Ok so we are doomed!!! Does that give me the right to give up so easily? If being a JW is as bad as it seems than if I truly love him I should have a look and then I should apply patience,understanding,patience,doubt,questions and most of all love?! If he is dating me and risking all perhaps he has doubt? of course we are doomed anyway...but at least I can live knowing I tried......
Posts by smily
-
24Impossible situation! Can it ever work?
by smily inwell, things have moved on...my jw man has been agonizing over whether he should be seeing me or not?!
if i was a jw it would all be different?!
is that not like saying if i was not "black,american,german,white ect" surely this is racism of some kind?
-
-
-
24
Impossible situation! Can it ever work?
by smily inwell, things have moved on...my jw man has been agonizing over whether he should be seeing me or not?!
if i was a jw it would all be different?!
is that not like saying if i was not "black,american,german,white ect" surely this is racism of some kind?
-
-
smily
Thanks for all the help! I always knew he was a JW that was never a secret I think I just never took it seriously also because he was df'd!.Now that he is reinstated its all a much bigger issue.I have met his family and friends he is not hiding me! It was my idea to have a look because it is so obviously important to him!!! He has not tried to convert me yet! No bible study has been suggested.just a look at the books and beliefs.
-
24
Impossible situation! Can it ever work?
by smily inwell, things have moved on...my jw man has been agonizing over whether he should be seeing me or not?!
if i was a jw it would all be different?!
is that not like saying if i was not "black,american,german,white ect" surely this is racism of some kind?
-
-
smily
Well, Things have moved on...My JW man has been agonizing over whether he should be seeing me or not?! If I was a JW it would all be different?! Is that not like saying if I was not "black,american,german,white ect" surely this is racism of some kind? Why am I to be punished for what I have never been? So I have agreed (mind with a very heavy heart) to have a look?! (you all knew this was coming and have heard it all before,Iam sure!) The weight seems to have lifted (at least somewhat temporarly) from him to ME! Can this ever be resolved? Can love really triumph over THIS? I feel better when I think of him...he seems so much happier now? but have I somehow given false hope? Our we doomed?
Advice please? You are all so much wiser and more experienced than I !!!!!!!
-
1
In need of some material
by smily ini have ordered several of the books that people have advised me to read and have been to the many websites and iam reading as fast as i can!
i read somewhere there is a version of the bible that you can discuss with jw's could somebody let me know what this is?
where is it best to start reading?
-
-
smily
I have ordered several of the books that people have advised me to read and have been to the many websites and Iam reading as fast as I can! Thanks to everyone for their help! I read somewhere there is a version of the bible that you can discuss with JW's Could somebody let me know what this is? Where is it best to start reading? I have no christian background so understanding JW's is very difficult! Why do I feel like time is of the essence? Iam curious about what my man believes but many have said if I start studying the JWs will not believe i want the truth! any way around this?
-
18
Help He has been reinstated and Iam lost!
by smily inhe has been reinstated and only just told me because he felt i could not understand!
he says he is living 2 lives, 1 with me and his non witness friends and 1 with his jw's.
he says he loves me but i dont understand?
-
-
smily
He does seem to pick and choose but as Iam not sure of the rules I do not know how serious it is.He does drink and we have had some kissing! He always feels guilty after and backs up and gets quite upset for a few days.He also does sports and has some non-JW friends.
-
18
Help He has been reinstated and Iam lost!
by smily inhe has been reinstated and only just told me because he felt i could not understand!
he says he is living 2 lives, 1 with me and his non witness friends and 1 with his jw's.
he says he loves me but i dont understand?
-
-
smily
Ok well , maybe I did not explain it well. He did tell me he was trying to talk with the elders and I was fully aware of the fact that he was really unhappy about being out.He feels like a failure especially to his parents.He was kicked out because he got divorced from a JW and could not handle it all and went on a drunken few months of craziness! I dont feel he has lied to me just that perhaps as I did not understand it fully I underestimated its signifigance.He has never hide his religious ideas from me I have just never really asked!Now he says he feels like he is living two lives? but still he wants time? So to me (perhaps false hope) I feel his is not sooooooo sure! he does indeed seem heart wrenchingly confused.
