Thanks to everyone for your kind words. I have been thinking about it all day and have decided to go see him. I got him a funny card today and plan on trying to get to him tomarrow. I know I'll regret it if I don't. I've thought about this scenerio a million times the past few years, how I would cope with his death considering our relationship. I know it's the right thing to do and I hope that he feels the same way. We'll see...keep your fingers crossed.
You all are incredible. I feel very fortunate to have found you.
love, WW
wonderwoman
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I don't know how I feel...
by wonderwoman inso, i got a call from my jw sis yesterday telling me that my grandpa had a stroke and is in the hospital.
gramps is big-brother-by-the-book-jw.
i have talked to him a handful of times since i was 18. when i was depressed and went to the hospital/therapy etc..he told me to stop being foolish and all i needed to do was pray and go in service more.
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I don't know how I feel...
by wonderwoman inso, i got a call from my jw sis yesterday telling me that my grandpa had a stroke and is in the hospital.
gramps is big-brother-by-the-book-jw.
i have talked to him a handful of times since i was 18. when i was depressed and went to the hospital/therapy etc..he told me to stop being foolish and all i needed to do was pray and go in service more.
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So, I got a call from my jw sis yesterday telling me that my grandpa had a stroke and is in the hospital. Gramps is Big-Brother-By-The-Book-JW. I have talked to him a handful of times since I was 18. When I was depressed and went to the hospital/therapy etc..he told me to stop being foolish and all I needed to do was pray and go in service more. ha. really?? That's partly what got me here. I have begged him through phone calls and mail to meet me for coffee or lunch, telling him how much I love him and miss him with no reponse. He has met my children only a couple of times. Ironically he only lives 15 blocks from me. I have gotten a couple early Saturday morning visits from him and grandma and an invite to the memorial. What I'm trying to convey right now is that I want to see him. I hope he's going to be ok. But, my heart has been broken beyond repair by this man. It's breaking now just thinking about it. I wish he could see me for me and that I am a great mother, a diligent student and a hard worker, not to mention a good friend, partner and woman all around!!
What do you think? Do I try to reconcile something that is HIS to reconcile? Do I have to try again to be the grown-up with the almost certain possibility of getting kicked in the face?
I didn't realize this would hit me so hard. I thought I had moved on. I know most of you have been through all of this as well. Thanks for letting me cry on your shoulder.
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A funny thing happened yesterday
by Satans little helper ini called my sister yesterday - she d/a'd herself a couple of years ago but is still in the uk and lives close to my father; he's a self important elder type who is as insufferable as they generally are.
anyway, the conversation got to talking about family as you do and she mentioned bumping into my father recently, saying that he was sorry that we were having a tough time in oz and ha had sarcastically said that if he had our contact details then he would have sent a card when mrs slh was in hospital.
now i found this somewhat ironic because the reason that he didn't have our contact details was because he chose to not come to our wedding 3 years ago, and after that i do not want to have anything to do with him.
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I hear ya, seven years ago my mom didn't come to my wedding either, after saying she would along with the rest of my immediate family. Two days before the biggest mistake of my life she dropped the bomb on me that she nor the rest of them would be there. They all still made the huge trek to Minnesota, just didn't show up. She just couldn't understand why I was upset. And never has. She was so worried what it would look like to everyone else (her elders) that she chickened out. I can't understand why I GET it and she is so stuck in her little fantasy world watching her every footstep scared to death she'll mess up.
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Whats your worst household chore.........?
by vitty in......................mine has got to be the weekly grocery shop....................oh how i dread and hate it.
i used to think it was the ironing but id rather do a ton of ironing if i didnt have to shop.. its so boring, same food week in week out.................loading it onto the conveyer belt, packing it putting it in the car.........taking it out of the car...........putting it into cupboards then saying " what shall i cook for dinner?
" but by then i just can face the food.. so whats yours?, mowing the lawn and cleaning the car are included .
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ironing and folding the laundry: b/f does a lovely job at both so I leave it to him/ bathroom: my son/ the floor is my anal retentive chore, stemming from all those dreadful years of cleaning floors with dad. I can't help myself...it MUST be spotless no matter how tired, how late, how busy I am- imagine with two kids and a big drooly dog. it seriously drives me insane. my son does make a killer pot of french press...
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Ladies Only Movie Star Quiz!
by SWALKER inladies only.
this is fun if you can take a few minutes....... which movie star are you?.
well, a team of researchers got together and analyzed the personalities.
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wonderwoman
Call me Katharine, darlings.
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NEWBIES how many of you
by plmkrzy inhave joined in the past month or two?.
i can't keep up there seems to be so many so i wanted to start a welcome thread for new newbies.. sorry if this was already done recently.. note: the in-built search system is currently being redeveloped so i am not able to check for this topic without looking through tons of pages.. anyway...say hello!.
plm.
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I joined August something...
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I'LL see ya'll Sunday/Monday
by OpenFireGlass ingotta another backstage security gig to work this weekend.... fun, fun.... i'll be here: http://www.earthdance.org/sf/.
& of course i'll have pictures.... peace, mike.
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wonderwoman
Hey Mike!
Wish I was there! Can't wait to see your photos and hear all about it.
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Why I'm here
by Calico Ethel inthe last 10 years of my life have been not the greatest to say the least.
my mother became a jw when i was about 5 yrs.
old and then of course, she made us kids go to the kh with her.
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wonderwoman
Hey Calico...you're at the right place. And you're only going UP.
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PLEASE HELP ME WELCOME A NEW FRIEND
by schne_belly incalico ethel.... one of my best friends!!!
glad you joined us!!!
now you can see for yourself why i talk about jwd and all the sweet people on here!
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wonderwoman
Welcome Calico!!! I looove pirates. Ahoy matie.
If you ever wake up in Minneapolis let me know. I bartend at a nightclub 'The Lounge' and would love for anyone to stop in. And I am for sure up for a roadtrip.
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DA by making own announcement at KH
by Alligator Wisdom ina brother would state that he is "no longer a jehovah's witness" after his part on the service meeting.
a sister would state the same after her talk on the tms.
or anyone for that matter can express such after making a comment at the watchtower study.
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wonderwoman
WOW! I had no idea LT! Like everyone else I wish I could've been there! I wonder how many people you affected-as in thier beliefs and doubts- with that move.
Amazing.
WW (in awe)