Posts by AllTimeJeff

What I mean is, you want what you want. For you to be happy, you have to find the right match for you, even if its for just where you are at the moment. There is nothing wrong with pursuing a woman to make you happy....

....so long as you aren't pretending to be someone you aren't.

I have seen it in myself, and other ex JW, but just because we haven't as of yet discovered who we are doesn't mean that the authentic us isn't lurking just under the surface.

So be yourself, you may attract who you should be with. It beats pretending to be different and attracting someone who thinks you are someone else...

If that made any sense, thats all on you. Congrats....

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I Hate This Game!

by Aeiouy in

aaaaaaarrrrrrrrrgggghghghghghghhhhh!.

i'm slightly frustrated.

about a month ago, i lost the most amazing girl i've ever known.

AllTimeJeff

Vowelboy (said with affection) :)

Something just occurred to me, be yourself man.

Women like individuals. I use the word 'quirky'. Don't play the game. First of all, you are a former JW, so lets be frank, you don't have game at the moment. This is the first girl after leaving the borg? Then she likes different. Trust me, I didn't realize just how different JW guys act after they first leave. I am sure (though I couldn't possibly know for sure) that exiting JW women are similar.

Use it to your advantage. Don't pretend that you are a player, otherwise, you are going to come across like Steve Martin and Dan Akroyd in those old "2 wild and crazy guy" skits.

There are some silver linings for being a JW and coming out for dating. You aren't going to be a mega player at the bar, so don't play that hand. You have different cards, and they are good cards. Learn them, learn yourself, you'll be good dude.

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I Hate This Game!

by Aeiouy in

aaaaaaarrrrrrrrrgggghghghghghghhhhh!.

i'm slightly frustrated.

about a month ago, i lost the most amazing girl i've ever known.

AllTimeJeff

Its not that women don't want that, but they want to be around a man who possesss himself.

There is a way some men act that when they treat their lady like a queen that they come across as needy.

On the other hand, she could just be a b*tch.

Sorry if that isn't helpful.

Also, I think your viewpoint of women... well, I can't agree with it. I understand the need to rant, so thats cool. I hope you understand that feedback is a part of putting this stuff 'out there'.

Just to sum up, women want to be treated better then a queen, they want to be treated as an individual. She may have saw you treating her like a queen, but more importantly, she may not know why you treated her like a queen. Just a thought.

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for the long time posters

by rockmehardplace in

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friends

do you get tired of rehashing the same things over and over with us "newbies"?

if not, what is your favorite topic to discuss?.

AllTimeJeff

I am not a newbie anymore.... :)

I don't mind the rehashing for new ones. I was new once, and I appreciated a lot of input that no doubt was repeated previous.

A few topics when I started

Are JW's a cult?

Are all JW's bad?

Is Faith Bad?

Questions about personal development and growth?

Before this board became a place to hang out, it was a place to work things out. And we all need foils, so I have had mine. Lately, public affairs and politics dominate, because I need to catch up. Tomorrow?

Piiiiigs Iiiiiin Spaaaaace!

Or whatever. Newbies, rock on!

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Historic Turning Point After Century in Brooklyn, Watchtower Pulls Out of Heights

by Dogpatch in

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downtown brooklyn its definite.

rumors can be laid to rest.

the watchtower bible & tract society is moving its headquarters out of brooklyn heights and up to warwick, n.y.. we have submitted a proposal to the town of warwick to build a complex there that were calling the world headquarters of jehovahs witnesses, richard devine told the eagle tuesday.

AllTimeJeff

I agree with Lee... 9/11 started it... And now, they are going to reap a windfall that will keep them solvent for 10 years.

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Ice Dancing

by poopsiecakes in

wow!

some of the poses these people contort themselves into are borderline pornographic...and i kinda like it!.

is that wrong?

AllTimeJeff

I can't believe that the USA is doing so well, and Russia is sucking it right now!

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How do you respond to: "The whole world is lying in the power of the wicked one?"

by darthfader in

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i get this statement all the time from my jw family.

that this system is in satan's control.

or that "this or that" is put here to test our faith.

AllTimeJeff

I say that Bush was voted out of office...

Sorry, small joke....

This is to program you to see all the non JW world as evil, thats all. One of the first things you learn about "the world" is that it isn't nearly as evil as you heard it was.

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Threat of 1980 Rebellion/Schism--Real or Perceived?

by neverendingjourney in

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the way crisis of conscience lays it out, despite their reservations on doctrine, ray franz and ed dunlap would have been more than happy to live out their lives within the jw ranks without causing any disturbance.

ray was contemplating resigning from the gb and living out his life quietly somewhere outside bethel.

ed preferred to remain in bethel due to his advanced age.

AllTimeJeff

Well, does respect mean agreement? Or can I disagree? Because it isn't an opinion, I know that what Ray Franz is right, and your views, while you are entitled to them, are wrong.