JWs have been conditioned to think of family as expendable. You don't even have to be disfellowshipped for them to start treating you as excess baggage, as you have seen. Talk about "having no natural affection".
LisaRose
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They came, they saw, they left...
by NVR2L8 induring the holiday period one if my wife's brothers had planned a vacation in our area.
they drove about 6 hours to a condo they leased for a week to celebrate their wedding anniversary with their married son and daughter.
they called my wife to let her know they were coming to visit us since they were 2 hours away.
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Any luck kicking the bottle?
by Ignoranceisbliss inas i continue my sllllooooooowwwwwww fade one of the things that i want to do is better myself as a person.
one of my biggest pitfalls has always been drinking.
i don't think i am an alcoholic but at the same time i've never been a very good drinker.
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LisaRose
I find meditation to be helpful, I highly recommend it for anyone trying to drink less. Excess alcohol is usually a way to deal with difficult feelings, unfortunately it's a vicious cycle as knowing you don't have control over your drinking can make you feel bad about yourself, thus you need to drink.
I try to pace myself, and try to drink no more than two drinks at any one time. Drink water before to be sure you are hydrated and are not drinking out of thirst. Don't drink on an empty stomach. Try to set goals and reward yourself in other ways. Exercise will help you lose weight and also relieve stress.
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Please post new forum feedback or questions here
by Simon inwell, the switchover happened - there were a couple of things i had to fix which meant the posting was disabled for longer than i planned but it's now enabled and some people have already posted.. if you have any questions about the new format or suggestions on how to improve it, please post them here.. if you are having trouble signing in or posting then you'll need to email me instead.. many thanks to everyone for their patience during the changeover !.
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LisaRose
It would be nice if you had the choice of going to the last page of a thread, instead of only going to the first page, making it a two step process if you have already read the older pages. -
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urban legends
by chirac indear brothers ans sisters.
i just received this mail in french..(thank you google to have translates it)..this mail is from a still inside brother who encourage to come back.
do you think its a fact or an other urban legend.
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LisaRose
The secret service is responsible for security for the president, not the FBI. You would think if they were going to tell a whopper like that they should at least attempt to make it remotely believable. -
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New Site Problems
by The Searcher inhi simon - i'd sent you an email regarding this problem;.
i cannot see the captcha facility to enable me to prove i'm a humanzee and log-on.
so i could not gain access to my account and participate - despite trying numerous suggestions provided on the internet.. i tried one last thing - i downloaded mozilla firefox (never tried it before) and it by-passes the captcha function and gives me access now.. i look forward to getting acquainted with the new-look web site.. thanks simon..
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LisaRose
Greener reminds me of the man who is being helped by the first IT professional, he is complaining about the new technology, a book, which he finds much harder to use than the scrolls he is used to.
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What if.....the impossible happened?
by sparrowdown inwhat if the almighty gb announced that all shunning will cease, and next minute all the people who have shunned you start calling and texting saying "hi, we're baaaack, we can talk to you now!".
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what would do you do, and how do you react?.
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LisaRose
I could see them possibly changing the rules so that it would be harder to get disfellowshipped and also loosening the restrictions on talking to disfellowshipped family, but they will never give up the practice completely as they couldn't admit they were wrong on such a major point. -
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Where is Everyone????
by truthlover inmissing a lot of the oldies and goodies -- is this site so new, no one has signed on yet?
i am confused... but then, i will have to wait and see what happens.. somehow - change is not the best option but we adjust..have most of the users gone to other locations?.
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LisaRose
I have been away for Christmas with limited access to the internet, but I have been able to sign in and have read a few topics, I am still adjusting to the new format. -
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If Your JW Parent Died Would YOU Go To The Kingdom Hall For The Talk?
by minimus ini would like your thoughts, please..
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LisaRose
I went to my mother's funeral, so yes. I also have two siblings still in, if I am around when they pass, I will go to those as well, which is likely as they are ten and fourteen years older than me. Family is family, they would talk to me if they weren't brainwashed, so I am not going to carry a grudge about it, and they did both talk to me at my brothers service.
There are five of us left and It's sad because I will probably only see them ever again at the next funeral. Stupid cult.
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can an unhappy married woman vent?
by sowhatnow ini continue to be saddened by the fact that i am married to such a selfish man.. i want to know if i am the only wife who has no say when it comes to using the house she lives in for activities including other people.. .
let me explain.. yesterday my daugher who is 35 got a new puppy for my grandaughter who is 13. today my daughter and son in law are going to help my uncle at a job, and my granddaughter wanted to spend the day here, my daugher said shed bring her and the puppy over, i laughed and said 'your dad wont have that, ill have to go to your house'.. after all it will 'upset' the 2 cats they will hide all day [like they do anytime someone including my grandchild is in my home] .. i already knew that he would not like it if she brought the puppy over, [weve had dogs so its not like he hates them].
he doesnt care if his grandaughter would have enjoyed playing with the puppy over grandmas house, where she likes to be for a change, and that fact that id like to see what my cats would do when they saw a dog for the first time in thier lives.. maybe id have liked to play with the puppy .. when i said to my husband that my daughter said she wanted tp bring them over he said.
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LisaRose
Your husband is an alcoholic, I don't think there is a marriage to save, he is married to the bottle. Time to kick him to the curb and get on with your life. He sounds like my first husband. I stuck it out for 28 years, mostly because I was JW and thought I was stuck. Leaving him was the best thing I ever did in my life. I had gotten so used to it I didn't realize how much it was affecting me. He wasn't evil, just a self centered user who didn't know how to play well in the sandbox. I did everything, cooking, cleaning, laundry, even though I worked full time. He never said anything nice, we were basically roommates, we didn't even watch TV together. He holed up in his den with his beer, tv and computer, that was his life.
So finally I get up the courage to get a divorce and he is moving out. He had given me the flu and I was really sick the day he left. I am laying there with a temp of 103 and he comes up to me and says "there are no clean towels!". I lifted my head andjust looked at him. So he says "what will I use this dry myself off with?". That's how big of a baby he was, and it was partially my fault because I stayed and took it, and didn't demand he be better (good little JW wife I was). He never owned up to anything, it was all someone else's fault. I married someone else, so he refers to me (to our children) as "your mother, the whore", classy, right? They can't stand him either. Don't waste another minute on this loser.
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LisaRose
Two more I thought of. My black and Decker cordless drill/driver. I got it as a Xmas gift eight years ago, it still works even though I use it almost daily. I also have a black and Decker toaster oven, I have had a few over the years, they last a good long time and are very useful. Since it's just my husband and I, I often use it instead of the big oven, which saves on electricity.