-
18
Help He has been reinstated and Iam lost!
by smily inhe has been reinstated and only just told me because he felt i could not understand!
he says he is living 2 lives, 1 with me and his non witness friends and 1 with his jw's.
he says he loves me but i dont understand?
-
-
smily
He has been reinstated and only just told me because he felt I could not understand! He says he is living 2 lives, 1 with me and his non witness friends and 1 with his JW's. He says he loves me but I dont understand? Help what is there to understand? I thought it was possible for JW's to go out and care about non JW's? He seems to be getting deeper in and I seem to be losing him? What can I do?
-
9
Is it really that difficult to leave?
by smily inmy friend is a jw born and raised and has been disfellowshiped.he is unsure if he wants to go back or not but it seems to be such a heart wrenching decison which as a non-jw iam having alot of trouble understanding!
he still goes to meetings and seems to have alot of trouble letting go...i have met alot of his friends and he does not seem to hide me away although he is careful to only see me at certain times.. iam afraid to encourage him to leave as it seems so difficult.i know he feels he would be letting alot of people down but he already does alot he should not like drinking and sports...and seeing me?!.
is it really so difficult?.
-
-
smily
My friend is a JW born and raised and has been disfellowshiped.He is unsure if he wants to go back or not but it seems to be such a heart wrenching decison which as a non-JW Iam having alot of trouble understanding! He still goes to meetings and seems to have alot of trouble letting go...I have met alot of his friends and he does not seem to hide me away although he is careful to only see me at certain times.
Iam afraid to encourage him to leave as it seems so difficult.I know he feels he would be letting alot of people down but he already does alot he should not like drinking and sports...and seeing me?!
Is it really so difficult?
-
5
Non JW with JW friend..so many questions some help is needed...
by smily ini have a friend who is a df'd jw.
he says he wants to get reinstated although he seems unsure about this.all his family and most of his friends are jw's.he has asked me out on several occassions and then has changed his mind.i know he cares about me and wants to be better friends at the very least.i would like to talk to him about these things but whenever i try it seems to go all wrong!
i care about this man and cannot give up on him.i have tried reading up on jw's but there are some many rules and regulations.
-
-
smily
Hi and thanks for replying..my friend does not tell me things all the time so it is hard to establish if he is attending meetings regularly but I do know that he had a meeting with some elders to discuss being reinstated. He is still in contact with his family who still love him but he seems to feel he is causing them pain and embarrassment.He has some friends who have "faded" and talks of this sometimes.He talks quite often of having to make a firm descion.He already breaks some rules from what I have read but tells me that the rules are more of a guidelines to live by rather than rules. (this does not seem correct from what I have read).
-
5
Non JW with JW friend..so many questions some help is needed...
by smily ini have a friend who is a df'd jw.
he says he wants to get reinstated although he seems unsure about this.all his family and most of his friends are jw's.he has asked me out on several occassions and then has changed his mind.i know he cares about me and wants to be better friends at the very least.i would like to talk to him about these things but whenever i try it seems to go all wrong!
i care about this man and cannot give up on him.i have tried reading up on jw's but there are some many rules and regulations.
-
-
smily
I have a friend who is a DF'd JW. I think that is how you say it? He says he wants to get reinstated although he seems unsure about this.All his family and most of his friends are JW's.He has asked me out on several occassions and then has changed his mind.I know he cares about me and wants to be better friends at the very least.I would like to talk to him about these things but whenever I try it seems to go all wrong! I care about this man and cannot give up on him.I have tried reading up on JW's but there are some many rules and regulations. I have a child out of wedlock which Iam sure looks bad for him.Please someone help..