So selfish!
I feel bad for all the people who are now so disillutioned after trying to "help" her. They will be much less likely to help a truly deserving person when a real need arises.
Quandry
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An observation on being free of WT busywork...
by undercover ini was looking at my calender for the remainder of the year and realized just how busy we are.
visiting friends out of town.
friends visiting us from out of town.
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Quandry
I look back and don't know how I did it.
I'm with you, Serenity. When my daughter was just born, my husband (elder) was asked to go to a congregation that was over thirty minutes away. I was breast-feeding at the time, but we would go all the way to the KHall for service on Saturday, home for lunch, then back to clean when our turn, then sometimes, hubbie would have to go back a third time for a meeting. Ack! Always in a hurry, never time to just enjoy a pleasant walk or talk to our child.
Of course, when they keep people so busy, they don't have time to research or question things, either.
Glad I'm out of their "hamster wheel" now.
Well put!
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Getting my GED so I can go to college
by noni1974 ini've been trying to get my ged for a few months now.
i bought some books and have been working through them on my own.
i came to a road block working on my own, and i decided to go for free classes offered by my local school district.
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Congratulations! Don't be discouraged if Math seems really difficult. You can take remedial classes to catch you up. They do not count as credits for a degree, but will help you to move forward with some skills.
Be determined in your goal....keep going forward....you can do it!!!
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Quandry
I did find out I knew someone on this board...very well. I pm'd him and said his information sounded familiar...was so glad to find him and know that he is "out." I knew his parents for years, don't think they'd talk to me or my husband today.
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need words for my JW father
by alamb ini have been pointing out that the shunning doctrine is unscriptural and unloving (jw speak).
he texted that my whole family stayed in the "truth" it was me who left.. please give the concise words to answer him.
i know it won't really do any good to try to reason with him, it will just feel good to "nail it.".
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Quandry
I don't know where you live, but have you ever thought of going to the news media with your story...the girls, that is...not your father. What a hellish situation. Do the girls know what your father did to you?
I can't imagine your pain...but here's a hug for you!
Also-instead of "arguing" with dad....maybe just send him quotes from the WT in chronological order, say about Sodom and Gomorrah, or generation, or vaccinations, organ transplants, etc. No personal info, just quotes from their own literature...here's "The Truth you are in."
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Duggar #19 In NICU
by snowbird inhttp://wonderwall.msn.com/tv/michelle-and-jim-bob-duggars-19th-child-arrives-prematurely-1529463.story?gt1=28148.
sylvia.
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Quandry
I think that number 19 is "enough of a good thing." How about when the kids get older? What if even three need dental work, or orthodontic braces? Not to mention college....who will pay for that?
Why make a name for yourself by cranking out children? Any more, and they just will not be able to give them all the attention they individually deserve.
Enough already!!!
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New York Landmark Commission DID NOT allow Mosque
by RubaDub inwhile the major news outlets love to hype up the ny mosque issue, the facts speak otherwise:.
- the ny landmark commision did not vote in favor of a mosque close to the world trade center site.
they have no authority to do so.
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And the delusion continues that Muslims had anything whatsoever to do with 911.
Wha?
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What do you think about this kid?
by jamiebowers inmy adult stepson, who lives with us, has his daughter every other week.
she turned one in march.
she's very bright, verbal and started walking at 9 months.
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Quandry
I forgot to mention one other thing. She is so young, she cannot verbalize how she feels. If she sees you and her dad infrequently, it is a disruption in her routine. She may be showing her displeasure with the situation that she has no control over.
Patience is called for.
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What do you think about this kid?
by jamiebowers inmy adult stepson, who lives with us, has his daughter every other week.
she turned one in march.
she's very bright, verbal and started walking at 9 months.
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Quandry
It is common for children that age to "get into things."
Instead of saying no all the time, divert her attention to something else. "Come have some juice, little one," or "Let's go outside for a minute."
As to the pet, please keep them away from her unless you are with her, showing her how to pet in a nice way.
The hitting is not good.Tell her there will be no treats if she is hitting. But do reward her for no hitting or screaming. Don't give in on this. Hitting is Not acceptable.
The playpen idea is a good one....this way, if you cannot watch her for a few minutes, such as when cooking, she will not get into things. Be sure and alternate the toys in the pen. Don't use it for a punishment.
When she is screaming, no goodies. Tell her that when she calms down, she can have a cookie, or whatever treat you have.
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need words for my JW father
by alamb ini have been pointing out that the shunning doctrine is unscriptural and unloving (jw speak).
he texted that my whole family stayed in the "truth" it was me who left.. please give the concise words to answer him.
i know it won't really do any good to try to reason with him, it will just feel good to "nail it.".
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Yes, Quandry, he was my molester. The court put a restraining order on him and my mom being around the girls since she condones it. Now he's DF'd and pointing fingers at me for DAing myself 14 years ago. Apparently I've wrecked the family.
alamb,
Iam 58 years old, spent over thirty years as a JW, then spent hour after hour reading posts on this forum, and I thought I couldn't be surprised anymore. I was wrong. I just don't know what to say. How your mother and father could possibly view you as the one to wreck the family is just beyond me. As a mother, I cannot fathom condoning my husband molesting the child that I carried and gave birth to.
I will just say that you are a survivor, and a wonderful mother who worked very hard to protect her own girls from irreputable harm that could have been dealt them by having contact with your father in any unsupervised capacity.
You did not say how your girls are doing now, or whether they are witnesses today. Of course, I hope they are with you and are free from the JWs.
I am just so floored by the above, I don't know what words you could use for your father. He says the "whole family stayed in the truth" but the real truth is that he crossed a boundary when he molested you. It broke any familial bond by nature of the perverted act. He did you a grave injustice to satisfy himself. I agree with I quit! He should be begging for your forgiveness, instead of continually putting you through what must be more heartache. Especially if he wants you to be part of the family again. Also, since he's df'd, how is the "whole family in the truth?"
I am sorry, alamb, that you have to go through this.