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  Prelude to a disfellowshipping

  by rory-ks in

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  i was 25 years a congregation member; ten years an elder; all told, up to 18 years an appointed man; a decade or so as a full-time minister; assembly speaker, with the pinnacle giving the public discourse at a district convention.. .

  i stopped being an active member of the congregation in november 2010, but it had been brewing for several years, with the customary gradual drifting away - all the necessary mental gymnastics as my spiritual views changed and doubts set in; quitting the theocratic ministry school; ceasing to answer; sitting quietly off to the side.

  i think the straw that broke the camels back was when family worship inevitably became family worship.

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  digderidoo

  Great blog, sent you a pm.
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  is death a transition?

  by soft+gentle in

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  all spritiual views welcome.

  i'd also like to know if the bible presents death as a transition and if it does so more than presenting it as a complete end..

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  digderidoo

  No, it's the end of the road.
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  Hello!

  by digderidoo in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  just having a browse ... wow 11 years ago i joined this site.

  in previous years i had a number of ex jw issues and this site really helped both for support and to vent my anger.. hello to anyone who remembers me, though there looks many new ones now..

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  digderidoo

  Hey JK :)

  All good thanks. See you're still on FB ... hope things are well with you too!
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  Hello!

  by digderidoo in

  1. watchtower
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  just having a browse ... wow 11 years ago i joined this site.

  in previous years i had a number of ex jw issues and this site really helped both for support and to vent my anger.. hello to anyone who remembers me, though there looks many new ones now..

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  digderidoo

  Thanks Cantleave.

  I may hang around a bit wha happened, but find that exploring JW issues now just brings back the bad stuff as very much moved on. Still like to browse here occasionally though.
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  Hello!

  by digderidoo in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  just having a browse ... wow 11 years ago i joined this site.

  in previous years i had a number of ex jw issues and this site really helped both for support and to vent my anger.. hello to anyone who remembers me, though there looks many new ones now..

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  digderidoo

  Thank you Scarred for Life and hello to you :)
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  Hello!

  by digderidoo in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  just having a browse ... wow 11 years ago i joined this site.

  in previous years i had a number of ex jw issues and this site really helped both for support and to vent my anger.. hello to anyone who remembers me, though there looks many new ones now..

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  digderidoo

  Hi wha happened, great to see another aa'er, especially an ex jw one.
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  The gal I'm dating frequents match.com - advice?

  by UnConfused in

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  2. relationships

  i am dating a gal that i met on match.com - we saw each other first last summer, but she didn't think we were a 'match'.

  after the "pressure" was off we started hanging out quite a bit with all the benefits that go along with it.

  this went on for months.. i became smitten with her, but we weren't a couple, which she pointed out a couple of times.

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  digderidoo

  There are a number of reasons why she could be going on match.com

  First of all, you are going on it too. You stated you have a profile, she may be checking to see if you're going on it in the same way as you're checking to see if she goes on it.

  Why have you not deleted your profile?

  I think the important issue is whether she's subscribed to it. If she still has a profile and not subscribed then maybe she goes on it when she gets a notification via email, this then registers her checking into the site and you're busy nosying around to notice how often she's clicking on it.

  I had a similar experience in that I met my last girlfriend through internet dating, but still had some old profiles from a couple of years beforehand on other sites. I should have removed them, but didn't as some of these sites were difficult to remove yourself from, I also had others that took my profile and transfered it to another site without my initial knowledge. Really i should have spent an evening going through them and removing them, but as i had no interest in meeting anyone else I just left them.

  Occasionally however I'd get a junk email notification, i'd click on it which would then register my clicking on the site with the date, etc. Sometimes i'd try to navigate to delete myself. Unknown to me my girlfriend through her own insecurities spent an evening searching for me on different sites adn you guessed it, she came across these old profiles, saw that i'd clicked on them after we'd met put 2 and 2 together and came up with 5. She never told me about what she'd found, but allowed it to build up over a few weeks, began not to trust me and started checking things. She'd found an empty box of condoms, that we'd used a couple of months previous, accused me of cheating and finished with me.

  I can honestly say that I never so much as looked at another woman whilst with her, but she let her imagination get carried away without talking to me. Things have come to light since that she had in fact herself cheated on me, but that's another story. The instigator and start of all this was her looking for me on internet dating sites.

  You really need to talk to her, not us on a forum platform...but HER. She maybe cheating, who knows? But right now all you've got is titbits of info and your imagination. If you want to make a go of things with her, you both need to come off match.com
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  Hello!

  by digderidoo in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  just having a browse ... wow 11 years ago i joined this site.

  in previous years i had a number of ex jw issues and this site really helped both for support and to vent my anger.. hello to anyone who remembers me, though there looks many new ones now..

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  digderidoo

  Phizzy, many who drink to excess give up alcohol just to prove that they can, the thing to look out for is not the fact that you can give up, but when starting again do you end up back to square one within a few short weeks, i know I would.

  As for the Human Rights Act (HRA) to be used against the Watchtower, it never could. Whatever the issue is against the watchtower, would always be balanced against Article 9 of the ECHR (which the HRA implements), 'freedom of thought, conscience and religion'. So the HRA actually supports the Watchtower, rather be against it. The society has used Article 9 in the European Court of Human Rights many times against Russia.
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  Hello!

  by digderidoo in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  just having a browse ... wow 11 years ago i joined this site.

  in previous years i had a number of ex jw issues and this site really helped both for support and to vent my anger.. hello to anyone who remembers me, though there looks many new ones now..

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  digderidoo

  Hi Phizzy, yeah you're right about the alcohol, not so much about the bible believer bit though lol

  I went to my first AA meeting in January 2008 and moved forward. I went nearly 2 years without a drink and then drank at a birthday party thinking i'd be alright, I clearly wasn't as i was drinking on my own again a week later, that was my last drink ... 28th April 2010

  I'm 2/3 way through a law degree now and done some teaching along with human rights work and i put it all down to giving up drinking.

  I do read the bible from time to time, but wouldn't say i'm a believer, well only as much as i think it's a great piece of literature some of which is historically true and some of which is myth, much along the same lines as other religious writings.

  But yes all is good. I've definitely moved on from my JW past, the angers gone. At the same time I accept the JW past that's inside me has partly made me who I am today.
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  Hello!

  by digderidoo in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  just having a browse ... wow 11 years ago i joined this site.

  in previous years i had a number of ex jw issues and this site really helped both for support and to vent my anger.. hello to anyone who remembers me, though there looks many new ones now..

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  digderidoo

  Just having a browse ... wow 11 years ago I joined this site. In previous years I had a number of ex JW issues and this site really helped both for support and to vent my anger.

  Hello to anyone who remembers me, though there looks many new ones now.