Quandry

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  Your final WTF? Moment!

  by restrangled in

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  it was a long time coming for me.....when i read about the extened generations, after being raised on1914 being the be all end all, and millions would never die....that was the end.

  i was part of the 1975 fiasco, the 6 month only truth book studies, suffered through a disifellowshipping and their version of a rewind.

  i finally am free and hope others can eventually look in instead of inside looking out!

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  Quandry

  One of the things that really got to me was the 1995 generation change. The generation were now people who saw things happening but did not "mend thier ways." I also was around in 1975, and had swallowed the gobbledygook that spewed out when they blamed JWs for reading things into what the WTS said. But I had studied the "Truth Book" which had clearly stated that those of an age of understanding in 1914-the great tribulation would be "the generation."

  When the 1995 change came out, I remember sitting at the KHall, looking at others around me, and noting that the WT study was "business as usual" as if nothing new had happened. I spoke to my husband about it. He was an elder, and the WT conductor. I remember having an uneasy feeling that I was "questioning" and shouldn't do this, but couldn't reconcile the "new light." Inside I began to have a queasy feeling....how I wish I had gone with that gut feeling then, but hung on for some years.
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  Farewell from Confused and Alone

  by confusedandalone in

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  i use to hate when people who made goodbye posts on message boards.

  why would they think that just because you no longer post on a chevy truck forum or a los angeles lakers forum the world would crumble around those still left there.

  this place is definitely different.

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  Quandry

  Best wishes for the future for you and your family.

  So happy to hear that you are going back to school to get your degree. You are now the master of your fate....instead of the WTS doing the "research" for you, you will dig into knowledge. I hope you find it fascinating, and never stop learning. (After over 30 years in-I went back to school and earned a degree in History at 60 years old)

  When you do finish the degree, please let us know; if any other milestone event happens in your life, fill us in.
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  Full Moon tonight

  by eva luna in

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  friday the 13th meets the honey moon tonight.. the other name used is strawberry moon.. how sweet is that?.

  smile.

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  Quandry

  Thanks for sharing! I will certainly go out and look tonight! I saw the spacestation go by about a week ago here in Houston. Very cool to see.
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  Just letting you know I passed the exam

  by will-be-apostate in

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  hi, my apostate friends.. a couple of weeks ago i asked for some advice regarding studying methods.

  then some of you asked me to let you know my score after i take the exam at mineralogy.. i scored 90%.

  i'm pretty happy with it because the exams i take are not in my native language.. if i keep up with the good scores i might get a scholarship and then bye bye watchtower society.

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  Quandry

  Congratulations.

  Isn't it great to chart your own course in life, make goals, and then achieve them? No more "The Society has done the research for you."
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  Get well Grace (Mouthy)

  by label licker in

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  a loud get well grace from all of us to you.

  everyone, grace has been in and out of the hospital and i'm sure she would love to read your get wells.

  we miss you grace:) wish i could post pictures.

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  Quandry

  Oh, no, Granny Grace! So sorry to hear that you are not feeling well.

  Please know that our thoughts are with you, day and night. You have done so much for so many. I know you were here when I came several years ago, and I feel as though I know you through your kind postings. You have always welcomed new ones to the forum and made them feel at home.

  You always had compassionate things to say to people. To me that is what being a Christian is truly about.
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  Hello

  by venting in

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  just wanted to say hello.

  i have alot to say, but i'm not good at typeing.

  i'm still in the org.

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  Quandry

  Welcome to the forum. Glad you have woken up.

  Please let the real you shine through so that you can be kind to all, especially your family if they are not "in the truth." You will never regret it.
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  After leaving did the feeling go away?

  by committeechairman in

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  the feeling that you're never good enough.

  the feeling that you're wicked and evil.. .

  because i'd give anything not to feel this way.

