Posts by poodlehead

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I dont want to face death

by LovesDubs in

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i just heard that two of the fathers of childhood friends of mine, one of them the first boy i ever loved, and the other the head of a good catholic family with eight kids who lived across the street from us, died within days of each other.

im my mind, those families are frozen in time about 35 years ago when i last saw any of them, and i couldnt conceive of them being gone.. i dont know why but those two men being gone really got to me.

i wasnt close to them or anything but it brought home the very real thought that my own parents are going to go soon...and leave me and my two sibs on the planet to carry on.

poodlehead

Mortality has hit me when I was very young so I had to deal with much younger than most. I am a only child with no Aunts, Uncles and only one distant cousin who I have never met. My Father died when I was 20 and I lost my mother eight years ago. So the only living relative I have is my son. I also had a near death experience about 13 years ago. That will really wake you up. I flat lined and had zero percent oxygen in my blood stream. So you could say I was brain dead as well. It took me years to get over it and then lost my mother and went through that.

But I guess you could say it changed me. I stoped doing what was expected of me and started living for me. Not putting things off but doing them now. The few friends I have I try to treat like gold. I have remarried and he comes from a big family. Not why I chose him but what a blessing it has been. I love his mother almost as much as I love my own. Her English is terrible but she tries so hard to talk to me and let me know how much she loves me. I feel God has given her and his family to me when I really needed a family. She made a speach at our wedding and told me "You think all the family you have is your son. But this is not true. Everyone in this room is your family now. Because you love my son and make him so happy. I love you and you are my daughter." Okay there wasn't a dry eye in the house.

My point is, sometimes family comes in a different package. The people who come in and out of your life, let them know DAILY you love them. Then when they leave they stay a part of your life. Just some advice.

15

Urban Legend

by Siddhashunyata in

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don't know if this has been posted somewhere but i just received it in an email : ( for your encouragement.

"thought you'd all enjoy this experience.. > .

> this is an experience from andre' ramseyer, overseer, just back from the.

poodlehead

But that is not the whole story. That is the part the JW's tell. But I talked to the man who got the dog after the second man died and got the whole story. The man was later disfellowshiped. YEAH shocking! Aparrantly the dog took him to kingdom hall on Tuesday, Thursday and Sunday. But Monday was bingo night at Our Lady of Lords. Wensday night was book night at the 25 cent peep show. Friday night was down the dark alley to pick up the stash for the next week. But Saturday the dog got really excited for. Dress up night at the Iron Spur a great leather bar. Who knew dogs can be drag queens.

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How about this one ?

by Free in

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i was visiting some friends from out of state that had moved there from my hometown.

when one of the friends that was from their cong.

( pioneer ) said they wanted to get their time started before are 4 hour trip to a national park walked into a supermarket to hand out a tract.

poodlehead

Boy does this bring back memories that I really don't want to remember.

Like sitting in a car with a pioneer and trying to remember someone who is studing's address. So we can catch them at home and bring up two words and leave a magazine and then maybe go swimming or lunch with the person and count the time.

I have heard the vacation thing before and couldn't believe it then. Who do they think they are kidding. "Must keep up with the Jones or JW's.

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I fired the Watchtower Society

by LeftBehind in

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a lot has happened since i last posted.

i was caught associating with my apostate brother at my own house.

we were eating together.

poodlehead

That is great! I am so happy for you. Well partially happy. I wish things were different with your family, but you had to expect that. But you made us all laugh if that makes any difference.

take care

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Really serious question!

by 5thGeneration in

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drifting away is one thing.

i'm curious if anyone has written a letter (not a disassociation letter) that simply told their friends and loved ones that you don't really believe a lot of it anymore and blah, blah, blah.. or is it better to shut up and just never show up again.. problem is my wife says if i want to leave that i have to fess up and tell people.

ouch!.

poodlehead

Personally I did what you called faded. But I look at more like, why do I have to explain myself to them. When I needed help with my marriage, where were they. When I needed love and a friend, where were they. When I needed understanding and compassion, where were they.

So now I am to do what they would like and write a letter explaining why I don't want to be a witness. Kiss my ....... I think you get the idea.

You don't really think you could possible reach them and have them understand do you? They will just think you have given yourself to the devil.

As for your wife, she can disagree with what you chose to do, and still except you. Me and my husband don't agree on a lot of things. But we respect the others decisions and except them.

Good luck

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The Best I've Heard Yet

by Gordy in

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tonight i had a call from one of my daughters (16) who is not a jw.

she wanted to borrow some money.

so she could go and attend a funeral.

poodlehead

Oh this is nothing new. As a matter of fact my ex-husband tried to stop my son 14 from being in my wedding because of the same reason. Even though it was not in a church, he had the balls to ask if there would be praying. I wanted to tell him, we would only be praying for the JW's. But I bit my tounge. My son did come and it really pissed him off.

