Posts by LisaRose

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Anyone still "in" that is feeling physically sick??

by lostinnj83 in

i really think that staying "in" just for family and friends is doing a number on my health.

i am currently in therapy for the mental part of all of this but i am phsyically sick every time i have to get ready to go to the meeting or service.

i get heart palpitations as well.

LisaRose

If theSituation isn't going to change, why delay dealing with it? You can continue to force yourself to go to the meetings, but as you have already seen, you will pay a price for it. I also did not want to deal with my difficult husband and mother, but when I finally did, it was not as bad as I thought it would be, and the relief was fantastic, I wished I had done it years before.

I mean what are going to do to you, take away your birthday? They already did that, lol. Just make sure you are ready, have your mind made up, and are prepared for any repercussions. In the end, no one can force you to be in a religion, it is your right to live your live your life as you see fit.

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My ex JW sister is an APOLOGIST!!!!!

by joyfulfader in

i have had a few conversations with my sister who left the org several years ago and has been dating a non jw for several years now.

she celebrates the holidays and everything.

so the other day i brought up some of the things i have learned since leaving.

LisaRose

My sister was DA 30 years, but was blackmailed into going back because she couldnt see her grandchildren. I assumed she would get reinstated and then fade, but no, now she is drinking the kool-aid and won't talk to me. Its very sad that someone would be gone that long and still not figure out how full of lies this religion is. I think many people leave because they do not want to live up to the standards of the organization, but still deep own believe it to be true. The cult mind control is that strong that they are mentally still trapped, even while disassociated, the fear response to the apostate word cially seems to stay. My only hope is that this organization has changed so much over the years she was gone, and their just isn't as much closeness in the congregations, nor is there that sense of purpose in the preaching work. Most JWs are just going through the motions, not really feeling any zeal.

I do not hold out great hope for her though, as two of her three boys are in, and she enjoys the closeness with them and their families. She also is partaking, so there is that. She has some health issues that is affecting her mentally, I think. For her, this may be for the best, who knows. I love my grandkids, and am happy they are not dubs, but even for hem I would not go back.

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Did you hear Jw's swear?

by highdose in

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friends

i know that what counts as swearing differs alot from region to region, amongst the words i heard used were "crap, bloody, shit, git, bastard, bitch" and the dubs who used these words would say that they didn't belive they were swear words at all!.

LisaRose

When my daughter was two, she said damn it in front of my uber conservative mother. I don't know where she heard that My mother says "Jehovah doesn't like that word." My daughter says "Jehovah doesn't, but I do, damn it, damn it, damn it.

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After fading for over a year...I finally cut my ties by posting on my Facebook page

by eyesropen323 in

i was 8 when my mom brought us into the jw's.

i am in my late 30's now.

many knew me from school.

LisaRose

Wow, good on you. it's not always easy to know how to set yourself free, you did it! Here is to happily ever after.

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The Truman Show revisited

by slimboyfat in

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friends

i've just been listening to philip glass.... .

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=il4vdf-ugpi&feature=fvwrel.

which reminds me of the truman show, the film that many of us here have taken as a metaphor for realising that the jehovah's witness world is not real.. but now i can't help wondering what happened to truman when he left his fake world and entered the real world.

LisaRose

That is one if my favorite movies, I did feel it mirrored the JW experience. My take on it is that Truman knew on some level that something was not right in his world (just as we dubbies knew there was something off about the WTBTS. ) He finally learned to trust his own feelings and leave. When he reached the end of the water and got out of the boat, he acknowledged that the show was over, by saying "good afterafternoon, good evening and good night.", which I think means he knew he was going out in the real world. I think he would be cautious, knowing he was deceived before, but I don't think he would mistrust everyone, because he had that one real relationship (his girlfriend they got rid of), to know there are some good people in the world.

Although I was burned by the WTBTS, it did not make me mistrust all people, all people are not Jehovah's Witnesses. It did make me stronger and tougher, it did make me cautious, but I refused to let that bad experience ruin the rest of my life, they got their thirty years, they were not going to get one more hour.

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Who is brave enough to admit

by mouthy in

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friends

they have met me in person?????

?.

LisaRose

I would be proud to say that I had met you, alas I have not.

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The Cat in the Can

by Jim_TX in

funny story: .

every morning, i feed the cats outside.

i give them dry cat food, and also two small cans of cat food.

LisaRose

That is funny, I can picture that in my head, too bad you didn't take a picture. I have a cat I got at the shelter last year, she likes the surprise attack. She grabs our ankles from under the bed, sneaks behind the couch, then jumps up and bops us on the heaD, she is always thinking if some new thing to drive crazy, but I wouldn't trade her for anything.

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So, is this present life it??

by Monsieur in

if there is a possibility that god himself as we thought he was is not real, then,.

is our current and present life, (the daily one we live, not necessarily our aspirations) all there really is?.

what do we have to look foward to if we are aware that we are not infinite.

LisaRose

Well, I don't know if this is it, so I try to make the most of my life, not in just in a selfish way, but helping others too. If you live a good life and try to leave the world a little better than you found it, if there is a loving God, he will be happy and reward you. If there is no God, well, you lived a good life, and had some fun, you can't complain about that.

I like to think that God exists, I know it cannot be proven, so I don't get too hung up on the details, that is what the JWs do. I am pretty sure if God exists, he or she doesn't give a hoot about how many hours are on your time slip, and he doesn't want you to let your child die for lack of a blood transfusion. And he doesn't just love people based on where they are born.

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JW businessman's email about the UN and false religion

by Las Malvinas son Argentinas in

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friends

i was shown a hard copy of an email from a purported jw businessman who claimed he had contact with some un officials as part of his 'business'.

in conversation, he claimed that he blurted out and asked them when they were going to clamp down on religion as foretold in jw prophecy.

according to the account, the un official acted startled, and asked 'how do you know?'.

LisaRose

Why put Chuck Bucks in box? Put a little peice of double sided tape and leave them on the floor. JWs will be grabbing them up, and the attendents will be going crazy trying to get them before anyone else and figure out who is doing it. It could be a flash mob coordinated thing, over in five minutes.

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Hello??

by franticfran in

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friends

i have just joined this website and just wanted to say hello to anyone out there.

i am so nervous,after thirty odd years in the "truth" i feel as though my husband and i have just walked into a room full of smiling strangers and we are just standing here hoping to god someone will come up and speak to us.

scared and excited and hoping to wake up one morning and not wonder what we do now???

LisaRose

Welcome, happy you have found your way out of the darkness, it's always interesting reading about what has prompted people to leave. It is never to late to take your life back. I was in 30 years also, I got baptized in 1969 and left in 1999. The last 12 years of my life have been the best. Without the burdensome requirements of the organization I have been able to do so much and I have learned and grown as a person in ways I could not have imagined as a JW. I have a small creative business, I do volunteer work, I have traveled and done so many new things. Nor do I feel I have neglected my spirituality, on the contrary, I am free from the constant guilt that that I felt as a JW. I just couldn't believe God would want his people to live like that.

Just don't worry, be patient, you don't need to figure it out all at once, these things take time, don't just jump into another religion because you feel you must.