I copy/pasted my Word thing into an email which changed the format. Then copy/pasted it here. Voila!

  ~merfi

  ETA: nevermind, looks like ya got it. Off to read...