Posts by FreeGirl2006

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How much have you changed since you left the JWs..........

by fifi40 in

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the reason that i ask this question is for two reasons mainly.. firstly, my experience as a jw and within the various congregations i was part of, was that they were a very mixed bag.

there were those who were very devout, studious and appeared to be very humble and placid in nature.

there were those that were very judgemental of others.

FreeGirl2006

I am no longer 1)depressed 2)judgmental 3)unhappy.

I feel like I am in the sun after a long, cold, dark winter. Frankly, I wouldn't go back for a gazillion dollars. I love life now! It is a refreshing change to the first 34 years of my life. I replaced my "family" who dropped me when I needed them most with some friends who truly are closer than brothers (sisters). When my friends don't hear from me one day...I get a call or visit....I missed a year's worth of meeting due to serious illness with nary a word from the "true christian brotherhood"...definitely a marked contrast.

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ANYTHING EXCITING EVER HAPPENED ON THE DOORS?

by badboy in

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any takers?

FreeGirl2006

I had three different men come to the door completely naked. Unfortunately for me, not one of them was attractive . I just looked 'em in the eyes and finished my presentation...it took a lot more than that to intimidate me (dobermans for instance).

Another time, a friend and I got trapped at the door by a llama. We gave it some chewing gum to distract it so we could get back to the car.....well that is enough wandering down this memory lane...thank god I have better things to do with my time now.

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Comments You Will Not Hear at the 4-8-07 WT Study (Obedient Children)

by blondie in

wt child abuse www.silentlambs.org.

"children, be obedient to your parents".

they soon understand that they are there to listen and to learn.prov.

FreeGirl2006

Blondie I will take your WatchWrapup any ole day to the actual WatchCrap I endured for so long! You always hit upon the heart of the matter so concisely. Thanks for all the time you expend on this each week...it is much appreciated.

Free

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Would you have married a non JW

by JH in

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when you were a good active jw, would you have considered marrying a non jw or was this completely out of the question..

FreeGirl2006

Proph,

Funny you say that you never measured up because frankly I never measured up to the "brothers" standards...I was too much my own person even though I was raised in the truth and I never hesitated to voice my opinions. A relationship within the borg was doomed! I really tried hard to be the picture perfect sister, but pioneering was not for me, dressing in boring clothing was not for me, acting like a stepford wife...not for me and all the bros I met were looking for that. Now, I am grateful to be able to meet some normal healthy men who just want...normal healthy woman and dating has taken on a whole different tone.

Sorry your marriage experience outside the borg didn't work out, but perhaps with a non-cult outlook it will be much better next time. :) I don't see how many borg marriages last anyway!

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Would you have married a non JW

by JH in

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friends

when you were a good active jw, would you have considered marrying a non jw or was this completely out of the question..

FreeGirl2006

Prophecor...love your honesty:

I, too, know had I married JW, I would have made a disaster out of some sisters life as well as my own, even more than had she been not.

If only that attitude had prevailed in the Borg....guess that is why your out...you have a conscience!

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Would you have married a non JW

by JH in

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friends

when you were a good active jw, would you have considered marrying a non jw or was this completely out of the question..

FreeGirl2006

I went out with a non-dub at age 18 and we talked about getting married, but I just couldn't do it...too much pressure to conform. I then married the requisite jerk dub after doing what passes as dating in dubland for an agonizing 11 years. Now that I am out, I have yet to meet any ex-dub people in the flesh. When I first started dating I thought it would be nice to date an ex-dub because he would understand where I have been (in dub-hell), but I don't think it matters really. I do have some high standards when it comes to men and that at least weeds out a good portion of them right off the bat. I just want some semblance of normal from whomever I date...no weird cult ideas shaping the direction of our lives. I know I would not marry a dub again and I am not even sure about the marry part, but maybe marriage is totally different outside the Borg...at least I sure hope so or what is the point?

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WHO ELSE IS GOING TO THE MEMORIAL THIS YEAR???

by Mary in

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friends

geeze, the memorial to remember your place in the organization jesus christ is next tueday i think.......anyone else getting roped into going besides me?

i'm trying to talk my brother into going....just so i'm not the only slacker there.

i know whats going to happen.

FreeGirl2006

A big plus in being disfellowshipped and treated with a full-on dose of ~~true Christian love~~ being ignored by once-upon-a-time friends and family....I never have to go to a Memorial again. Not one invite has made its way to my door...live in gated community right across the street from a KH. I am waiting for a guilt call from one of my nieces (ages 6 & 11) as my family uses them to relay their expectations of me..."Auntie Freegirl when are you coming back to the hall", "Auntie Freegirl we are sad because you are going to be destroyed", "Auntie Freegirl don't you love Jehovah and us anymore?". Nothing like screwing up another generation of young minds.

It will feel strange not attending as this is the first one I have missed ever, but just can't summon enough interest in the Borg and its crap to go and if no one is going to speak with me...well, no point in putting the energy into being a warm body in such a cold place. I think I will just go out and have some drinks with friends and enjoy the full moon.

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Could do with a little help

by fifi40 in

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friends

cant really explain to much at the mo am emotionally numb but think i may be about to bring an end to my marriage,,,,,,,,,,and inside i am falling apart

FreeGirl2006

Fifi,

My heart goes out to you! Hang on, take it one minute at a time and breathe. It will get better. This great group of people will hold your hand all the way if you let them.

Freegirl

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I Received Real Good News Today

by FreeGirl2006 in

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friends

i want to thank everyone for your support the other day when i wrote about my stepson being in an accident and just finding out about it because i got the hospital bill.. this morning i was walking down the hall at work and looked up and there was my stepson.

he came to see me!.

this is a great place to come for love & support when we get kicked by the borg...does it ever end?

FreeGirl2006

I want to thank everyone for your support the other day when I wrote about my stepson being in an accident and just finding out about it because I got the hospital bill.

This morning I was walking down the hall at work and looked up and there was my stepson. He came to see me! And I am taking him out to lunch today. Isn't that awesome! I did not even send the letter out yet, but that is okay because now I get to say it to him directly!

This is a great place to come for love & support when we get kicked by the Borg...does it ever end?

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SCANNED MEMORIAL INVITATION

by Mary in

jw
friends

someone was asking for a scanned copy of the memorial invitation, so here it is, front and back.

i've uh, revized it a bit to say what they really mean.

please feel free to distribute to anyone you think might be interested in attending.

FreeGirl2006

Mary, you are sooo talented. I am still laughing hysterically over this.