If you are the one instigating the divorce it can be deadly.
I left my ex wife 11 years ago. Everyone who i grew up with looked down upon me with judgement. Nobody knew what went on between us and my reasons for leaving, the crux of it was i felt suicidal and leaving her was such a weight lifted off my shoulders. But her family is a big JW family, so they made sure i looked the bad boy. Mad thing is they did the same with my sister in law too, who left my ex's brother around the same time. Rumours went around that both of us were seeing other people and having affairs, all lies. But what can you do when stories like that get circulated. Stories went around that i never seen my children, again lies i had them every weekend. Stories went around that i didn't financially support them, lies. They did everything to paint me as the bad guy, yet what nobody knew was that my ex wife was an extremely angry and abusive woman.
Within the JW community divorce is looked down upon, it's not meant to happen. So if you're the one instigating it, it's a long road, or it was for me. It was worth it though, in my opinion it's wrong to live a life that just doesn't make either of you happy. My ex is on her third now, she's happy, probably happier than when we were first together, so i am pleased for her. I too am in a happy place, so in the long run it did work out, i wouldn't want to go back to the sort of relationship i had with her.
Paul