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  The Good, The Bad and The Troll

  by outofthebox in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  the good.

  thanks everybody for your warm welcome days ago (http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/6/141779/1.ashx).

  we really enjoyed all your comments.

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  Welcome OOTB, I was a long long time lurker, still don't post much but I'm starting to know these people and having fun. That is part to why I am here. The JW Culture was my whole life. I knew nothing of the outside world so finding a group with similar background has been healing. I am angry, happy I'm out, sad for a life lost, searching and learning all that the same time. I joined earlier this year and kept all my personal info quiet but recently someone asked us to add 'a little something' to our profile so I did. What was I afraid of? I faded quietly but all in my area now know I am out and not coming back. Most of my extended family are JW and we have maintained a loving relationship but they are cooling and more distant all the time.

  You asked a good question. Do I say Amen over a prayer? I did put much thought into it and it depends on what is said. Usually the only JW prayers I hear are at family dinners and if it is just a thanking for the the food I do say Amen. But we did attend our son's public talk and I did not say Amen because expressions such as Faithful Slave, Orgainzation, Last Days, were said and I no longer agree with such teachings.

  Looking forward to knowing all of you better, your friend, tinker
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  What is the current position on WT study as a group?

  by tinker in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  has there been a crack down on group wt pre study.

  we had a regular group every sunday night for any or all teens back in the day - 60's.

  then raising children we had friends or other families on and off, get together for a group pre-study.

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  Has there been a crack down on group WT pre study. We had a regular group every Sunday night for any or all teens back in the day - 60's. Then raising children we had friends or other families on and off, get together for a group pre-study. Is that discouraged or not allowed these days?
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  Cemeteries; They're not Just for Burying, Anymore.

  by prophecor in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i live in a metropolitan area.

  crime is on a rampage in this city, in fact, we're #1 in the country as far as murders per capita statistic go.

  where does one go to find a safe outing for your morning jog, daily walk, or just to get away from all the hustle and bustle of the city life?

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  Warning: Danger Lurking in Forrest Lawn Memorial Park, Cypress, Cal.

  I know a sister who 'works' the cemetery in her ministy. She places literature with grieving people and even conducts Bible studies on the grave site. Just TOO Creepy for me.
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  A debate on childrens haircuts

  by tinker in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  without giving my personal opinion i would like to ask the board, 'what is your view of children with mowhawk haircuts'.

  our family has an ongoing debate as to what is considered an acceptable hairstyle for boys age 5-8. please be unbiased reguards what you may think is my personal feeling.

  your input would be greatly appriciated.

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  Hi All, I thought I would check back to see if we had a few more comments after I signed off yesterday. I must say, I did expect a few harsh words but it seems I got more than my fare share. I should have let you all know I was not telling the whole story. It is too personal and I become overly emotional.

  First of all, THANK YOU Burger time for sticking up for me. I did not say I would shun my grandchildren. I would never shun anyone, especially my own grandchildren. What I ment was that as for babysitting at no charge so my DIL can have some free time, I am considering quiting. I have not done this yet, just thinking. They would always be welcome to visit as a family. Our Casa is Their Casa.

  A couple comments on Rebellion. What do 5+7 yr olds have to rebel against? Rebellion is only OK when person is a victim of unjust treatment. These children and their parents are treated farely and with abundant love.

  Also I will defend myself by telling you that I am not making a big deal out of a haircut just for the sake of drama. The issue is respect not for just me but authority in general. It seems rebellion just for the fact of rebellion has become the fashion. Personally I see parenting as a serious responsibility that holds lives at stake. I do not interfer or lecture my children over their parenting styles. And I do not need to have my way or the highway.

  What I am struggling with is, how much does a grandparent or a parent take before they push back?
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  A debate on childrens haircuts

  by tinker in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  without giving my personal opinion i would like to ask the board, 'what is your view of children with mowhawk haircuts'.

  our family has an ongoing debate as to what is considered an acceptable hairstyle for boys age 5-8. please be unbiased reguards what you may think is my personal feeling.

  your input would be greatly appriciated.

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  well folks it's been fun. Thanks for all your imput, I have much to share with my husband and the rest of the family. We don't have a huge family but it seems everyone wants to add their 2cents. I needed to get out of that circle and ask you, an objective group, and you have all come through.

  Oh the DRAMA. I personal only want Drama on film. In my real life I keep it to issues of fun, happiness, educational and moderation in all things. Seems that is too boring for some.

  We are laying slate tile on our front porch so I must go lend a hand.

