I sent you a PM, lancelink.
Same here, my wife is still fairly young and she is stubborn and bullheaded and does not like people telling her what she can and cannot do. She's even admitted to this. My daughter is very little and is already beginning to assert herself and think. If the WTS continues to ratchet the control over them like this, they will (hopefully) see the light.
My wife so bad wants to be in the bOrg and right now she sees my 'opposition' as validation that they are right. I think she is doing this to spite me as she currently sees me as 'the enemy.' I think I am just going to lay off questioning her on her beliefs and let her have just enough rope to hang herself with it. If she gets baptized at the next assembly (as she told me today she might do) it will be interesting to see how she responds to the high control they are going to place on her.
garyneal, I forget what Combatting Mind Control Cults had to say about the matter, so I'm not sure what your tactic should be. But I do know that beginning the opposition plays right into the dubs' hands, so don't do that...