LisaRose

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  Gay advice from the Governing Body

  by Listener in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  according to them you are not gay if you are attracted to the same sex, it's just hormones and you might grow out of it.. i wonder what hormones in particular they are talking about and if they feel that a female who goes through menopause is in danger of turning gay or even if taking hormones will adjust your thinking?.

  this is from the wt org website.

  https://www.jw.org/en/bible-teachings/family/teenagers/ask/pressure-to-be-gay/.

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  LisaRose

  That would be funny if it weren't so tragic. There is zero evidence that being gay is a passing thing, this is horrible advice. I really feel for the gay JWs that might actually believe this nonsense.
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  how do most of you now feel about the military?

  by sowhatnow in

  1. social
  2. family

  was not sure where to post this, but i was curious, how do some of you now feel about the military?

  would any of you let your children enlist, or would you yourselves join any military field?

  how do you feel about the idea of women in the military?

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  LisaRose

  My husband is a retired Army warrant officer, my step son is a former marine, (currently in the army reserves) and my grandson is in the Air Force, I am proud of them all. My husband served in desert storm, my step son served in Iraq and Afghanistan. My airman grandson bravely serves in the cold of Minot, South Dakota, lol.

  As a JW I used to be dismissive of the military, but now I appreciate the sacrifice these men and women make to serve their country. There is a certain amount of hypocrisy in those like the JWs that look down on military service, because they wouldn't even have the priviledge of voicing that criticism if we were taken over by countries like North Korea.

  Those in the military might not even agree with the decisions made to send them to war, but they took a vow to serve and they do so, sometimes at great sacrifice to their personal lives, because if a country like the U.S. didn't have a strong military they would soon fall to those countries that want what we have. They do the job others aren't willing to do and deserve our respect.
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  wow what a good week

  by pepperheart in

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  2. friends

  what a good week over 101 teaching books taken from the trolleys this week and put in the trash i might even be getting to all the 10 year old teaching books that they have on the trolleys hee hee

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  LisaRose

  How dare you throw them away? You should have put them in the recycle bin.
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  Are You No Longer Interested in the Arts?

  by compound complex in

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  2. friends

  greetings, new friends and old:.

  i've been here some nine years now and have learned a lot.

  made many dear friends.

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  Yes, I agree there isn't a lot of now JW related topics anymore. The few times I posted such things there wasn't any response, so I don't do it anymore. I enjoyed your senior moments thread though.

  I am not up on all the arts, but I do enjoy browsing art galleries and museums. I went to Santa Fe a few years ago and wouldn't you know it the Georgia O'Keefe museum was closed, I've always been a fan and was looking forward to it. I also tried to go to the San Francisco Museum of Modern Art a while back and it was closed for remodeling. I did get to the Denver Art Museum, they opened a whole new building about seven years ago before I moved from there, that was pretty good. The building is very unusual, it looks sort of like a big ship.
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  What Are Your "Senior Moments" Like?

  by compound complex in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  dear friends:.

  i imagine by now we old timers have adjusted to the fact that we are getting older and, one day, will make our exit.

  are your "senior moments" ever a cause for worry to you?

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  My husband often can't come up with the names for things, and he expects me to read his mind and know what he means. Strangely, sometimes I actually do. He once said he wanted this dessert, couldn't remember the name, but he made a circle with his hands and I knew he meant creme brulee. But when he starts a conversation with "Remember that time we went to that place and did that thing?" I have no clue. He couldn't remember the name of these puff pastry cookies he likes so he called them "air biscuits", so now we just call them that.

  I don't have that but I have ADHD, so I sometimes have trouble remembering to do things, or misplacing things, and it seems to happen more often now that I am past sixty. I have to attach my Keys to my purse or I would constantly be losing them. I only buy earrings at garage sales because I lose them so often.

  Getting old is rough.
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  Court denies summary judgement for Laurel Jehovah's Witnesses congregation

  by OrphanCrow in

  1. watchtower
  2. child-abuse

  court denies summary judgement for laurel jehovah's witnesses congregation.

  a motion for summary judgement is denied in a case against the laurel congregation of jehovah's witnesses and some individuals over child abuse reporting issues.a lawyer for the congregation maintained that elders were exempted from reporting requirements under a state law because of clergy privilege and confidentiality.the case resulted from allegations that elders did not report an unlawful sexual relationship between a woman and a 14-year-old boy, both of whom were members of the jehovah's witnesses congregation.. download the court opinion here.

  http://courts.delaware.gov/opinions/download.aspx?id=235880.

