Posts by ex-perfectdaughter

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Regrets of Being Brought up as a Witness

by chuckie77 in

ive never really been one to say a whole lot against the organisation, even though i was really unhappy in the years leading up to getting out of it, i still think theres so many good, peace loving and genuine people in it.

that said i was brought up as a witness and sometimes feel like ive been robbed of a true childhood.. my dad was a lot older than my mum, and was almost 50 when i was born.

he was the po in the cong and being a witness was, and still is, everything to him.

ex-perfectdaughter

Remember all the fucking spankings at the KH? I would get them in the bathroom just for saying I had to "go" but didn't really, just to stretch my legs!! All the other kids getting spankings and you could hear it in the auditorium. HORRIBLE!!

My mom did what she thought was right by me no more no less but I do feel robbed of a normal childhood. I got a lump in my throat when I read about feeling like you're always dreading something.

The first day of school....what did you do this summer?? ummmm assembly??

November .......halloween ......did you go trick or treating?? ummmm no

December ...... that whole month was a nightmare for a JW kid

Feb.........remember Valentines day...everyone having a little handmade mailbox for valentines except for you?

March/April........easter.....had to sit in the library, by myself, while all the other kids had a fun party

Then Summer break.......BORED TO DEATH.

No more dreading anything in my life. Everyday is a celebration!!!

13

A big day for me!!!!

by ex-perfectdaughter in

while i've been fading for about a year.

i decided to go back to school full time.

i graduate this weekend!!!!

ex-perfectdaughter

I studied Surgical Technology. I think I'm going to go on a start taking my prereqs for RN and start that in 2008.

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A big day for me!!!!

by ex-perfectdaughter in

while i've been fading for about a year.

i decided to go back to school full time.

i graduate this weekend!!!!

ex-perfectdaughter

While I've been fading for about a year. I decided to go back to school full time. I graduate this weekend!!!! I already have some job offers.

I also wanted to invite some of my friends I have made at school, but I have all these bound volumes in my bookshelves in the dinning room. I didn't want anyone to ask questions. So today I put them all in a closest, and cleaned out the book shelves. You don't even know how liberating that was for me. Every time I walked through the dinning room it was a constant reminder of the WTS!. I felt like a prisoner in my own home. So after a year of fading I finally am feeling like I'm getting on with my life.

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Should Jehovah's Witnesses Be Allowed to Adopt Children?

by TMS in

jw
friends

religion, race, sexual orientation etc.

are not legal barriers to adoption in most areas.

but knowing what you know now, if you were part of the decision-making process, would you be inclined to facillitate jw's to adopt?

ex-perfectdaughter

I think they should be able to adopt but, I think they should make being a JW opitional for the children. I think if the kid wants to go to the KH take him, but if he doesn't she should be forced to. Give the kid a home not a religion.

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Are you happier out of the org?

by dobbie in

hi everyone i was just wondering if those of you that have left the org for whatever reason, have found your'e much happier than when you were in it?probably a daft question but i tried to talk to a friend about how i was feeling about a few things and why i don't go to meetings and she said would i really be any happier out than in?it just got me thinking about why i joined in the first place, because i was lonely and down, although i still am several years later it seems!have you found life better on the outside?did you feel a sense of freedom or was it really hard to adjust?when i try to explain what i find hard in the religion they can always say something back that then makes me think i was wrong in the first place and it is the truth after all - aagh!

ex-perfectdaughter

I haven't left for good yet...but the more I fade the happier I am. I don't miss most people in the hall and the few that are honestly good people I realized they didn't have unconditional love for me. They never really knew the real me....what kind of friendship is that? What kind of friend is only your friend if you believe the same way they do, or if you are at the same place they are every Tues, Thurs nights, and Sunday morning?? Doesn't make sense. If they really loved you they love you for you...the good, the bad and the ugly parts of you. That's a true friend. And as long as they are in the Borg they can never be a true friend.

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jw's on welfare?

by carla in

are there many jw's on welfare or some state assisted programs?

how do they reconcile this with being 'no part of this world' and their abhorrence of government?

ex-perfectdaughter

....and it's wrong for lazy pioneers who couldn't pioneer if it wasn't for food stamps, to look down on people who have to work long hard hours just to make ends meet, and happen to miss meetings from time to time because of it.

It's going to catch up with the org. sooner or later. To have nothing but uneducated, poor members. Someone's gonna to have to pay the bills. Food stamps don't pay for magazines.

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Convention talks

by Pistoff in

as i sit here, i am listening to the wav file of yesterdays sessions.

ugh.

first, there is the talk about the (usually dumbass, can't keep a job type) brother who decided to come to the convention instead of looking for work to feed his family.

ex-perfectdaughter

The sad truth is God, if there is one, doesn't give a shit whether you have a job or not.

3

cult I.D. article

by moomanchu in

thought this was an interesting article

what are some ways to tell the difference between a cult and a legitimate christian church?

some simple criteria are listed below for examining a group's beliefs, attitudes, and actions.. criterion one: rejection of the doctrine that has been passed down from the beginning through the apostles and the inspired authors of scripture (2 timothy 1:13-14 ; titus 1:9 ).. jesus said:.

ex-perfectdaughter

A healthy church will deal with criticism or questions regarding its point of view openly, honestly, and patiently. (Some churches can be cult-like in their rigidity and defensiveness without being full-blown cults.) Cults, on the other hand, are defensive, evasive, or belligerent to an extreme when reasonable questions are raised. They foster an atmosphere of spiritual bondage through legalism and group intimidation ( 2 Peter 2:1-20 ). Many cults forbid their members to read literature that questions or disagrees with their own unique point of view.

Sound like anyone you know??

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jw's on welfare?

by carla in

are there many jw's on welfare or some state assisted programs?

how do they reconcile this with being 'no part of this world' and their abhorrence of government?

ex-perfectdaughter

I do have a problem with pioneers on disability. Most the pioneers in my hall are on some kind of welfare, food stamps, disability etc. To me if you can get in and out of the car all day you can work. There is this one MS who gets disability but he has 10s of thousands of dollars in the bank where he does Ebay and doesn't pay taxes. He puts the Ebay account in his wife's name so it doesn't go against him. Most in my hall are lazy!!!! Just looking for handouts. I agree though unemployment is not the same as welfare!!

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New fundraising methods for the WTBTS!

by Gill in

young people ask ' how can i help those in need?

awake aug 2006

now i remember when we were jws and raising funds for a new kh, the money had to come from publishers pockets.

ex-perfectdaughter

When we were raising funds for our new KH, we were told we could have a bake sale, yard sale whatever we wanted but we couldn't say it was for the KH. It was like you have a yard sale and you can use the money however you wanted. You couldn't call it a KH yard sale. Looks like they don't care where the money is coming from.