i am category 2, but my situation is pretty unique.
my mother is a JW but my father, recently deceased, never commited because he was mentally ill. my mother was forced to stay with a mentally ill person who caused our family nothing but pain because of the organization's policies on divorce. she had free reign to brainwash us because my father was not sane enough to do anything about it, much less care. my mother always felt shame because she could never get him dyed in the wool and tote him along to the kingdom hall with us regularly. it's all about appearances, after all.
when i left, he was the only one who didn't hold it against me ... although, by then he believed JW's were right but he was too "sinful" and never good enough to ever be one. my mother made him feel like a worthless piece of crap his whole life because she was so bitter at never being allowed to leave him.