Thanks, I suppose it's because I never feel that good about myself. "Low self esteem thy name is Lani". Although its funny in a way. Here I am apologising for making everything about me and I'm creating a topic all about me. I just came back to delete or edit my post to change it from being another "all about me" post but there were answers and I appreciate it. I stopped attending meetings years ago but always defended the Witnesses and put my decision to leave down to not being strong enough and having a suicidal death wish until about a year ago. And then I started questioning things and finally lost faith in it all.
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24I think I owe the board an apology
by LaniB inyes it's past midnight and i'm getting melancholy and starting to rehash my life of late.
melancholy yes, but i haven't hit the bottle yet so its not alcoholly.
seriously though, i thought i'd offer an apology.
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I think I owe the board an apology
by LaniB inyes it's past midnight and i'm getting melancholy and starting to rehash my life of late.
melancholy yes, but i haven't hit the bottle yet so its not alcoholly.
seriously though, i thought i'd offer an apology.
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LaniB
Yes it's past midnight and I'm getting melancholy and starting to rehash my life of late. Melancholy yes, but I haven't hit the bottle yet so its not alcoholly.
Seriously though, I thought I'd offer an apology. I feel like I've come to the board, which has been very welcoming, and been more concerned with me, myself and I then helping out others and I'd like to apologise for that. I wonder sometimes if it's because I was in the borg so long and trying to please everyone else that now I am free I'm very self involved, which is an idea that is rather repugnent to me. I tend to be very anti-watchtower but feel that maybe I am more joining threads and adding my story to someone elses. Does that make sense?
I do appreciate the help I've been given and I will try to post more correctly, well what i mean by correctly is not ranting on about my life as the only form of posting I do.
In a weird way I just feel very disconnected with life. Thankfully I do have an anchor with my daughter and fiance. I just feel like I am trying to rejoin the human race, stay in touch with friends, stop being so concerned with me and reach outwards to others.
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My friend was DF'ed 7 years ago - lost touch now
by Orgull ini was a good soldier, i shunned her like i was supposed to.
she applied for reinstatement several times but was rejected.
as far as i know she's still df'ed.. i have no idea where she is now or how to find her.
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LaniB
If you know her schools or even the area she went to school try schoolfriends.com or some like site. I got contacted by a friend I hadn't heard from in 20 years. I lost touch with her when I got assimmilated by the borg
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tattoos and piercings, do they have a meaning for you?
by memario inlately on here someone got a piecing and my question is did it mean anything to you or was it a thing to do?
i have thought of getting a tattoo but i don't know what to get.
it needs to repersent something of significance in my life.
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LaniB
I got a butterfly on my right shoulder blade. It's in an area where I can cover it if I wish or show it off when I wish because as Terry said, they are for life. Some occasions I feel like showing it, other times I don't.
I don't regret getting it, it has a meaning to me, but I only ever wanted one and won't be getting another. However I recommend if anyone wants one, especially in an area that is constantly on display, go get a henna tattoo. It's a semi. If, after a year or so of having it, you still want it you can make it permanent.
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Fun WIth Covers 5 completed. Thanks... more to come
by Wasanelder Once inhey all, fun with covers 5 is complete and here's the link:.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tzyinboa8zi.
thanks for your efforts.
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LaniB
Absolutely hilarious. I watched it and then the previous 4
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How Many People Here Have Been "Disciplined" By The Elders?
by minimus inby "discipline" i mean, either private, public reproof, disfellowshipping or something that got you in enough trouble that you had to be counseled by the loving shepherds and it cost you something by not having "privileges".
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LaniB
Not by the elders but I use to have this older pioneer sister who when I first started attending meetings when I was 17 would come up to me every meeting and tell me "you wear too much makeup. You look like a prostitute." The funny thing was her 14 year old daughter would be standing beside her looking like she used a shovel to apply hers and I only ever had on a little bit of eyeshadow and mascara.
