Posts by LisaRose

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can an unhappy married woman vent?

by sowhatnow in

i continue to be saddened by the fact that i am married to such a selfish man.. i want to know if i am the only wife who has no say when it comes to using the house she lives in for activities including other people.. .

let me explain.. yesterday my daugher who is 35 got a new puppy for my grandaughter who is 13. today my daughter and son in law are going to help my uncle at a job, and my granddaughter wanted to spend the day here, my daugher said shed bring her and the puppy over, i laughed and said 'your dad wont have that, ill have to go to your house'.. after all it will 'upset' the 2 cats they will hide all day [like they do anytime someone including my grandchild is in my home] .. i already knew that he would not like it if she brought the puppy over, [weve had dogs so its not like he hates them].

he doesnt care if his grandaughter would have enjoyed playing with the puppy over grandmas house, where she likes to be for a change, and that fact that id like to see what my cats would do when they saw a dog for the first time in thier lives.. maybe id have liked to play with the puppy .. when i said to my husband that my daughter said she wanted tp bring them over he said.

LisaRose

I am sorry you are in a bad situation right now. You need to start valuing yourself, whether you make money outside the home or not, you deserve respect and an equal say in family decisions, period, end of story. If your husband doesn't get that, then maybe it's time you left, nothing can be worse than being treated like a second class citizen.

I have been in both situations, the main breadwinner and now a stay at home wife. I hate not earning a paycheck, but that is the reality for me right now due to health issues. At first I felt that I didn't deserve a say in financial matters, or to buy things without asking, but I got over that. I do all the cooking, cleaning, laundry, gardening and home repairs, plus volonteer work, so why should I feel like a charity case? We are married, it's a partnership. It my case it was my own problem to deal with, it wasn't coming from my husband, but maybe if you start to feel better about yourself your husband will get that you aren't going to be a doormat. If he doesn't, well, then maybe it's not a marriage worth saving. Of course it's scary to think about being on your own at this age, but there are all kind of programs available for people in your situation, you might be surprised. Now is the time to contact a woman's shelter and find out what your options are.

Really, life is too short to be miserable.

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life after the wtbts

by Hortensia in

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friends

you can't move forward to a new, more interesting, possibly much happier life, if you're still looking behind at the former life.. there is so much obsession on here about what the wtbts is doing, and discussing all the forms of injustice and bullshit in the wtbts, or how to bring down the wtbts.

yes, their doctrines are crazy and they are a cult and cruel to boot.

move on.

LisaRose

We all have our scars that's for sure.

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life after the wtbts

by Hortensia in

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friends

you can't move forward to a new, more interesting, possibly much happier life, if you're still looking behind at the former life.. there is so much obsession on here about what the wtbts is doing, and discussing all the forms of injustice and bullshit in the wtbts, or how to bring down the wtbts.

yes, their doctrines are crazy and they are a cult and cruel to boot.

move on.

LisaRose

I don't think Hortensia,was criticizing people for simply posting on JWN, but for still being obsessed with what is going on in the organization. I am mildly interested in major changes in the Watchtower world, but I don't understand some of the massive amount of speculation on every thing printed in the Watchtower. But different strokes for different folks as they say, I've been out for fifteen years, other people are still involved, or have close family that is, obviously their perspective is different

I do think most people move on at some point and lose interest.

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Christmas markets - apparently fine for JW's to attend

by FeelingFree in

this has got me really wound up and i feel the need to post.

our friend an ex jw has just returned from a famous christmas market in germany, now my husband mentioned this to his mum as they have connections there.

she got all excited about how amazing the german christmas markets are there and how she would of def gone to one this year if she had the time!

LisaRose

I don't see the problem. A Christmas market is just a marketplace where vendors sell their wares, as long as you aren't buying actual Christmas themed items, where is the harm? These are people in a cult that are managing to make an independent decision about something and you are mad because they are not more cult like?

