Posts by helncon

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How do you measure success compared to before?

by JH in

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as a jw, success meant pioneering, commenting at the hall and book study, and going up the jw ladder.. how about now, how do you mesure success and happiness?.

helncon

As you get older you tend to measure success in different ways in my teens i was just happy to be able to go out with friends and live life

In my 20's i wanted a good job and good company

Now starting in my 30's i measure my success to the fact that i have little to no regrets, a roof over my head, food on the table, happy healthy children and have little concern how others may think about me.

What i want in the future will just happen.

What happened in the past oh well can't change that now, just learn from it all.

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Fluff: What kind of music do you listen to?

by Guest with Questions in

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this is to be my one day off but i keep coming back here:.

i love a variety of music these are just a few of my favourites:.

not because im canadian but: neil young, joni mitchell, guess who (had a crush on burton cummings-(actually my husband and him looked a lot alike when they were young) gino vinelli,.

helncon

Well for me it has to be hard rock/metal.

Metallica, drowning pool, nirvana, staind,saliva

I don't mind a few top 40 songs either

37

US SUPREME COURT RULED AGAINST PARTIAL BIRTH ABORTIONS

by juni in

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and i say thank god that this abhorrent practice is not legal any longer.. i don't feel rowe vs. wade (the right of a women to an abortion) should be banned, but definitely partial birth abortions should be.. am i for willy nilly abortion?

but if there were ever a situation say a woman's health was in jeapordy i feel she should have the right to a legal ending of her pregnancy.. for those that choose abortion as a means of birth control or some other lame reason, i believe that is wrong.. how do you feel?.

juni .

helncon

Abortions is a personal thing and each woman to their own.

For me this is an absolute NO! I couldn't go through with it even if i know it will have severe abnormalites.

I went to a clinic with an ex friend years ago i was just mortified of the young girls that were in there getting done i swear they were no more than 20! I was so upest by the experience i just couldn't stay friends with this person even though she never went through with it for whatever reason ( the reason she told me was that it was too early).

I do take acception with partially delivering a living baby and then poking something up in it's skull to suck out the brain. This is barbaric. What? They don't want to look the tiny baby in the eye while they suck its brain out?

Who would do a thing like this, this is so barbaric for this centry.

If this is the case why not adopt the child out than do this.

Helen

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It's crazyblondeb's birthday too...

by Abandoned in

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shelley.

have a happy birthday shelley.. youre a kind and caring friend.. just like warm food in the belly,.

youre a lady who transcends.. when someone else is tired,.

helncon

Happy Birthday

Shelly!

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What would you do???

by Es in

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hey there, im kinda looking for some guidance here, i had a very close friend, she was actually one of my bridesmaids at my wedding, she's a little messed up but never the less we had a good friendship until i told her i was pregnant....!

it was no secret i was trying we had told everyone that we wanted to start trying after our wedding, but anyway when i told her her response was " oh, ok congratulations" and that was it, for the 9 months i was pregnant i reckon she asked me twice if i was ok and how it was going, all her text msg were about her and what was happening in her life.

she has come no where near us since i have had kaia, she hasnt seen her once and kaia is coming up to 6 months old.

helncon

HI Es,

It sounds like you would be a great friend.

I wouldn't really worry about how she has acted towards you and your family some people just get a little strange when you have something that they want. But it was a bit rude of her sending a pressy via mail when she said she was coming over. Who knows she may just not have been able come over (maybe jelous but that shouldn't get in the way of friendship)

You could confront her and ask why and how come you are no longer in the wedding party. If not just go for her day and enjoy it.

It would all depend how much you value your friendship with this person.

But it can only be you that can decide.

Helen

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Do You Still Act Like A Jehovah's Witness?

by prophecor in

i'm not very far removed, any longer from how i presented myself as a witness, and how i do today.

i'm usually polite, cordial, respectful of others, even those who i may have very little regard for or those who on a regular basis, piss me off.

i work very hard not to use foul language.

helncon

I have been out for many years but i still have some of the values that i had learnt while still in.

I don't see the need to get dressed perfectly everytime i step out the front door but as long as it is neat and tidy.

The hardest thing over the many years and still to this day i cannot say happy birthday, merry christmas, bless you and happy easter.

I still can't go to carols by candlelight and sing the carols even though i do know them, i can't sing the national anthem even i know that too.

Even i cant say these to my own children!

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X-Wife Got Married Yesterday........Our Son is Shunned Today!

by new boy in

my wife left me 5 years ago when i left the jehovah's witnesses.

she got remarried saturday to one of "our" old jehovah's witness friends jay .

jay's wife, judy died 6 months ago of cancer.

helncon

New boy i can sympathise with you.

what the JWs do to families are wrong.

I will be going through the same thing next weekend but it will be I that will be shunned.

It was a good stand by you daughter.

Helen

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What is your favorite TV show?

by averyniceguy in

helncon

House

Medium

Miami ink

Mc clouds daughters

Gordon ramsey's shows the f word and now hells kitchen

CSI

CSI miami

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Happy Friday 13th! Are you superstitious about anything?

by Crumpet in

a friend kindly pointed out it was friday 13th!!!

now i am not normally superstitious about anything, but i try and avoid going out on a full moon and am not overly keen on friday 13th.

i know its irrational but hey - i'm female (sorry that was a bad joke)!.

helncon

Nope.

But this year i was more jumpy than ever for this friday 13th.

My grandfather was haveing surgery today i was hoping that nothing would happen. But thankfully everything is ok but it was on the back of my mind.

The other thing not really related to friday the 13th is the full moon, for some reason some people just act mad on this night as where i used to work you just knew it was the full moon.

Helen

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How do you guys know that standing firm won't work

by dawg in

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friends

so, many of you have rightfully challenged my beliefs that standing firm and telling your families exactly what you feel about the wtbts won't work.... i submit that it doesn't work becasue we don't stand together!

if all of us would stand firm say what we know to be true, do it publically, and not back down then i guarentee you there are many in the congs that want out of this crap and their just too scared to do anything becasue they don't want to lose their families.

in my family there are many that call me privately and tell me they know the wt is a crock of shit but won't stand up against it!

helncon

I agree with junction guy,

Its the fear of loosing your family and friends that you may have made in the many years you have been in as you have shunned all the "worldy' friends.

I have made great new friends and they 'adopted' us into their family so its great at the holiday times when the rest of your own family don't want anything to do with you.

Sometimes i just want to shake the rest of my family and tell them the real truth but i guess they have to work it out themselves

Helen