baptized at 15 because forced into it.
i left the jw 2 years ago.
i should have left a long time ago.
Hi Jetery Honey,
Welcome! So sorry for what you have been through, but it gets better
I promise. You now are free to live your life and have no one to make
decisions that you can make better for yourself.
Here you will find new friends, moms, dads and grammas.
Love and hugs,
Velta
hey everyone!
just joined this board, but not new to boards of this sort.. the board i favored most just changed and i haven't rejoined (mainly because it sux now).. i have heard about this board for awhile, but this is the first time i ventured in.
just kinda.
Hi JezeBell
Welcome! When we first left the WT, my daughter-in-law told me that an elder told her the reason my family had left
the organization was because of my "Jezebelian spirit". I imagine that we are kindred spirits. hee hee
We have been out since 1983 so I guess I got the jump on you a few years. Would love to hear your story.
Love and hugs,
Velta
if the wts and jws were to dissolve, i'm sure many of us would have mixed emotions....elation that a destructive.
cult has finally lost its hold....joy at seeing family members embracing us as people once again...etc.. having been raised in it, i have so many little memories that have come to be like little collectibles on a shelf.. i'll give you one.
if anybody else remember these, i'll be surprised.
I remember when I was 10 or so going from door-to-door with the doorstep set-up.
We had these wind up phonographs with huge records of Judge Rutherford's talks.
We would go up to the door, say "Good Morning, I have a record I would like to play
for you", without looking up at the person so that they could refuse, start the record.
You often looked up to find a quietly closed doorI also carried a bag of books.
I must have been a funny sight, struggling up steps with this load.
I am sorry we got rid of that old brown phonograph, I saw one go on Ebay for several
hundreds of dollars. Dang! we had several of those. hee hee
Love and hugs,
Velta
just popping in to introduce myself, i am an exjw of 45 years and am looking forward to getting to know you.
i'm new to the internet so bear with me .
x. anne.
Hi Anna,
Thanks for your welcomes, I was a JW for 45 years, I joined at the age of 13 and left by dis-association at the age of 57. My family are still involved with the WT and so I have little contact with my son and grandchildren. Great to hear from all of you.
You sound like you could be me. I was a JW for about 45 years, from the time I was 7 until we left in 1983. My son and his family are JWs. He died last years, so I gues HE WAS, I am sure he is not one now.
I have 2 great-grandchildren, I have never seen. Also a sister and her family. It is so hard. Esp. when they talk about having unconditional love. http://www.showyflash.com/jw/greater/index.html
Welcome! Please share your story with us.
Love and hugs,
Velta
this is really torture sometimes.... he made a run for it from this site, went out in service for 2 days and is back into full-fledge more jw.... that totally sucks... ackkk... i wouldn't care so much if he wanted to be a jw, it's just he's always pressuring me to be it also and live my everyday life the way that he wants to me to live it.
i feel like i'm being totally controlled... .
this is not going to happen like this forever.
Hi Honey,
I think it is predictable. When a JW hears the things about the WT and even for a moment starts
to think, they start doubling their efforts to being a "good witness". I think they feel it will stop
their doubts if they throw themselves into meetings and service.
I have a friend, a Chistian, in New Mexico that has been married to an elder for over 25 years.
There are times when they will take off in their RV and travel (staying at Air Force Bases because
he is a vet) and just have a wonderful time with no arguments about the WT. But when they get
home, he goes to the meetings and goes gung-ho again. Needless to say she is very frustrated
and she says at times he gets emotionally abusive.
I would love to share MySpace with you. Mine is: myspace.com/grammavelta
I love you, Honey, Just hang in there,Put all your worries in the hands of Jesus and
he will give you peace and joy in the midst of the storm.
Gramma Velta
i never thought my live & let live attitude on religion would have screwed up things this bad.
i'm trying to help my wife find her way out, but i spoke with her tonite & she really believes in the "organization".
can i, in all honesty stay married to someone who essentially knows the bible, has read john 14, but believes the organization is your only path to salvation?
kzjw,
My husband and I were JWs for almost 50 years. When we left (I quit almost 3 months before my husband did) we still did
not agree that everything the WT taught was not the truth. To this day, even though we have both totally, mentally have left
the WT, we still do not agree on everything. I think that just loving and respecting one another is more important than what
you believe. There is hope for your marriage if you just decide to let go of the WT and your wife. What I mean is just love
her for who she is as a person and not what she believes about the WT. Do things together, don't take issue with her if
she wants to go to meetings or in field service. Just get your own life and when she is doing her thing, do yours.
Joe and I have been married almost 60 years. I know that people with totally different interests can live together and love
each other. You do not have to be bound at the hip.
Velta
i posted this in my profile but since i've never formally introduced myself, i thought i would print it here as well as my official "hello" message.
i am currently an active jw.
i don't want to be but the situation i am in doesn't allow me to do anything differently.
Dear Easy,
Thanks for posting your story. It can't be easy pretending. I could never do it. I really admire
those who are able to stay for their family.
There is a site called "My 6-Year Journey -- Out of the Watchtower by Jay Walter:
http://www.exjws.net/pioneers/partintro.htm
There is a part on this page that deals with his family. I thought it might give you some ideas.
http://www.exjws.net/pioneers/part5.htm
Velta
i'm a jw in good standing and she is too.
she has had a lot of questions.
now, i feel like there is a division between us.
Sarabi,
Welcome! My husband and I were JWs for almost 50 years. He was an Elder from 1947 until 1981.
When Holy Spirit shows you the truth, if you love God you will listen. This is what brought us out
of the Watchtower in 1983.
I have found Cognac to have a keen and inquiring mind. She loves God and wants to serve Him
in the way that the Bible teaches. Having questions is natural. Paul commended the Bereans for
this. She is seeking to do what she feels is right in God's eyes.
You can read our story at this site: www.geocities.com/veliveleth At the end there is a link to the transcript
of our Judicial Committee. You may find it interesting to see how a JC works.
Love and hugs,
Velta
dad, .
since our time on this planet is short, i wanted to take a moment and tell you that you were the person that i loved more than any other person in the world.
nothing has made me sadder than the events that have surrounded this last year; events that were years in the making yet in my mind were unavoidable.
Dawg, Honey,
That is such a beautiful letter. My heart was so touched.
I do not know what else you could say. Your heart is completely
open. Our family is so important to each one of us. It is hard to live with when they are so closed.
I am praying that your father's heart will be as touched as mine
was by your expression of love to him.
Love you so much,
Gramma Velta
if any of you have read her posts you know that she is going through a rough patch.
group hug, whaddya say??
?
Wings, Dear
Love and Hugs,
Gramma Velta
