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  Why would this even cross my mind?!?!?!?!

  by Juniper in

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  well, after 10 years of being together, hubby has decided that he's found his 'soul mate' (the second time this year, neither of which was me) and is moving out.. i'm thirty years old and no kids, thanks to the fact that i spent 12 years in full time service telling everyone it's better to wait until the 'new system' for raising a family.

  that's all beside the point - and perhaps better suited for my counselor.

  :) anyway, the thought that keeps going through my mind is "this never would have happened if i didn't leave" and "how am i going to find someone to spend my life with at this age and who will understand me the way an ex-jw can"???

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  Why would this even cross my mind?!?!?!?!

  by Juniper in

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  well, after 10 years of being together, hubby has decided that he's found his 'soul mate' (the second time this year, neither of which was me) and is moving out.. i'm thirty years old and no kids, thanks to the fact that i spent 12 years in full time service telling everyone it's better to wait until the 'new system' for raising a family.

  that's all beside the point - and perhaps better suited for my counselor.

  :) anyway, the thought that keeps going through my mind is "this never would have happened if i didn't leave" and "how am i going to find someone to spend my life with at this age and who will understand me the way an ex-jw can"???

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  I think wanderer just made a pass at juniper...
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  epistle to the Ephesians

  by Ade in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  i am searching for a few people ( actually as many as can be had ) to start commenting on a verse by verse basis books of the bible - basically a full online bible study starting, for no particular reason with ephesians, if you are interested please leave a message here or contact me via pm.

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  Sounds interesting. PM me with details please.
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  Thinking of Visiting Bethel H.Q.

  by quixote in

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  i am planning a trip to nyc mid november and the thought has crossed my mind to visit bethel.

  i haven't been there ifn aprox 7 years and i am curious to see if anything has changed.

  specially with the layoffs and down sizing.. so, do i tell them i'm da ?

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  NYC is the greatest city in the world. Why would you waste your time at Bethel? Go to a museum or a play instead. I saw "Spamalot" in August. It was hilarious!
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  Kids are going to college

  by Emma in

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  my daughter got an acceptance to her first choice in colleges last week!

  she's leaving for nyc this tuesday to look for a job and a place to live.

  (she'll be living with a friend while she looks.

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  Congratulations!
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  Why would this even cross my mind?!?!?!?!

  by Juniper in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  well, after 10 years of being together, hubby has decided that he's found his 'soul mate' (the second time this year, neither of which was me) and is moving out.. i'm thirty years old and no kids, thanks to the fact that i spent 12 years in full time service telling everyone it's better to wait until the 'new system' for raising a family.

  that's all beside the point - and perhaps better suited for my counselor.

  :) anyway, the thought that keeps going through my mind is "this never would have happened if i didn't leave" and "how am i going to find someone to spend my life with at this age and who will understand me the way an ex-jw can"???

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  30 is an awesome age! You are young but have some maturity and experience. Real men will appreciate that. And having children in your 30's and even 40's is popular now. You have your whole life ahead of you, go out and embrace it.
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  I'm sooooo low in my spirits today... :(

  by FreedomFrog in

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  i'm not going to get into much details but i'm just so depressed today.

  today i feel like i'm living in a personal hell.

  i have been sinking into this depression lately and it seems like it's starting to consume me.

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  I always feel sad when someone posts that they are depressed because I've been there and it's no fun at all. Please try to hang in there, life comes in cycles, so there are better days to look forward to. If you can't shake these feelings, please seek professional help. There's no magic pill for everyone but there are some wonderful medications that can help. There is no shame in it. It's an illness like any other.

  Take care
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  the walk of shame

  by nonamegiven in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  it all starts after you hear "these things we pray through jesus christ, amen".

  i gather my books and the kid's books and put them away.

  by that time people are walking over to us and talking to my wife and playing with my kids.

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  becca1

  Thank you for that post. I've been a witness all my life and have never had a better glimpse of what being DF'd is like till I read it. You really made me feel sad for you and others in the same situation. You sound like a really good natured person and a loving and considerate husband and father. No, you don't deserve such treatment and I don't believe it's Jehovah's way.

  As for advice: onthewayout said it best. I can't do any better that.

  Take care...
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  At fifty, the madwoman in the attic breaks loose............" - Erica Jong

  by Sunnygal41 in

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  i was thinking this morning about an incident that happened yesterday and came to a very welcome realization..like rett butler, i simply dont give a damn..what others preconceived notions or expectations of me are anymore.i am happy, and content with who and where i am in my life.its a good place to be emotionally and mentally, after being soooo tormented for so many years.with all the negative people pleasing baggage i carried around.its like erica jong said:at fifty, the madwoman in the attic breaks loose, stomps down the stairs, and sets fire to the house.

  she won't be imprisoned anymore.its a great place to be, as a woman.anyone else care to share?.

  terri.

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  My husband and I will be 50 in 2009. I suggested to him the other day that we use the next three years to better ourselves and our lives in every way. Loose some weight, develope some new good habits, establish some goals and meet them, make some new friends, become more aware of other's feelings, deepen our relashionship with each other.... And then in 09 take a cruise with our kids and celebrate the beginig of the better part of our lives. I want to appreciate what the past has taught me and look foward to the wonders the future has in store.
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  Posted Zero hours preaching- Fading faster

  by OnTheWayOut in

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  for the first time in my jw history, i turned in a slip with a big zero written in every column,.

  turned it over and wrote "zero tracts" below that, i wrote "stumbled by the co".

  ( see http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/6/121888/1.ashx if you want to understand the co comment.).

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  You are either brave or insane. Either way you're asking for it!