Posts by exwitless

This argument has been rolled over many times on this board. DA or don't DA? Is DAing "playing their game" or is it our way of disfellowshipping the WT from us? I think there is really only one answer to questions like these: it depends. It depends on a lot of things like whether you still have family in the borg you want to keep in touch with, or if the elders are on your back and you feel like you're being spied on, or whether you have children who would love to celebrate holidays and birthdays like their classmates, and endless other things.

It's not our place to judge someone for their decision to DA or not DA. DAing for LDB and I was the best thing we could've done, and I'd do it again. But maybe it's not right for others. It all depends on each person's circumstances. I agree with Garybuss in that this should not be a rash decision. LDB and I planned on DAing about 8 months in advance and thought it out thoroughly. Seeking the advice of a counselor might help, but it might not, unless the counselor is an ex-JW. Non-exdub counselors likely lack the depth of understanding needed in a situation like this.

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Pointers please in writing my letter of Disassociation!

by tremoka in

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friends

wooohooo!

i've made my decision!

i'm doing it, can't live in limbo any longer.

exwitless

Your reasons are very valid. I'm all for DAing. My husband (Little Drummer Boy) and I DA'd last September. It's the best thing we could have done, for the very reasons you mentioned. Elders were bugging us all the time, calling,stopping by, leaving WTs in the door, wanting us to study to revive our "love for Jehovah". We wanted to celebrate Christmas and we didn't want to hide it from the borg or be looking over our shoulders all the time when we went shopping for decorations,etc. That wasn't our only reason for DAing, but the main issue was to get them off our backs!!! Like I said, it's the best thing we could have done. It's been so quiet and peaceful since then.

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WHAT WAS YOUR WORST DOOR-TO-DOOR PRESENTION?

by badboy in

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friends

any takers?.

exwitless

My first one. I was with my hubby and a younger guy who was working with us because we were new at it. I finally got brave and decided to "take a door" and offer a tract, something like 'Does God Really Rule the World?'. Well, fortunately the guy at the door was nice and I'm sure he could tell I was nervous. After I said a few things, I thought I should get to the point as to why this info was important. So I said "This is important, because Satan is out to get us." Then I went totally blank and wanted to get swallowed up by the sidewalk. The guy smiled and said "OK" and took the tract. I said "Have a nice day" and left.

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A Bible Question, please comment

by restrangled in

there will have to be assumptions involved here.....that god exists, the bible is the word of god and creation is as stated in genesis, etc.

etc.. in the old testament, god seemed pretty straight forward, let certain people know (and not by osmosis) his intent.

backed certain kings, and showed power through physical occurrences over and over again.. along comes his son, who died for the entire race as a ransom for adam's sin.

exwitless

Your question is the exact reason I am very reserved about believing anything right now. If god wants us to do something, act a certain way, believe things, etc., why does it have to be such a mystery? If he exists and is truly loving of humans, why would he make it so difficult for us to know what is right?

It's kinda like a parent raising a child, saying to the child: "I won't tell you the rules directly. You need to figure out what my rules are and then obey them. You might be right and you might be wrong, but I'll only reward you if you happen to guess right. If you're wrong, you'll lose my approval." How fair is that?

So I figure I can't know for 100% sure if my beliefs and actions are "right" or if god even exists. And since he has been watching from afar (assuming he exists) and has stopped communicating with humans, how can he hold me as an imperfect human accountable? I don't feel the love in that.

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