What pissed me off was they reconized the location of the wedding site. Now a garden club with a wedding hall and gazebo. But at one time it was a Kingdom Hall. Sometimes you just can't win.

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Another JW Suicide

by orangefatcat in

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yes last thursday a young brother who was in the same hall as me but in the other cong.

and he was 29, a newborn baby and a 2or 3 year old and young wife committed suicide.

was killed here in our town of newmarket by a train.

poodlehead

I find it so interesting that suicide is so high with JW. I know I had a problem with suicidal tendencies while a JW. It has gotten much better since I have left but it is something I still deal with. Mine is chemical. But it was definatly fueled by how unhappy I was as a Witness. Especially when everyone else seemed so happy. Aparantly they weren't but if they were unhappy as a JW they sure didn't tell anyone. And those with depression never would say it was because they were unhappy with there lives. It was always the devils fault.

I know I deal with problems of feeling alone. It can be overwhelming. That may have been the apeal of JW's to me in the first place. The whole one big happy family. So I am thinking, and here is my question. Does being a Witness drive you to suicide or because of certain peoples inclinations are they attracted to JW's? Think about all the half crazy people you knew when you were a JW. I myself knew one sister tried to kill herself 18 times in two years and was hospitalized 3 times. Yet she feels safe as a witness. Crazy among crazies. I have to admit I didn't have to go far to run into many people dealing with depression.

But I think another big issue is, that they don't get professional help. Some would agree to Anti-depressants. But not therapy. I got a lot more help from therapy than drug. Actually the drugs caused more problems. I even halucanated. Which was frightening. Then I really thought I was nuts! But therapy is not looked favorably because they se it as someone messing with your head. Demons and all that crap. But it works! You learn what triggers your problems and how to avoid them. This is what keeps me going.

It anyone needs to talk about this subject I am here. Or if you have lost someone and don't understand maybe I can shed some light. Feel free to contact me.

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I have a question.

by poodlehead in

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i am new hear and i have tried to catch up with all that everyone is talking about.

but one had still confussed me.

jehovahs witnesses and the united nations?

poodlehead

I am new hear and I have tried to catch up with all that everyone is talking about. But one had still confussed me.

Jehovahs Witnesses and the United Nations? What was that? I missed that one. Everyone keeps talking about it. So it must be a good one.

Thanks

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Happy Freaking mother's day to me...when your mom is crazy as a loon.

by Fleur in

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those who have known me for any length of time through these forums know that my mom is, at best, unique, and at worse, totally freaking nuts.

i went to see her yesterday, specifically.

i didn't want to, i am honest enough to admit that.

poodlehead

I am so sorry you are going through this. My Mother had demetia before she died and it was a roller coaster I never wanted to go on. Not to mention she was Bio Polar in the extreme. She had been very abusive to me as a child and frankly I hated to be around her. But I tried to do what I could. I know that feeling of guilt for not wanting to see her and then when you do go all you can think about is.....How long do I have to stay. I know it's hard thing to do, but don't let your guilt eat you up. Do what you can. You have to take care of yourself first.

I am not a Doctor and this is just a guess. But it sounds like your Mother is a Paraniod Skisafrenic. ( I can't spell so forgive me.) Like I said that's only a guess. But if I am right, they may be why she is attracted to JW. They all think Demons are everywhere. She probable was more able to hide it when she was younger. But with years without treatment she is getting worse. I will tell you that there are wonderful medications out there that will help. I have known others that it has. But they have to be supervised. They love the rush they feel when they are completely crazy. Taking meds makes them feel normal. But to them normal is the walking dead, compared to the high they have been on.

I would definatly try to step in and get her help. I know you probable wont get much help from your family. But you can try on your own. If the right doctor sees her condition he will make sure she is taken care of. And that doesn't always mean hospitalization. Remember mental health care is very expensive, the insurance companys don't want her in the hospital. So they will try to work on a out patient basis first. If that doesn't work then hospitalization.

Don't take it lightly she is a danger to her self and others. It may not seem it to you. But until you are with her 24/7 you really don't get a clear picture of how bad she is. If what you see scares you. Imagine what you are not seeing.

If you need to talk to me feel free. Leave me a message. I am very concerned for your mother and you and your family. This can destroy everyones life. Take care sweety.

27

What do you consider yourself?

by poodlehead in

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i have wondered how each of you classifies yourself.

as regards to religion.

this is for my own person interest.

poodlehead

Just for the record I am a #2. But I have felt a little of all of them at one time or another.