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Party

by Hortensia in

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i'm giving a party next week -- sunday, december 14 at 1:00 p.m. reason for the party?

i got a huge turkey on sale and i need to cook it.

i'm making turkey and trimmings, neighbors are bringing whatever they want, mostly vegetarian stuff.

LisaRose

Sounds like a good time was had by all. We used to host our neighborhood Xmas party in Colorado, my husband would be Santa, it was a lot of fun, one of the things I miss, although I am happy to be back in California. One year we had 23 children.

I love the rain, it always makes me feel better, I guess it's the negative ions.

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Why JW marriage is a huge problem for the organization.

by kneehighmiah in

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the difficulty of finding a marriage mate is well known for sisters.

but i would say it's hard for brothers also.

i was talking to a jw last night.

LisaRose

I wonder If kneeehighmiah is as attractive as the women he thinks he deserves? I've been out a while, but when I was a JW there were quite a lot of attractive women who couldn't find a mate, at least not one who they were willing to get involved with. I think that attractiveness is a part of what makes you desire someone, but it isn't all, or shouldn't be.

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Top 10 Signs that Jehovah's Witnesses Want to Disfellowship You:

by OnTheWayOut in

i've posted these years ago and was reminiscing, so i thought i would share the laugh with you again.. top 10 signs that jehovah's witnesses want to disfellowship you:.

10. there's two guys in suits staying all night outside your home in a four-door sedan.. 9. an elder you spoke to on the phone calls and asks you to repeat what you said the other day, but asks you to speak slowly and clearly.. 8. suddenly, jw friends stop by and ask an awful lot of the same questions.. 7. your laptop computer was moved, left on, or is missing.. 6. you left your car unlocked, it was thoroughly searched by someone but absolutely nothing is missing including your gps which was searched too.. 5. your boss asks if you are in trouble with the law or someone, stating some really polite men were asking about you and left some "tracts.".

4. someone picked up the cigarette butts around your back porch.. 3. the bartender at your favorite nightspot asks if you have ever before seen the guys in the corner booth that have been ordering "cokes" all evening and pulling out a camera everytime you order a beer.. 2. you receive registered mail and you already served on a jury this year.. 1. your jw mother who finally had accepted that you will never go back starts begging you to either go back to the kingdom hall or move with no forwarding address.. .

LisaRose

An elder asks you how long you have been a Jehovah's Witness, not counting today.

An elder is peeping in your window trying to see if you have a Christmas tree.

They tell you not to bother turning in your field service report.

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"Christmas is all they have to live for"

by stillin in

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friends

this is on of my wife's many-times-repeated expressions about the hilidays, especially when she has an audience that includes non-believers.

i find it offensive even though i still don't celebrate christmas.

here's another one, "and it's all based on lies!".

LisaRose

It's the kind of thing JWs tell themselves in a futile attempt to feel good about not being able to enjoy the holidays. It's just jealousy, they are Ebenezer Scrooge saying "Bah humbug".

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JW Flash Mob

by Listener in

a flash mob is defined as a large public gathering at which people perform an unusual or seemingly random act and then disperse.. jws are now in on the act and were doing this in bath on unsuspecting convention delegates during their tours after the convention.

they did this on at least three seperate occassions.. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3hmrqr-k4hq.

here's another one, not so public though.

LisaRose

Good point Steve2.

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Jehovah's Witnesses and "winter decorations"

by Lynnie in

so how many jw's do you know that do "winter decorations" instead of "holiday decorations"?

i have a cousin that is upbaptized but very much on board with the jw's but somehow snowmen and pine boughs are okay to decorate the house as long as there is no tree.

have anyone of you heard or seent his practice?

LisaRose

I never saw any reason you couldn't decorate seasonally. I am sure some JWs were offended, but they never said anything to me and it wouldn't have mattered if they had. Somebody is always going to get their undies in a bunch about something anyway, that's what happens when you are in a cult. Saying it's "too close" to holiday decorating is ridiculous, God created pumpkins and pine cones after all (if you believe in God).