Yeah, I just stopped going. I was DF'd then reinstated, for my dad mainly. After that I just stopped going. The elders did hear about some of the stuff I was doing which probably would have gotten me DFd again, I just lied. I felt at that point it wasn't for me so why did I have to answer to them. Now, it is obvious to other that are still active, that still know me, that I should have been DFd, but the truth of the matter is they are glad I am not so they don't have to treat me that way. The elders asked me after I stopped why I did RIGHT after I got reinstated. I told them it wasn't really for me at the time. They had nothing to DF me for so they didn't. that was seven years ago.
It might not work that way for you but the remaining family member that are still active continue to treat me fine, my brother on the other hand is DFd and although my parents do not treat him any different others do, and it is completely BS. It doesn't hurt the fact that only two members in my immediate family are still in.
Keep in mind though if you don't do something it will just continue to bother you. Nobody wants to live a lie or feel forced to do something.