  The End
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  A debate on childrens haircuts

  by tinker in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  without giving my personal opinion i would like to ask the board, 'what is your view of children with mowhawk haircuts'.

  our family has an ongoing debate as to what is considered an acceptable hairstyle for boys age 5-8. please be unbiased reguards what you may think is my personal feeling.

  your input would be greatly appriciated.

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  thanks renee for your support here. Yes, it was the mothers idea and yes, um, hate to say it but she is a problem. I did take into consideration what you said early on about 'it's just hair, can grow back, pick you battles, etc. Really I think of myself as a pretty 'with it' grandma and I do not go out of my way to council or butt in on my childrens lives or marrages. It's just that they come into my house with their lifestyles and I feel I have the right to express my opinion. And I always do express myself in a kind, loving, warm way. I have been trying the 'nice' way for 3mo and it's not working. I'm kind of up against a wall and thinking of pulling out of the whole thing by saying 'if the hair does not go back to normal then they cannot come here'

  But who would be learning the lesson, who would this hurt? She would have to go find a babysitter and I would not have the pleasure of my grandsons.
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  A debate on childrens haircuts

  by tinker in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  without giving my personal opinion i would like to ask the board, 'what is your view of children with mowhawk haircuts'.

  our family has an ongoing debate as to what is considered an acceptable hairstyle for boys age 5-8. please be unbiased reguards what you may think is my personal feeling.

  your input would be greatly appriciated.

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  xwitless: Your words are my exact feelings. I do not feel children should be sent the message that rebellion is OK.
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  A debate on childrens haircuts

  by tinker in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  without giving my personal opinion i would like to ask the board, 'what is your view of children with mowhawk haircuts'.

  our family has an ongoing debate as to what is considered an acceptable hairstyle for boys age 5-8. please be unbiased reguards what you may think is my personal feeling.

  your input would be greatly appriciated.

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  This is really helpful. Certainly a cross section of opinions. I am the Grandmother of two boys 5+7. My daughter-in-law cut the boys hair in this style on the last day of school for a Summer Fun look. I have the children a few times a week to help out, plus I just want them to visit and play with. We have a great time mostly at home, in the yard, play pool and such. Occationally we go out in public for a little shopping or fast food so at those times I like the boys to have on clean cloths and be well behaved and CUTE----you know, show off my adorable grandsons.

  I mentioned that I did not like the haircuts and that if we go out could they please have on a hat. The DIL took offense and decided to argue with my son over me and my 'mean grandma' ways. My son stepped out of the issue and would not take sides, OK, fine but he did tell me he does not like the hair either. As was suggested I decided to choose my battles and went along thinking by the time school starts the hair would be grown out and back to 'normal' ......not so. Apparently the school is liberal and will not outlaw the style.

  I should explain also that I am XJW, my son DF, daughter-in-law never a JW. I suppose my JW background has something to do with idea of what is acceptable. But the bottom line is I just think the style is very low class, ugly, 'white trash' looking.

  I do wonder if little boys even understand the difference in a Superhero look or a street gang look. That is where the parenting comes in. Is is possible to teach what is acceptable in a moderate way. Not going to the extreme in any direction as in, 'we can play dress up like superheros but when we go out in the Real World we dress in a way that all people recognize as OK.

  It seems the families, in laws and outlaws are taking up sides, for and against and I'm stuck, Should I take a stand for my opinion or just let it go. It has been over 3 months now and I see no end in sight.
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  A debate on childrens haircuts

  by tinker in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  without giving my personal opinion i would like to ask the board, 'what is your view of children with mowhawk haircuts'.

  our family has an ongoing debate as to what is considered an acceptable hairstyle for boys age 5-8. please be unbiased reguards what you may think is my personal feeling.

  your input would be greatly appriciated.

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  Thanks...boy was that quick. I already feel better. Can I ask another part of the question? Is a mowhawk acceptable in your area schools?
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  A debate on childrens haircuts

  by tinker in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  without giving my personal opinion i would like to ask the board, 'what is your view of children with mowhawk haircuts'.

  our family has an ongoing debate as to what is considered an acceptable hairstyle for boys age 5-8. please be unbiased reguards what you may think is my personal feeling.

  your input would be greatly appriciated.

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  tinker

  Without giving my personal opinion I would like to ask the board, 'what is your view of children with mowhawk haircuts'

  Our family has an ongoing debate as to what is considered an acceptable hairstyle for boys age 5-8. Please be unbiased reguards what you may think is my personal feeling.

  Your input would be greatly appriciated.

  Thank you

  tinker