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  Quandry

  I was "in" for over thirty years. During that time, you are programmed to think of yourself as never good enough. Whatever you did, someone in an underpriveleged country did after walking on one leg thirty miles and crossing a crocodile infested river to boot. Add to that, I was a lowly sister. My husband was an elder for over twenty years, and well thought of, giving talks everywhere, including District Assemblies. I was a very good bathroom cleaner, driver in service, volunteer for talks, hostess for visiting speaker, house cleaner for book study group, etc.

  Here's what I did to feel better. I went to a local community college, then a close University. I enjoyed every minute of study, worked like a dog, and graduated Magna Cum Laude with a degree in History, something that has long interested me. I then went through Alternative Certification to be a teacher, because I worked as a teacher's aide in an elementary school and realized that now, although I felt better about myself, I didn't have many options with a history degree being sixty years old. After again working hard to get this certification, I got a job as a fifth grade teacher-language arts, reading, social studies. I worked harder this year than I ever thought I could.

  But guess what? With all that effort comes a real sense of achievement, and satisfaction.

  What do you want to pursue? I say GO FOR IT! If I could do it at my age most surely you can do it whatever your age and circumstances. You must make a goal and then work like hell to achieve it. But this goal and this work will be up to you...not an appointment by Holy Spirit or a group of men that decide on your qualifications.
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  Men's hair

  by Mark_C in

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  many of my church leaders have inisisted that short hair for men is a strict scriptural doctrine, and not to be argued against.

  what do people think?.

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  Quandry

  They will show you the scripture that says that a man should not dress or look like a woman. However, just what length is acceptable is not given in the Bible. Should the hair touch the shoulders? Should it be a buzz cut? How about an inch above the eyebrows for boys like it used to be when I was in high school in the 1960s?

  You are now entering a realm in which opinion will rule. You must wear a tie to meetings. Some congregations will not allow a speaker to wear a colored shirt-it must be white. Some congregations feel that a person in field service should have on a jacket, even in very hot weather.

  In addition, you should not get any higher education (college), play violent video games, go on social media, have hobbies that might encroach on your Bible study time, associate with other than Jehovah's Witnesses, be alone with a member of the opposite sex without a chaparone, see any Disney movie that has extra-terrestrials or fantasy-which pretty much rules out many of them, and many other rules that others might add to this list.

  I was a JW for over thirty years. The thing that I regret most (out of many) is that I did not have time for my parents who were not JWs because all my time was taken up going to meetings and out in field service. Also, they were not good association from the Witness point of view. They are both gone now and what I wouldn't give to take them on a vacation-something I never did, or invite them to visit my home-something that I seldom did. Just to tell them that I appreciated what they did for me-something I didn't because they were "worldly."

  Please take time to research this group, and read more on this forum to educate yourself.

  Wishing you the best.

  Quandry
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  Missing my Mom

  by exwhyzee in

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  she and my dad brought us to the u.s. from ireland in hopes of giving the 4 of us kids a better life with more opportunities.. mom went to school in her village where her mother (my grandmother) was the teacher and the bible was part of the curriculum.

  they even used the name jehovah.

  her father was a plymouth brethern (think amish or quaker) who was shunned for the rest of his life for marrying my grandmother who wasn't "in the lord"...she belonged to church of ireland.. when the witnesses came to the door after we arrived in the u.s, mom was a shoe-in candidate for their recruitment.

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  Quandry

  Your mother is indeed a beauty. I love to hear an Irish accent, also. I am sure that I, too, would be mesmerized, even though already a JW.

  I'll bet you are right about her "waking up" eventually after all the changes in the generation, governing body, etc. and lack of responsibility for announcing (which they did-I was there) that the end would come in 1975.

  My mother and father died before I fully "came out" of the organization. I kept them at arm's length over thirty years because, of course, they were "worldly" and I couln't be contaminated too much by them. When I think of all the Christmases and birthdays that we could have spent together, well, it's not easy to contemplate. I absolutely can't dwell on it too much or I'd have severe deperession.

  I hate that organization.....
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  I be a walkin......

  by out4good3 in

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  across that stage tommorrow dressed in graduate garb picking up a masters degree.. .

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  Quandry

  Well done...a lot of hard work...hope it brings you many good things.