much trouble... or, things to do at the mtg that will raise eyebrows but won't get you into to much trouble.. i've been thinking about this since i still go.
i'm surprised at how much a person can get away with if they are in a hall that they have no family in that particular kingdom hall.... at the memorial i put on so much dark eye make-up i was shocked my husband didn't say anything walking out the door.
instead, i got compliments, lol, not exactly what i planned on.... one of my friends who faded went to the memorial and she had a pretty low cut shirt on.
Apparently, in my old hall, a very well endowed sister can get a tattoo deep in her cleavage, and then where a wonder bra so that it's no longer deep but popping right up near her chin. She can even git on stage dressed this way.
Well, it's OK if that sister is the wife and the daughter of elders
hi all... :) sorry for the novel.... i'm just wondering if there are any others out there who share similar experiences as me or have any comments and insight.... when i was a jw i was very, very social and active with friends and family in a wide range of activities.
i would even have considered myself the party-starter ;).
i used to plan events and social get togethers for all kinds of situations.
Moxie I understand a lot of what you said.
For the most part, I just don't want to deal with people. Even when I have a good time with people I like, it still takes a huge emotional tole on me.
Work isn't a problem, I just put on my professional happy face and off I go.
But socially, everything is different, and so much harder.
Answer my phone? are you kidding me? A phone call is a sudden, unexpected social sutuation....... I hate answering my phone!
I love people and am very sensitive to other peoples pain and suffering, and would do anything I can to help others. But's it's the face to face thing I have problems with. How do you get close enough to someone that you don't have to always be on guard?
As a JW, you always have to be on-guard. I didn't leave until my thirties, now I have to learn to just be myself with people, regardless of the outcome. Not something we ever learned as JW's.
How can the easter bunny be male and produce all those eggs??
I bet he has a stable full of be-otches somewhere producing the ovum.
On the other hand, they way he dresses, he must be gay......
my great nephew, 8 months old, was killed yesterday.
so far appears to have been murdered by his sitter, a couple with whom my nephew and his girlfriend have been living.
they beat and drowned this little baby.
I don't know how the family can indure such a horrible loss.
It leaves me speechless.
in my hall (crenshaw congregation) virtually all the young men and women have left.
there is a extreme shortage of elders ... so i have just been made a kh attendant.
i will be assisting the backroom and in the parking lots (etc.).
You may be leaving sooner then you think,
you just gave enough info to out yourself.
the other thread (opposite in nature) is really touching and i enjoyed reading everyone's experiences.
i saw a few people who were still in share how scared they were of that outcome, so i thought positive stories of how you managed to save your marriage while leaving the organization might be nice.
so, what is your story?
If it hadn't been for my really crappy JW marraige, I might still be a witness.
He and I both left the org and the marraige at about the same time,
can't decide which one I miss less...
my questions to you that believe the bible are this .
ok, so you come on this site and attack the jws, why cant you see that you are the same as the jws when you defend the bible?
after all, arent you defending the already dis proven faith that you believe?
Damn it Real One, quit dancing around and address the question.
This is why I lost my "faith", bible believers cannot answer dawgs question without dancing and dodging. And I couldn't either.
i was told it was like mixing with bad association , i found that quite laughable considering all the scandal that went on in the congregation , it made eastenders look very tame , im suprised they could not see it for themselves ,how hypocritical it all was
A bit of a side story here.
My ex-jw hubby and I were married young, he was gay and trying to suppress it, I came from a very disfunctional family, plus i was sexually assaulted as a teenager by me step dad, and the elders would do nothing. Plus they forbade me to talk to anyone else about it.
So long story short, we were a couple of messed up people who were trying desperately to be good JW's. We had major issues.
Anyhoo, at a particularly low moment I went to an elder for help. His first question to me was "Do you watch soap operas?", I said no but it was like he didn't believe me, he just kept rambling on about how soap operas portray an unrealistic view of relationships and how it causes women to expect more excitement and romance from there husbands then is possible. I had to assure him over and over, "I don't watch soaps, honest, no realy, I don't even like them so I am not even tempted, I'm being quite serious here, I don't enjoy watching soaps!".
After that he seemed to be at a loss, he had no further advice, he didn't even have a scripture for me....nadda, that was the sum total of his marital advice.
A year or two later at another particularly low moment I chose another elder to appraoch for help. The exact same bizarre conversation insued, I had to repeat over and over, "I don't watch soaps, really, not even occasionally, never, I don't, I never do...."
And then of course, the elder had nothing more to offer me, nothing, not a word of encouragement, not even a scripture.
idiots
that's right guys.
as i told you before, they boe have been considering me for the eldership.
which i don't care for, but since my family is stuck in this cult, i guess i can use the new position to help them see that the holy spirit has nothing to do with me being an elder.
I have to agree with reniaa and say this is absolutely repugnant!
You are freakin messin with peoples lives here!
Do you really think you are qualified to give people advice?
Elders are not even remotely qualified for the resposibilities they have, and you being a non-believer does not automatically change that!
What kind of head trip are you on?
JW's think of elders as demi-gods, especially the young and inexperienced, they will look at you and see Jehovahs spokesman. Is that what you want? Why can't you "help" people without putting yourself in the position of calling yourself a "glorious one". Are you a glorious one, or do you just want the title?
Please sir, in your next post, I request that you list your qualifications as a marraige counselar, rape crises couselor, police officer, youth leader, etc. Just how much training do you have? Any at all?
If you do have this training then please accept my apologies, but if you are not trained in this area then i think you need to get your head out of your ass and see that you are about as qualified for this position as my cat, and she doesn't even have a penis.
i read mere christianity.. .
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I tried to read that book on the recomendation of a therapists i had.
I opened the first page and started reading, but all I could see was blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah,......... the end.
The only thing I have ever read that was more mind-numbing, was the societys literature.
"The lion the Witch and the wardrobe" was pretty cool though.
