My best wishes for you and your wife. I am glad to see that after so many years of being let down by those who were suppose to love and protect her that your wife has someone who will not only do both but who will fight for her as well. You sound like a wonderful husband.
Posts by LaniB
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27After 18months I get called on - Elder confrontation.
by wozadummy infirstly i will acknowlege this may be long please bear with me.. not all written here will be exactly in the sequence we discussed things, for we talked for some time at my door.. he was my former book study conductor and i still think he has good qualities that i see lacking in so many elders, but as you will see the wts mindset is like concrete in his mind.. i am writing this not to brag but to emphasise and highlight the disgusting mindset of the wts and it's leaders and members.. here we go - some may know that my wife was molested as a child for some time by her elder father.
when we married some years ago it did not take long for her to open up to me about what happened to her and needless to say we struggled with this, and eventually told the local elders what happened to her as a child.. we only went this path after she tried to get him to confess ,which he did'nt and so we followed what we thought at the time was the theocratic way and went to the elders ,and please note we sincerely wanted him to repent so he could get everlasting life.
he denied all and so followed years of heartache for my wife along with her family tormenting her and eventually abandoning her, even by at least one of her sisters whom my wife also witnessed getting done by the father though not as bad ,and my wife even as a kid tried to protect her younger sisters.. ok there is the usual wts crap "we have no witnesses" even though my wife called out to jehovah to stop him as he did this for years.
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Is anyone on?? I need someone to talk to its not really witness related
by Mindyemt ini just need someone to listen to me my depression is bad and got no one to talk to
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LaniB
I'm in Australia so I'll be around for awhile. It's only 2.30pm here. I've pm'd you my email if you need it.
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Is anyone on?? I need someone to talk to its not really witness related
by Mindyemt ini just need someone to listen to me my depression is bad and got no one to talk to
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LaniB
I am here too. I went thru miscarriage about 5 years back so any time you want to chat just pm me
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what to do? Grandson being beaten by JW father
by slvrtrixter ini am an inactive jw who has 3 sons left in the religon.
my oldest son has been baptized for4 years and has recently married again.
he gets his son every other weekend.
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LaniB
The photos, doctors visits and police are exactly what you should be doing so I won't add anything more on that except to say if he has bruises either take him to the doctor/police the day he comes back from the visit or the next day, otherwise you give his father the opportunity to say that it occurred after the child got home. The more visits to the authorities the harder it is for anyone to believe that this was just an accident (ie Johnny fell off his bike that weekend).
I've worked in family law, but only as a secretary and it is in Australia. If it is of any help I'll share what I know. Most Courts here unless they see evidence will take it as a he said/she said because of the number of people who use their children as an excuse to get to their ex. If there is any type of abuse claims they take them seriously and will bring in a psychologist with custody cases if their are unsubstatiated claims to decide what is in the best interest of the child.
In Australia the Court can and will order a family evaluation to observe the child with both father and then mother, then father and his new wife, then mother and her (if any) new partner, then the psychologist will interview the child in a very non-confrontational manner. The psychologist then give the Court a report of how the child relates to either parent, what the child has to say about the living situations and if the child appears to have been rehearsed by either party.
I will also add that the fact that you are standing up for your daughter in law against your own son would probably be looked on favourably for your daughter in law. In most custody cases the grandparents tend to support their own child over their childs ex.
I'd follow the advice given and document any times you have offered to babysit and been turned down or tried to see your grandson. I'd then offer that to your daughter in laws lawyer and let him decide what is of use and what would possibly (if at all) harm her case.
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New Here, My Personal Story
by johannahw ini have thought off and on about the jws for years.
my little sister brenda converted about 30 years ago and raised two sons in the truth as she called it.
one boy, mason, is still being raised as a jw (he is 15) and my other nephew, aaron, left the organization on his 18th birthday.
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LaniB
Welcome to the board Johanna,
I am another smoker trying to quit so I know how hard it can be. I've also suffered from depression in the past. I left around the time one of the elders told me that I was depressed because I couldn't cope with life like normal people. A lot of christian love there.
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Who is Henrietta M. Riley
by cultswatter ini googled that name and found a trust fund that is named after her.
i also found the tax returns for 2005,2004,2003 for that fund.
the riley trust funds largest revenue is oil and gas royalties and in 2005 over 3 million dollars of oil and gas royalties flowed into the riley trust fund.
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LaniB
I've actually seen this mentioned before. I will try and find the link. They have shares in the tobacco company. I think the WTS gets around it by saying it gives money to them they don't control it. It's a bequest of the lady mentioned in the trust.
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Anyone from Tasmania here
by LaniB ini use to be based on the nw coast sometimes burnie, sometimes devonport, sometimes i wandered as far a field as sydney.
just wondering if there were any other tasmanians around
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LaniB
Hi Paul Grundy (and everyone else). My name is Ellani. I am sure I've met you Paul. Either in Tassie or maybe at Bethel, I had a friend Simon who was there for awhile from Devonport.
Be interested to here from some of the old group, see who is in and out.
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Anyone from Tasmania here
by LaniB ini use to be based on the nw coast sometimes burnie, sometimes devonport, sometimes i wandered as far a field as sydney.
just wondering if there were any other tasmanians around
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LaniB
I use to be based on the NW coast sometimes Burnie, sometimes Devonport, sometimes I wandered as far a field as Sydney. Just wondering if there were any other Tasmanians around
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Is it weird that I don't miss it?
by bluesbreaker59 inok, other than my father, i don't miss anything about being a dub at all.
seriously, i love my life right now, its great, thinking for myself, doing what i want, etc., etc.. i've only been out 3 months, officially, and i find no "void" or anything.
i've got a bunch of great friends on the outside, that i had for years while being jw, and then i have my mother and all her family supporting me.
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LaniB
I was in from 17 to about 29/30. I was lucky that the only member of my family in the Borg was my sister and she still kept associating with me after I left.
When I finally made the decision to fade away I remember the first night that I deliberately didn't go to a meeting. It was such a relief. I sat around, watched television, ordered out pizza and started the next day to throw out all my literature.
No more meetings, no more field service, no more trying to be accepted into a congregation where as a single sister whose family was "not in the truth" I wasn't considered to be "marriage material" for the few single brothers available (not that any of them were interesting).
It was wonderful. Congrats on getting out.
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Since mentally leaving JWs I finally can......
by R.F. indo household chores without the rush....... spend time with my little neice(now fatherless) without worrying..."i need to take her back home, i gotta study that wt lesson for tomorrow!".
hang out with my younger brother without thinking..."crap it's monday...that lesson in the "revelation" book ain't studying itself!".
visit my sister without thinking......."should i see her before the meeting or after field service?
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LaniB
well since leaving I have finally started a life, found a fiance and had a wonderful baby girl.
It's great to have finally been able to go out and meet someone without worrying about their religious background being different to yours and the reaction of the elders, the gossip of the congregation.