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  Seeking support during confusing and stressful 'cognitive dissonance'

  by LHS123 in

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  sorry for the long post but i need help.

  ive been a jw for 20 years - still active and attending meetings, baptised at 18, i have recently become very dissillusioned.

  a few reasons: ill treatment of my kids by a prominent 'assembly speaker' elder, then my son left the truth at 15 (not baptised) and was 'dropped' instantly, despite this community having been his whole life for 15 years.

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  A break is a good initial step in one's overall exit strategy. It will help "normalize" you, and provide you with some point of reference outside of the organization, providing concrete evidence that "the big bad world" is not the place the WT says it is. I did not do any research on the organization until I took such a "break", (3 months).
  

  It was realizing that I was happy for the first time in my life after this break, that opened my eyes to many things. This allowed me to do research without fear or guilt. The rest is history.

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  "Jehovah's people as a whole can never be corrupted..."

  by cappytan in

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  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_zgds4z-h2i.

  transcript below (with key points of interest bolded):.

  please open your bibles to phil.

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  sparrowdown an hour ago

  This whole Jehovah's people as a "whole" shit helped me wake up.

  They are literally admitting everytime they say that, that they do not care about individuals, individual people, individual families are all expendable, colateral damage in theocratic warfare.

  
  

  Realizing this is why I never returned after leaving in late 2005.
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  Compliment or criticism - what affects you most?

  by EdenOne in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  a bit of introspection on this one ... just read on someone's post that a compliment makes him "float" for hours, and it got me thinking; within the spectrum of comments that people make about me, from compliment to criticism, which is the type that most affects me?.

  after my experience as a jehovah's witness, i find that i've become suspicious of compliments and over-sensitive to criticism.

  because a common technique of elders was to compliment someone before going down to business, that is, giving hard counseling or discipline.

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  It is difficult for someone with a JW past to see either from a realistic perspective. The compliments we were given as JWs were often fake, about fake things, from fake people. Likewise, the criticism given was always under the guise of something due to "sinful" or "imperfect" tendency. Under such context, it is almost impossible for someone to see either for what they should be. We become distrustful of compliments, (and those who give them), and we cannot see criticism as an opportunity for improvement.
  

  Compliments from sincere people are generally sincere. Criticism offered by sincere people is generally constructive in nature. The longer we are away from the "lie", the better we appreciate this.

  Good OP.

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  Scientific Proof that Evolution is NOT Scientific!

  by Nicola.threeangelsmessage in

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  bruce malone, an outstanding scientist has absolute scientific proof that evolution is not scientific!.

  bruce, a leading researcher for dow chemical for 30 years; he is one of the top 100 inventors eighteen of his inventions raised millions of dollars; and has a b.s.

  degree in chemical engineering.

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  The personal attacks on Viv are disgusting. If not deleted already delete Nicola now, please.
  
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  JW unwittingly shares article PROMOTING pot smoking

  by cappytan in

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  so, my wife is surfing facebook today.

  comes across a post by a jw "friend" of ours titled "8 scientific reasons you should never smoke weed.".

  it turns out to be an article actually showing evidence to the contrary!

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  LOL!

  Is there anything these days that does not invoke cognitive dissonance in JW? (I mean, pot couldn't possibly be safer than GB approved alcohol right???)

  Talk about desperately looking for sources of confirmation bias, thinking you found one, and either completely not getting the sarcasm or just not reading the article.
  

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  JWs through the eyes of an eight year old

  by maksutov in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  my wife is a jw, and is teaching our eight year old daughter jw beliefs.

  i am trying to teach her about evolution and critical thinking skills.

  here is a conversation we had today (as best i can remember it):daughter: "why do bad things happen?

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  Great post. My very first "doubts" came about the time I was 8, asking probing, (but different), questions of my JW parent at that age.

  Unfortunately, I had no reliable non-JW sounding board to ask the same questions of, and it took another 24 years to leave after that. You did a great job in helping her to develop her critical thinking skills.
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  Scientific Proof that Evolution is NOT Scientific!

  by Nicola.threeangelsmessage in

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  bruce malone, an outstanding scientist has absolute scientific proof that evolution is not scientific!.

  bruce, a leading researcher for dow chemical for 30 years; he is one of the top 100 inventors eighteen of his inventions raised millions of dollars; and has a b.s.

  degree in chemical engineering.

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  The level of gullibility and lack of train of thought it would take to believe such hubris is all you need to know about the source of this information.

  Some people never learn how to think critically, in or out of a high control religion.

  My more cynical side says some people are just simply incapable of critical thought.
  

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  Article in The Guardian - Faith no more: how the British are losing their religion. Mentions JWs

  by AndersonsInfo in

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  http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/belief/2015/apr/14/british-christianity-trouble-religion-comeback .

  the british have lost faith in religion much faster and more completely than they have lost faith in god.

  the most recent survey to show this comes from win/gallup, which found that britain appeared one of the most irreligious countries on earth, with only 30% calling themselves religious.

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  Even if Christianity is a myth there still a great value in the whole god, guns and country, get married , have three children American model is much better for a sustainable society.

  
  

  First off, I am an American.

  Barbara posted this to highlight a point about the UK moving away from being a religious society. It is for the better, quite obviously.
  

  Europe's current economic issues have nothing to do with their secularism. This is a false dichotomy and a logical fallacy.
  

  I will start by saying that basing a society on myth, (read non-reality), is no way to have a long term sustainable future. America is slowly heading in that direction, unless the secular majority has a true majority say on the issues that face the US.
  

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  Article in The Guardian - Faith no more: how the British are losing their religion. Mentions JWs

  by AndersonsInfo in

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  http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/belief/2015/apr/14/british-christianity-trouble-religion-comeback .

  the british have lost faith in religion much faster and more completely than they have lost faith in god.

  the most recent survey to show this comes from win/gallup, which found that britain appeared one of the most irreligious countries on earth, with only 30% calling themselves religious.

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  Cofty - One day America will be the same but not for a long time yet I suspect.

  Much of America actually is. The problem is that the structure of our government, (particularly the legislative branch), does not make it easy for the secular majority to have true majority say in matters. We tend to make up for it with good universities and at least a handful of, (fairly), progressive large cities.

  We are hamstrung by a fundamentalist, anti-science, anti-rational, minority here.
  

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  Article in The Guardian - Faith no more: how the British are losing their religion. Mentions JWs

  by AndersonsInfo in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/belief/2015/apr/14/british-christianity-trouble-religion-comeback .

  the british have lost faith in religion much faster and more completely than they have lost faith in god.

  the most recent survey to show this comes from win/gallup, which found that britain appeared one of the most irreligious countries on earth, with only 30% calling themselves religious.

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  Insightful read, Barbara...

  I would say that within the JW faith, it is transitioning from the counter-cultural to the cultural. I also think this is why it is that much more difficult to reach JWs with logical arguments. Most are in it for the social aspects, (like all other mainstream religions), and they just feel its right. No thinking required.

  This was not always the case, (certainly not the case 30+ years ago), where at least pseudo-logical discussions were commonplace both among the JWs, and between the JWs and their potential converts.

  I completely agree with the comment about the US constitution, and the way it is revered and treated as sacred here. I may be in the minority among Americans on this one, but I believe it is the core reason why it is difficult to win court cases against religious organizations, such as the Conti case.

  Most people lean towards how they "feel" or intuit about things, and do not use proper rational process, as first instinct.

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