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  The Watchtower doesn't seem to care all that much about privacy in judicial committee matters. The elders share information among themselves, Bethel is notified, the congregation is notified that wrongdoing has occurred by the individual in cases of public reproof or disfellowshipping, even if they are not told the particular offence. They used to actually announce the transgression, they only stopped that when it got them into legal trouble, even then they would have a local needs talk soon after on the particular sin involved. It's often the case that elders tell their wives what happened and it becomes common gossip in the congregation. On the other hand, the Catholic church actually believes in the sacredness of the confessional, for a priest to betray privacy is considered a very serious transgression.

  The Watchtower just doesn't want anyone in or outside the congregations to know they have a problem with child sex abuse and they would rather put children at risk than notify the proper authorities. They don't really care about priviledge, it's just a legal maneuver to not suffer legal and financial consequences for their stubborn refusal to do the right thing.
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  My sister is on Public Reproof... Will she fade (our relationship grow) or will she go back...

  by Butterflyleia85 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  odds are in my favor but i been so heart broken i don't even want to be optimistic about it.. so a few weeks ago my sister has opened up our relationship.

  she hasn't had much contact with me for 5 years because of my disfellowshipment.

  i did post in the past on this site a few points that showed we had bad breaking because of my disfellowshipment.

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  I just felt finished reading Combating Cult Mind Control by Steve Hassan. If you haven't read it yet I would encourage you to do so. At one time he was in a cult, so he really understand what is going on with the thinking. He has helped hundreds of people to break free of cults. In the first edition of the book he didn't mention JWs, he didn't know they were a cult, but the latest edition specifically mentions them.

  Basically, a direct approach where you try to prove the religion is wrong just never works. Never, ever. Even if they have doubts, a direct confrontation just causes the defenses to kick in and they will shut down. This is why they talk so much about us "mentally diseased apostates" it's a phobia instilled into every JW, saying anything negative about the organization causes the fear to come up and you will lose them every time.

  It's better to work on building the relationship, gaining trust. Every person that is in a high control religion has two personalities, the person they are because of the religion and the natural personality, try to connect with the natural personality. Talk about things outside the the religion, what she wants to do in her life, her dreams for the future, that kind of thing. Bite your tongue if you have to, but don't talk about the JWs, especially at first. When you do get to that point, ask questions to get her to think, and so you know what her doubts are, work on that.

  Good luck

  Lisa🌹
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  my worst fears were realized

  by magotan in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  im on my phone, so im really limited.

  i came out to my family about my doubts and my sexuality.

  shit hit the fan.

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  LisaRose

  Thanks for checking in. I'm sorry your family is still being stupid, that's their loss, but I know it still hurts. It's too bad they can't appreciate you for what you are, a courageous young person, living your life in the best way you know how.

  If you were my son I would be very proud.
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  Pandora's Box is now open!

  by pandorasbox1914 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  hi everyone, i have been lurking for some time now and decided to open the box (hence pandora).

  about a year ago i became aware of child abuse within the org, out of curiosity (just like pandora) i opened the box and the evils have been pouring out ever since regarding the org.

  anyway, this came to a head last summer with the arc.

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  LisaRose

  Welcome Pandorasbox, glad you joined us and I look forward to hearing about your journey.

  Lisa🌹
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  Aspeger's syndrome, ASD and Autism - How do you know if you have it?

  by KateWild in

  1. watchtower
  2. medical

  on another thread i was asked by fadetoblack about my asd.

  sorry ftb i didn't respond, but here is your post again and i will respond on this new thread.. i'm curious to know how you know you were born with asperger's syndrome.

  it seems to be extremely hard to clinically diagnose, but popular to self-diagnose.

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  LisaRose

  Interesting point Fade to black. I don't have Aspergers, but I do have ADHD. I don't consider it a completely negative thing, it can make some things more difficult, but it also gives me some unique perspectives. At my age (61) I have learned how to control the more negative aspects of it and use my different brain in ways others can not. I have set up my life in such a way that it's rarely a problem, although I do have to work at it. I have learned coping mechanisms, I meditate and exercise, which helps my jumpy brain slow down a bit.

  I would say that if you are happy and your condition is not hurting anyone else, then don't worry about it. Some of us are just square pegs and we will never force ourselves into that round hole no matter what we do, so why try? Go with your strengths and don't worry about the expectations of others.

  But there are some with this condition who don't function well at all, and I hope science does come up with some answers for them.