It worried me so much I went up to an older sister (who was in her 40's) and asked "Do I have too much make up on?" The sister did a double take, peered closely and said "Oh, you do have make up on after all".
I did however get an elder disciplined. He was an elder from my old congregation and told the elders of my new congregation that I
escapedleft just ahead of a judicial committee. I called the PO of my old congregation instead of him as I'd been requested and found out there was no judicial committee. He got removed as an elder for lying to his fellow elders. (pooooor guy) -
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After 18months I get called on - Elder confrontation.
by wozadummy infirstly i will acknowlege this may be long please bear with me.. not all written here will be exactly in the sequence we discussed things, for we talked for some time at my door.. he was my former book study conductor and i still think he has good qualities that i see lacking in so many elders, but as you will see the wts mindset is like concrete in his mind.. i am writing this not to brag but to emphasise and highlight the disgusting mindset of the wts and it's leaders and members.. here we go - some may know that my wife was molested as a child for some time by her elder father.
when we married some years ago it did not take long for her to open up to me about what happened to her and needless to say we struggled with this, and eventually told the local elders what happened to her as a child.. we only went this path after she tried to get him to confess ,which he did'nt and so we followed what we thought at the time was the theocratic way and went to the elders ,and please note we sincerely wanted him to repent so he could get everlasting life.
he denied all and so followed years of heartache for my wife along with her family tormenting her and eventually abandoning her, even by at least one of her sisters whom my wife also witnessed getting done by the father though not as bad ,and my wife even as a kid tried to protect her younger sisters.. ok there is the usual wts crap "we have no witnesses" even though my wife called out to jehovah to stop him as he did this for years.
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LaniB
My best wishes for you and your wife. I am glad to see that after so many years of being let down by those who were suppose to love and protect her that your wife has someone who will not only do both but who will fight for her as well. You sound like a wonderful husband.
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Is anyone on?? I need someone to talk to its not really witness related
by Mindyemt ini just need someone to listen to me my depression is bad and got no one to talk to
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LaniB
I'm in Australia so I'll be around for awhile. It's only 2.30pm here. I've pm'd you my email if you need it.
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Is anyone on?? I need someone to talk to its not really witness related
by Mindyemt ini just need someone to listen to me my depression is bad and got no one to talk to
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LaniB
I am here too. I went thru miscarriage about 5 years back so any time you want to chat just pm me
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what to do? Grandson being beaten by JW father
by slvrtrixter ini am an inactive jw who has 3 sons left in the religon.
my oldest son has been baptized for4 years and has recently married again.
he gets his son every other weekend.
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LaniB
The photos, doctors visits and police are exactly what you should be doing so I won't add anything more on that except to say if he has bruises either take him to the doctor/police the day he comes back from the visit or the next day, otherwise you give his father the opportunity to say that it occurred after the child got home. The more visits to the authorities the harder it is for anyone to believe that this was just an accident (ie Johnny fell off his bike that weekend).
I've worked in family law, but only as a secretary and it is in Australia. If it is of any help I'll share what I know. Most Courts here unless they see evidence will take it as a he said/she said because of the number of people who use their children as an excuse to get to their ex. If there is any type of abuse claims they take them seriously and will bring in a psychologist with custody cases if their are unsubstatiated claims to decide what is in the best interest of the child.
In Australia the Court can and will order a family evaluation to observe the child with both father and then mother, then father and his new wife, then mother and her (if any) new partner, then the psychologist will interview the child in a very non-confrontational manner. The psychologist then give the Court a report of how the child relates to either parent, what the child has to say about the living situations and if the child appears to have been rehearsed by either party.
I will also add that the fact that you are standing up for your daughter in law against your own son would probably be looked on favourably for your daughter in law. In most custody cases the grandparents tend to support their own child over their childs ex.
I'd follow the advice given and document any times you have offered to babysit and been turned down or tried to see your grandson. I'd then offer that to your daughter in laws lawyer and let him decide what is of use and what would possibly (if at all) harm her case.